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#11 Darth Biscuit

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:30 AM

idk about the conditioning part of it, we've just never done that, but I could see how that would happen. Our boys have certain chores they are expected to do, no matter what. I've found that taking away something that they really care about is really the only way to get thru to them.

We never really spanked when they were little except for things that were dangerous... such as one time my oldest pushed my youngest down the stairs... I whipped his ass for that. Spanking now would be useless.

With my oldest, now that he has his license and wants to go and do, we can simply take his keys and/or his computer. Those are pretty much what he cares about.

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:34 AM

My son's only two, so we've got a long road ahead of us for discipline techniques...

Right now, if he is bad at daycare (ie. they give us a report that he has bit someone or been bad somehow), depending on how severe it is, we typically don't let him play with his toys when he gets home. We also try to talk to him in a way that he understands why, and that he has to not do the bad things in order to be able to enjoy his toys and things at home.

If he's bad around us, we'll threaten timeout and spanking. Stage two is timeout. Stage three is a spanking + removal of toys/fun.

It hurts the poo out of me to see him cry/hurt/upset when it comes to stage 3 (which is only hard enough to startle him and never hard enough to really hurt him), but it has been totally effective and lessons have been learned.

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:40 AM

My dad was in army... He made me do crazy poo. Push ups, sit ups, run... He'd make me clean my room then he would walk in and swipe his finger in some dark corner and it would have dust... He would tell me to start cleaning my room all over again and he'll come back in an hour to check. Some days it took me almost 10 hours to clean my room for his approval... When I lied or disobey him, ass whooping with a thick leather belt was incoming. My ass was black and blue. My sister got pretty similar treatment. My sister and I love my dad. He always reward us when we did good, always. But he always made us pay when we fuged up.

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:42 AM

The question is what do you do when they get used to being deprived or scolded or even spanked and dgaf

That's what I wanna know

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:43 AM

At 12 they can fend for themselves, so just kick their freeloading butt to the curb. Momma needs a new pair of shoes.

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:44 AM

Spanking only comes from two events.

Talking back/disrespect shown towards parent or adult in guardian role or when doing something stupid that could cause serious harm to themselves or someone else.

I'm quite the jerk taking away stuff...but it hasn't seemed to work lately, BUT we're thinking about new stuff.

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 10:50 AM

My kids are so young it's hard to say for a 12 year old.

One thing I know will always be true, be consistent in all of your punishments, whatever they are. That's the only way they'll ever have an impact.

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 11:00 AM

Kids need to be spanked until they about 14. Then they will start settling in. Remember, you spank the child because you care and love him/her.

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Posted 13 December 2012 - 11:01 AM

Kids need to be spanked until they about 14. Then they will start settling in. Remember, you spank the child because you care and love him/her.


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Posted 13 December 2012 - 11:12 AM

I call it tough love.


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