Exactly. My wife/best friend all but threw her panties at me and I still didn't get the hint. It took the subtlety of using a flame thrower to light a candle to get me to notice. Guys are dense when it comes to hints. If there is something you want, just friggin say it.
So..if I should say what I want...sending a message saying "I think you are really hot and just my type and I would really like to take all your clothes off and do bad bad things, and can you please break up with your girlfriend now?"
wouldn't be coming on too strong?