true, you probably haven't, but it sounds like your argument is that no marriage is a civil right, but that seems to be in disagreement with a court case. I don't think marriage is just about the monetary benefits. There is more to it than that.
If marriage is a Civil Right, then its a restricted one since there are some restrictions placed on marriage, (and not just on gay marriage). On most rights, the only restrictions are for public safety or security or something like that (for example freedom of speech). But marriage has restrictions on it above and beyond those things. Society has placed restrictions on it, but since society is changing in its outlook on gay marriage, thats one restriction that is slowly changing. But it will probably take a few years for the law to catch up with society.