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Disciplining Children

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I have also been tryin askin my son what the punishment should be the next time he does something wrong. Let them choose the punishment, I have to agree of course, but I feel that drives it home a bit more...

My kids have already learned that Daddy is the hardass & Mommy is not. Too many times my wife makes excuses for the kids behavior, too many times have I let them have their way. It only makes it worse when I tell her to deal with it, Im going out to my garage, Im not going to deal wiht it then. The worst part is that I know this is a big contributor to the problem, and kick myself when I do let it go because my doing that only makes it worse later on...

I do appreciate the sentiment, though, good to know Im not the only one feelin this way....

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crate train them!

i kid.

the best solution is a long, boring talk about why what they did is wrong, and the consequences if they do it next time, and following through with those consequences imo. put them on work release, ie, grounded from video games and entertainment and friends and distractions until the entire house is clean to your specifications, mow an elderly neighbor's yard for free, etc etc

most discipline problems come from inaction, or inconsistent punishment. disciplining a child is a 24/7/365 job, and constructive discipline is the best from what i've seen.

but i'm allergic to children so wtf would i know

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I was such a bad teenager growing up and the one thing that stuck with me was my mom emotionally hurting me.

I remember getting home and getting through the door and my mom was sitting at the kitchen table with all her friends. She yelled out about 5 times "I hate that boy. That boy right there I hate him."

I was so hurt and embarrassed. I sat down that night and asked myself, "Why does my mom hate me?'' Good thing I was able to realize because I was a bad kid.

Needless to say, I think i'm my mom's favorite today.

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my kids are perfect, no discipline required

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thats cause there is nothin to do in Canada to get in trouble... other than indiscretions with a moose, but it was lying, right?

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I have also been tryin askin my son what the punishment should be the next time he does something wrong. Let them choose the punishment, I have to agree of course, but I feel that drives it home a bit more...

My kids have already learned that Daddy is the hardass & Mommy is not. Too many times my wife makes excuses for the kids behavior, too many times have I let them have their way. It only makes it worse when I tell her to deal with it, Im going out to my garage, Im not going to deal wiht it then. The worst part is that I know this is a big contributor to the problem, and kick myself when I do let it go because my doing that only makes it worse later on...

I do appreciate the sentiment, though, good to know Im not the only one feelin this way....

In my house, mom is the hard ass, until Dad comes down on them, then I'm "being too harsh" even if I say/do exactly what she has before. That has been the cause of several major disagreements between us...

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Mine is on board with backing me up most of the time, especially when she knows that my patience is already gone. But then there are them other times...

She told me I was too harsh once... She didnt go outside for a week...

Kidding......

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Kids need to be spanked until they about 14. Then they will start settling in. Remember, you spank the child because you care and love him/her.

um yea that's pretty much completely false and misguided.

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I could usually talk my way out of spankings when I was younger...somehow always blamed it on my brother.

I was never grounded or had anything taken away that I can remember, but spankings worked when I got them. If dad went outside to get a switch, my ass straightened up.

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