Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:30 AM
We never really spanked when they were little except for things that were dangerous... such as one time my oldest pushed my youngest down the stairs... I whipped his ass for that. Spanking now would be useless.
With my oldest, now that he has his license and wants to go and do, we can simply take his keys and/or his computer. Those are pretty much what he cares about.
Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:34 AM
Right now, if he is bad at daycare (ie. they give us a report that he has bit someone or been bad somehow), depending on how severe it is, we typically don't let him play with his toys when he gets home. We also try to talk to him in a way that he understands why, and that he has to not do the bad things in order to be able to enjoy his toys and things at home.
If he's bad around us, we'll threaten timeout and spanking. Stage two is timeout. Stage three is a spanking + removal of toys/fun.
It hurts the poo out of me to see him cry/hurt/upset when it comes to stage 3 (which is only hard enough to startle him and never hard enough to really hurt him), but it has been totally effective and lessons have been learned.
Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:40 AM
Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:42 AM
That's what I wanna know
Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:44 AM
Talking back/disrespect shown towards parent or adult in guardian role or when doing something stupid that could cause serious harm to themselves or someone else.
I'm quite the jerk taking away stuff...but it hasn't seemed to work lately, BUT we're thinking about new stuff.
Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:50 AM
One thing I know will always be true, be consistent in all of your punishments, whatever they are. That's the only way they'll ever have an impact.
Posted 13 December 2012 - 11:00 AM
Posted 13 December 2012 - 11:01 AM
Kids need to be spanked until they about 14. Then they will start settling in. Remember, you spank the child because you care and love him/her.
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