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So I am juggling 2 girls. Strictly sexual. Both have stated that they don't mind, but they don't want to be "competing" with other women, as I am the only guy they're fuging with (neither of those conversations were started by me...they like pillow-talk, apparently). UNCP isn't necessarily the largest campus ever, and I had a close call with them tonight.

Any strategies for keeping this from blowing up in my face? Do I turn one away and tell her we should keep it to a verbal friendship so that I guarantee the other? Would really hate to have dry nights in my future. :(



Side note: I realize that this is a good problem to have.
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[quote name='XLightsOutX']So I am juggling 2 girls. Strictly sexual. Both have stated that they don't mind, but they don't want to be "competing" with other women, as I am the only guy they're fuging with (neither of those conversations were started by me...they like pillow-talk, apparently). UNCP isn't necessarily the largest campus ever, and I had a close call with them tonight.

Any strategies for keeping this from blowing up in my face? Do I turn one away and tell her we should keep it to a verbal friendship so that I guarantee the other? Would really hate to have dry nights in my future. :(



Side note: I realize that this is a good problem to have.[/QUOTE]

pIcS?

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[quote name='XLightsOutX']So I am juggling 2 girls. Strictly sexual. Both have stated that they don't mind, but they don't want to be "competing" with other women, as I am the only guy they're fuging with (neither of those conversations were started by me...they like pillow-talk, apparently). UNCP isn't necessarily the largest campus ever, and I had a close call with them tonight.

Any strategies for keeping this from blowing up in my face? Do I turn one away and tell her we should keep it to a verbal friendship so that I guarantee the other? Would really hate to have dry nights in my future. :(



Side note: I realize that this is a good problem to have.[/QUOTE]

Bottom line, if you keep fucking them both it will eventually blow up in your face. If you want to salvage a relationship with one of them then you need to pick one and run with it. If you don't care about the future with either then enjoy the present but be prepared for the fallout.

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pick one, it will always blow up in your face.. have fun.

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I have a hard time thinking you are their only guy. They are floating some trial ballons to see your reaction. It might seem like Cinemax now but it can have long lasting effects. Trust issues not withstanding. I prefer vip treatment myself because its just less stress and drama. Take this from a retired player. Lol

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"you're the only guy"
and you tell them "you're the only girl"

ahh, youth
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Old married guy here. I was going to give you some sound advice based on my college stories back in the day, but instead I'll just say the obligatory

pics
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it
didn't
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Back in Nov/Dec i was juggling two ladies at once. Both were fun and had their strong points. I finally settled on just one. Hey it was fun but lets face it i'm not 22 anymore plus dating only one female is easier on the wallet.

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Arent you the guy that got dumped a few weeks ago? I see things are looking up...

If you have feelings for one of the girls, then you need to break it off with the other one, before she finds out.

If you dont really care about either of them, then keep it up because one day you will be an old man, and you wont ever have the oppertunity again.

Some advice though. You need to keep this to yourself. Definately dont go bragging about it to your friends because there is a good chance that one of your friends might have feelings for one of the girls, and will be a hater and tell her what you are doing. Just dont tell anybody because juicy rumors like that get around, and it will get back to one of the girls soon.

Another reason to keep quiet is because a true player never brags about it. You dont want word getting around campus that you are a dog because one day you might finally meet a girl that you really like, but she may know about your 'reputation' and never give you a chance.

Basically, enjoy it, and if you want it to last, keep your mouth shut.


One more thing... Always meet the girls at their place. Dont have the girls come to your house, because that adds to the risk that the other girl may decide to 'drop by' on a surprize visit, especially if she suspects something.

Accomplishing this is easy. Since you live on campus, just tell the girls that your roommates are mega-nerds, and that everyone agreed to not invite company over so that the dorm is a quiet environment for everyone to study.

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You aren't the only guy.

Don't let your overconfidence consume you.

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[quote name='ladypanther'][B][COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]You are a foolish jerk. IMO[/COLOR][/B][/QUOTE]

women are foolish jerks too... IMO

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[quote name='bleys']women are foolish jerks too... IMO[/QUOTE]

[B][COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]Painting with a broad brush there aren't you??[/COLOR][/B]

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I don't think you're a foolish jerk. However I do think you need to either pick one or come clean to them both. I've been in a similar situation before I met my husband. I ended up picking the guy that was the least crazy. It worked out for a while and then I moved on eventually. Later I met the one I married.
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[quote name='ladypanther'][B][COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]Painting with a broad brush there aren't you??[/COLOR][/B][/QUOTE]

perhaps.. and without knowing anything real about the situation or these girls while reading a thread on a message board, how exactly would you label your comment?
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Women are just as guilty at stuff like this, they just dont think that we know. That is why I wont commit to one until I have been 'seeing' her for at least 4 or 5 months. They are just as likely to have an ex that they are still fugging, or even a boyfriend that they havent even broke up with, just waiting to find someone better.
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[quote name='bleys']pick one, and blow one on her face.. have fun.[/QUOTE]


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You're in college - a time for making mistakes, learning and experimentation. Keep doing what you're doing and should they find out about each other, the only logical next move is to propose a threeway.
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Thanks for the replies.


I think I've settled to cutting one off. She's starting to cling a bit, and I explained before we did anything that I am coming out of a long relationship and a rough break up, so I didn't really want to get too serious with anybody. She just seems way too infatuated after one date and a few nights of fun.

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[quote name='pstall']I have a hard time thinking you are their only guy. They are floating some trial ballons to see your reaction. It might seem like Cinemax now but it can have long lasting effects. Trust issues not withstanding. I prefer vip treatment myself because its just less stress and drama. Take this from a retired player. Lol[/QUOTE]


Oh, trust me, I have thought about that. I am fairly certain, at least with one, that she's just testing me. The other I actually believe (she's the clingy one). Just a weird spot. I could see myself possibly in the future dating the clingy one exclusively, but right now it just wouldn't work.

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Your not gonna marry either anyway so you might as well bust a nut and bounce

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Sex every night? Sounds like a lot of work without any sammichs

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[quote name='Irv']Your not gonna marry either anyway so you might as well bust a nut and bounce[/QUOTE]


True. Just been nice. Trying to relearn everything.

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[quote name='Panthro']Sex every night? Sounds like a lot of work without any sammichs[/QUOTE]


It has been tough. No sammichs makes every time seem incomplete. :(

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It's really a win win.

1. They find out, and agree to a threesome.
2. They find out, hate your guts, but you've brought these two ladies together and made a friendship that will last forever.


Either way, you feel good about the outcome.

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C) They tell every girl at Pembroke and youre stuck fucking townies

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