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If you are ok with her cheating in the future or you have an open relationship then that's fine.

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If I were you, and you cared enough, then I would even try to get custody.

We have equal custody. I only have her three days a week though because I manage a restaurant and work nights. I live by myself and don't really have any friends or family in the area that could watch her while I work.

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Ah okay...

I'd still say no.

I'd do everything in your power to help your ex, but I wouldn't get back involved in a relationship or any sort of live-in arrangement. In fact, I'd stop with the dickings altogether.

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Bronn is correct. Self discipline and sacrifice are big parts of being a parent. You do not have the responsibilities of a husband anymore. But you are obligated to be a father. The daughter could live with me until the mother finds stability in her own life, and then we'd let the daughter decide who she wants to live with at that point. The childs stability is priority #1. but I'd stop sleeping with the mother asap.

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Ah okay...

I'd still say no.

I'd do everything in your power to help your ex, but I wouldn't get back involved in a relationship or any sort of live-in arrangement. In fact, I'd stop with the dickings altogether.

 

This ^^^ buddy.

 

she thinks she can have the best of both worlds, and if you let her move back, that will just confirm to her that she can.

 

us wimmenz be fuging crazy, I will admit that no problem. Shes gonna play games no matter what so you shouldn't just play right into that.

 

PLUS, Bronn kind of hit on this, but I really hope your daughter is too young to understand what's going on and I hope none of this is being played out in front of her. She doesn't need to know that her mom has been sleeping around with other guys and then see her doing the same with you. It certainly wouldn't set a good example.

 

 

oh, and yes you be crazy. you are the only person I've ever known to come down to training camp on your own, meet random people, go out to a random ass party, and go to some random ass lady's house to smoke a bowl. 

 

made for a GREAT training camp thread though, and great story telling for me and Kurbz      :D

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Does the baby momma work?

 

What kind of job?

 

What kind of pay?

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If you can't forgive her of what she has done, then ya shouldn't let her move back in.

It doesn't matter if she earns your trust or not.

I know that sounds crazy, but this has more to do with your feelings and thought process.

Forgiving her won't be as difficult as it seems, if you love her in any way.

Having your daughter back would be awesome, so I'd find a way to forgive the momma, and pray for the best.

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Well yeah, she's my daughter's mother so I'll always love her in some way. But here's the deal. She cheated on me and left me for some other guy. Then over the entire almost two year period that she's living with the guy, she's fuging me still. She had plenty of chances to come back to me, but now that this guy has decided that he's done with the relationship, she wants to come back home? How can I ever just get over that poo, and can I really ever trust her?

 

Sad truth man, no, you cannot. Once that trust is broken, it can never be the same again. Deep down you know this. It sucks, I know.

 

It's a tough situation all around, but the worst thing you can do right now is start a dysfunctional relationship (no offense, but it sounds to be a matter of when, and not if, due to her history) with her again, and have your daughter right in the middle of it watching it unfold.

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Another vote for no.

 

Think about who you want to be waking up with on a random Tuesday in 5 years and go with that

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No that many bars and restaurants in Shallotte... so I won't ask as I'm down there a few times a month.....

 

Anyway, forgiveness is very huge my friend. But the bottom line is the forgiveness may come from your head, but your heart has to trust again. And the question must be answered once and for all before you allow her back into your life. Can you trust her?

 

Then add your daughter to the equation. How much can you forgive and how much trust are you willing to compromise for the sake of giving your daughter a home?

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Does the baby momma work?

 

What kind of job?

 

What kind of pay?

 

She manages the restaurant that I used to manage for a golf course. 

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Well yeah, she's my daughter's mother so I'll always love her in some way. But here's the deal. She cheated on me and left me for some other guy. Then over the entire almost two year period that she's living with the guy, she's fuging me still. She had plenty of chances to come back to me, but now that this guy has decided that he's done with the relationship, she wants to come back home? How can I ever just get over that poo, and can I really ever trust her?

Take it from a sales guy, get out of this sink hole.

Be there for your daughter but stay away from this chick. She just loves the D and you just love the poon. There's plenty of poon out there (unless you're Big A).

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