& I pointed out that with poo like I mentioned going on, it ain't now & until we leave crap like that behind it's not going to be, because it slants the field against me & more importantly my son.
You teach your son to treat people as he'd like to be treated and don't speak ill about people in front of him. No one is infallible. My son (8) and my daughter (11) have never heard my wife or I utter any racial slur. Period. I've grown up with and known people that do. They understand how we raise our children and I'll be damned if I'll have them grow up understanding something other than what they view in their own life experience. Even in politics, I've never told my kids I'm a republican. My wife was a democrat and now is unaffiliated. We purposefully do not discuss, outside of individual subjects, what our party affiliation is and push one line. In fact, when the debates were going on, my son and I were sitting on the bed watching it and he asked why you watch them. I, internally, knew who I was voting for, but I explained you watch both sides and you come to a determination on who you vote for based on what's important to you and their stance on those issues. I could've gone down the ignorant route and just explained that you do this because our people do "this" or "that". I want them to get as much as they can from the life experience.
Now...saying all that...I'm sadly seeing situations in his elementary school where disciplinary issues arise in kids in his class (not him...he's a freaking rule follower to the nth degree). I would be lying to you if I'd say less than 8 times out of 10, the child has a recognizable cultural name. I explain to my kid that maybe he has issues at home that he doesn't understand...or doesn't understand what he's doing is wrong...or needs encouragement when he may not understand what's seemingly coming so easy for him. Never do I make it about race. But at some point in his life, these experiences are going to write human naturee-esque equivocations in his head despite my insistence he judge everyone by their own actions. There's only so much you can do to raise a child and when you let them go, you hope you've instilled a sense of love in them that they are obvlivious to crap like race, gender, religous belief, sexual orientation, etc.