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#31 pantherclaw

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 01:44 PM

If you can't forgive her of what she has done, then ya shouldn't let her move back in.

It doesn't matter if she earns your trust or not.
I know that sounds crazy, but this has more to do with your feelings and thought process.

Forgiving her won't be as difficult as it seems, if you love her in any way.

Having your daughter back would be awesome, so I'd find a way to forgive the momma, and pray for the best.

#32 TheRed

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 01:53 PM

Well yeah, she's my daughter's mother so I'll always love her in some way. But here's the deal. She cheated on me and left me for some other guy. Then over the entire almost two year period that she's living with the guy, she's fuging me still. She had plenty of chances to come back to me, but now that this guy has decided that he's done with the relationship, she wants to come back home? How can I ever just get over that poo, and can I really ever trust her?

 

Sad truth man, no, you cannot. Once that trust is broken, it can never be the same again. Deep down you know this. It sucks, I know.

 

It's a tough situation all around, but the worst thing you can do right now is start a dysfunctional relationship (no offense, but it sounds to be a matter of when, and not if, due to her history) with her again, and have your daughter right in the middle of it watching it unfold.



#33 Happy Panther

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 01:55 PM

Another vote for no.

 

Think about who you want to be waking up with on a random Tuesday in 5 years and go with that



#34 Anybodyhome

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 02:11 PM

No that many bars and restaurants in Shallotte... so I won't ask as I'm down there a few times a month.....

 

Anyway, forgiveness is very huge my friend. But the bottom line is the forgiveness may come from your head, but your heart has to trust again. And the question must be answered once and for all before you allow her back into your life. Can you trust her?

 

Then add your daughter to the equation. How much can you forgive and how much trust are you willing to compromise for the sake of giving your daughter a home?



#35 Floppin

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 11:12 PM

Does the baby momma work?

 

What kind of job?

 

What kind of pay?

 

She manages the restaurant that I used to manage for a golf course. 



#36 SCP

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 11:40 PM

Well yeah, she's my daughter's mother so I'll always love her in some way. But here's the deal. She cheated on me and left me for some other guy. Then over the entire almost two year period that she's living with the guy, she's fuging me still. She had plenty of chances to come back to me, but now that this guy has decided that he's done with the relationship, she wants to come back home? How can I ever just get over that poo, and can I really ever trust her?


Take it from a sales guy, get out of this sink hole.

Be there for your daughter but stay away from this chick. She just loves the D and you just love the poon. There's plenty of poon out there (unless you're Big A).

#37 SCP

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 11:42 PM

Then again what do I know. I've been arguing the origin of the word "fap".

#38 NanuqoftheNorth

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Posted 25 April 2014 - 11:45 PM

Take it from a sales guy, get out of this sink hole.

Be there for your daughter but stay away from this chick. She just loves the D and you just love the poon. There's plenty of poon out there (unless you're Big A).


This ^^^ is good advice.

You would do well to listen to it.

#39 thefuzz

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Posted 26 April 2014 - 11:15 AM

She manages the restaurant that I used to manage for a golf course. 

 

Gotcha.

 

Good luck bud, I'm not really sure what to tell you, but be careful, and wrap that thing up for sure.



#40 Hawk

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Posted 28 April 2014 - 04:25 PM

well...consdiering your past, you should probably be doing hard time for contributing to the poo society we all get to live in thanks to the abuse of drugs...but I digress!

 

 

relationships are built on trust.....fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me...of course it's different with a child in the middle....but you need to ask yourself...what kind of parents will you both be if all you do is constantly yell and scream at each other and fight.  Not saying that is what you will do...I'm just playing the odds here.

 

Good luck...and remember...at the end of the day...it doesn't matter what's best for your or your ex....it really should be all about that little girl!




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