Also, in response to a question on how to escape the friend zone...
Okay, this is the last time I’m going to write about men stuck in platonic friendships with women they want to date. After today, I’m bookmarking it and just referring future questions to this link.
Here’s the deal. Women are wonderful creatures. I adore them. They smell nice, they have body parts I enjoy touching, and they’re vital to the survival of our species. So please take the following advice NOT as misogyny gone awry, but as a warning of a habit that many people of the fairer gender have. I’ll even put it in italics so that future generations can find it more easily:
Women LOVE attention. They absolutely crave it. Attention from a man feeds their ego and improves their self-image, which is important because women are constantly judged on how they look, and porn/Victoria’s Secret/fashion magazines blah blah blah. The thing is, while YOU think that a woman responding to your texts and chats is a sign that she might sleep with you, SHE’s just enjoying the fact that a man is giving her attention. Yes, even if she has a boyfriend. Yes, even if she’s flirting with you. She doesn’t need sex; she wants your time, your precious minutes and hours.
The best way to make inroads in this kind of relationship is to take away what she wants: you paying attention to her. Don’t respond to texts for a day. Don’t sign into chat — or, better, ignore her. This will make her wonder if she did something wrong, or if she somehow became unattractive to you, thus making YOU more attractive to her. This opens the door to the possibility of you having a sexual relationship, but what will DEFINITELY happen is that someone who isn’t interested in you will no longer be wasting your time.