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What should I do?

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If she comes to stay and it's agreed that we aren't going to rehash our relationship then it has to be temporary. I can't imagine a scenario with us both trying to date other people while living together. 

 

"Hey girl, you want to come back to my place? I have a roommate but she's probably asleep..."

 

"Who's your roommate?"

 

"My baby momma..."

 

"No.....I think I have to mow my lawn in the morning..."

 

So it's either relationship or don't live together.  That makes sense.

 

You gotta decide if you want her back then... no one can make that decision.

 

 

Based on what you've said, and what I know, I'd say let it go and move on.  Don't make a decision about a relationship with this girl solely on the fact that she's your daughters mother and/or how it will affect your relationship with your daughter.

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To steal something from BBT that actually makes sense:

 

Flip a coin. You will either be excited or upset about the results, and that will tell you your true feelings.  Or something like that. lol

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JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!!!

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TBQH bro, I would tell her no...

 

At the very worst, she'll get mad at you for a while or whatever. DO NOT let her play your daughter as some sort of bargaining chip.

 

It sounds to me like, if you let her come back, you're going to be an enabler for her continued poor decisions.

She doesn't care about you enough to make it work before, and it sounds like she's a user. She'd likely come back until she found someone else she wanted to use and then take off again.

Don't let her use you, and you'll feel better about yourself in the end.

Your daughter needs stability, and it sounds like you can provide that more than her mom can, despite your past. If I were you, and you cared enough, then I would even try to get custody.

 

Not trying to judge you at all, but you gotta step up and be your girl's daddy no matter what her crazy mom is doing.

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If you are ok with her cheating in the future or you have an open relationship then that's fine.

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If I were you, and you cared enough, then I would even try to get custody.

We have equal custody. I only have her three days a week though because I manage a restaurant and work nights. I live by myself and don't really have any friends or family in the area that could watch her while I work.

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Ah okay...

I'd still say no.

I'd do everything in your power to help your ex, but I wouldn't get back involved in a relationship or any sort of live-in arrangement. In fact, I'd stop with the dickings altogether.

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Bronn is correct. Self discipline and sacrifice are big parts of being a parent. You do not have the responsibilities of a husband anymore. But you are obligated to be a father. The daughter could live with me until the mother finds stability in her own life, and then we'd let the daughter decide who she wants to live with at that point. The childs stability is priority #1. but I'd stop sleeping with the mother asap.

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Ah okay...

I'd still say no.

I'd do everything in your power to help your ex, but I wouldn't get back involved in a relationship or any sort of live-in arrangement. In fact, I'd stop with the dickings altogether.

 

This ^^^ buddy.

 

she thinks she can have the best of both worlds, and if you let her move back, that will just confirm to her that she can.

 

us wimmenz be fuging crazy, I will admit that no problem. Shes gonna play games no matter what so you shouldn't just play right into that.

 

PLUS, Bronn kind of hit on this, but I really hope your daughter is too young to understand what's going on and I hope none of this is being played out in front of her. She doesn't need to know that her mom has been sleeping around with other guys and then see her doing the same with you. It certainly wouldn't set a good example.

 

 

oh, and yes you be crazy. you are the only person I've ever known to come down to training camp on your own, meet random people, go out to a random ass party, and go to some random ass lady's house to smoke a bowl. 

 

made for a GREAT training camp thread though, and great story telling for me and Kurbz      :D

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Does the baby momma work?

 

What kind of job?

 

What kind of pay?

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