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I cheated on my fiancé

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^^ This! I am 90% sure my ex cheated on me, which lead to her breaking up with me. She strung that out for 3 months, if it's true (I mean, she mentioned meeting the guy in August of last year, and spoke of him occasionally, and then broke up with me in December and was out on a date with him within 3 weeks and has been dating him since May...yeah). That hurt like a bitch, and only amplified my pain (we were together for 5 years and I was considering proposing myself). So, good on him for fuging up, owning it when he was caught, and ending it quickly. She'll hurt for a shorter amount of time and come out of it (hopefully) with a sense of "well, at least he did it quickly".

Now...the bad news. By letting her hear it from somebody else and not you, you may have screwed future chances of getting back with her, if you decide that you want to. Sure, the old "I cheated, let's just sweep this under the rug and hope it never comes up" routine is par for the course, but you couldn't have thought that would happen with a mutual friend. Should have told her Sunday morning as soon as you saw her or as soon as you could get to a phone. But, that's all hindsight. The fact that she was willing to work through it after it all says a lot. Hope everything works out for the both of you, whether that be permanently going your separate ways or ending up together again.

I don't know the full situation, but it generally doesn't surprise me that a woman was lining up other options if she'd been with a man for 5 years and he was still only thinking about proposing.

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I don't know the full situation, but it generally doesn't surprise me that a woman was lining up other options if she'd been with a man for 5 years and he was still only thinking about proposing.

College, man. She just graduated college in May and I am still a year and a half to two years away myself.

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I'm so glad that I'm 20, have no commitments, and don't care about anything.

I'm sure you'll go far in life.

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Keep banging them both. Tell your future wife if she really loves you, she'd do a 3 way with the other girl! (Mulitple Times!)

Don't send me nasty PMs!

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If you cheated on her with her friend....I don't buy being drunk as an excuse. You clearly just didn't want to marry her....now you won't. No biggie.

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Yeah, because not getting married when I'm 20 really has a baring on how well I do in life.

He's talking about when you said you don't care about anything

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