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Not one single suggestion that she talk to her roommate?

She needs a heart to heart with the roommate. If they work it out, fine, otherwise the roommate needs to take over the lease herself.

Or, make the guy an offer he cant refuse.

If the roommate puts up with him hitting her and still lets him be her boyfriend, then nothing that the sister says to the roommate will do any good.

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I suggest doing the following:

Next time he takes over the living room, have her call you. Get a group of your friends and head over to her apartment and take over the living room. Crowd the couch, take over the remote, etc., etc. Don't be overly aggressive, just tell him that your TV is busted and that you need to finish watching Bassmasters on their TV instead of whatever bowl game he's watching. You will either goad him into a fight, or he will punk out. If he pushes back, beat the hell out of him. If he backs down, do the 'unplanned visit' a few more times for good measure so that he gets the point. You don't have to slug him in the mouth, you just need let him know that you and your friends are only a phone call away.

In the meantime, help your sister get out of her lease and find a new place. It sucks that she's in that situation, but like Cosmo said, any girl that will stick around after a guy has hit her is not going to be easily convinced to dump him.

And like pstall mentioned, PM us if you need any help. Guys who bully women are the worst type of scum.

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My sister has had talks with her roommate, and I guess tonight was just it all being blown up. He uses my sister's stuff, like food he doesn't pay for, and doesn't even clean up after himself. He'll let pots and pans stay out for 3 or 4 days at a time before he cleans them up or my sister gets so tired of seeing and smelling them that she cleans them up. Runs the dishwasher and does laundry at like 3 in the morning, which I guess can be aggravating if you're trying to sleep, etc. My sister's roommate said "Well this is my apartment, too, and he can come over when he wants." And to an extent, I think she's right. But there has to be some kind of boundary. He doesn't LIVE there, and if he does come over/spend the night, which is perfectly ok in my book, and my sister's as well, he shouldn't treat the place like he DOES live there. And he should respect the people that actually DO live there. Him being there already costs them overages on their water and electric allowances every month. It's one of those student-housing places but not affiliated with the university, so it's an all-inclusive rent and you pay by the room.I've met them both, and as a matter of fact I have a class with the boyfriend on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

We'll see what happens tomorrow. My sister came over here for a couple hours, and as of a couple minutes ago, he still hasn't apologized to her.

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He can come over whenever sure, but the roomate is responsible for everything he does. The roomate needs to answer for your sister's food. The roomate needs to answer for the unacceptable noise levels. The roomate needs to answer for the mess in the sink. The roomate should be responsible for the extra utlities, but good luck.

Anytime the sister confronts the boyfriend, nothing good will come of it. She needs to deal with the roomate. If the roomate is unresponsive to your sister's needs, then it's time for a new roomate. Understanding that it's not resonable to expect the boyfriend to come over less, only that the problems he's creating are addressed.

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Walk into the apartment and beat the shit out of him.

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You guys have guns in that country for a reason, right?

I'm just kiddin', Delhommey's on the right lines here.

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UNCC FTL what a bunch of douchebags at this school...I am starting to get pissed off and this isn't even my sister!

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Cyanide...TNT....high voltage!

Dirty deeds DONE DIRT CHEAP

Dirty deeds DONE DIRT CHEAP

Dirty deeds DONE DIRT CHEAP

Dirty deeds and they're done dirt cheap

Call Tommy Jone. Him end Jake's career.

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Walk into the apartment and beat the shit out of him.

Cosigned

Don;t just beat the poo out of him...beat the poo out of him right out the door and into the parking lot.

Simple enough to tell the police he threatened your sister and put his hands on her.

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I would assume with an explanation to the landlord and a situation of potentially explosive nature, said landlord SHOULD make it easy for her to break the lease, and maybe even help her relocate, possibly to another property owned by the landlord.

Maybe at a reduced rate.

Violence, while almost warranted here since it involves threats and mistreatment of a women, COULD just get you in hot water and allow this prig to make your life miserable legally.

He isn't worth it.

She needs to get out, and it might not even be a bad idea to have an attorney friend/law student present when the meeting with the landlord occurs.

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Cosigned

Don;t just beat the poo out of him...beat the poo out of him right out the door and into the parking lot.

Simple enough to tell the police he threatened your sister and put his hands on her.

Assemble the team.

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Cosigned

Don;t just beat the poo out of him...beat the poo out of him right out the door and into the parking lot.

Simple enough to tell the police he threatened your sister and put his hands on her.

That'd be my temper talking, too. Except I'd end the beating by hitting him with something embarrassing, like one of the dirty spatulas he didn't clean. Just to make it even worse.

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