Youth Coaching - What Would You Do?
Posted 12 January 2013 - 03:09 PM
So, I've been coaching an 8-under basketball team as an assistant with my cousin.
So, we've had some up and downs this season, but we have a really talented team - and that's not just coachspeak. Our biggest problem IMO, as expected, is our players have mental lapses that usually result in easy buckets for the other team and that has cost us a few games.
So, today, we started out rough... Our kids kept leaving the other kids open. They were switching who they were guarding every possession without saying anything. Stuff like that. They got focused and we went back up. May have been up by 6 late in the 3rd, which is generally a huge margin for this young of a league.
Well, we let a lot of the stuff go once our players were focused, but the ref was letting the other team get away with murder the entire game. I'm not biased despite me being the coach... These are kids. It's expected a ref will miss a call or let each team get away with something every now and then. But, apparently, the other coach did not teach them or coach them up on skill AT ALL. This other team was playing like goons and their coach was encouraging it.
They were running straight through our players handling the ball by leading with their opposite hand and shoulder and reaching for the ball (right hand to right hand). They did it the entire game. Of course, 8-year-olds want to dribble to their strong side which is something we have to work on, but the ref wasn't even giving them a chance. The other team was literally running through our guys and nothing was called... So, even if they didn't get a steal, they were bumping our players or knocking them around and usually hurting our possession in some illegal fashion.
Additionally, when there was a tie up, their kids were throwing elbows and pulling the ball with our kids holding on trying to roll our kids over and hurt them. Several times a couple of our kids went in for layups and were undercut or bulldozed under the goal. They were throwing Kevin Garnett-style elbows on picks they were setting too. They repeatedly slapped at our kids when they'd pull the ball up to shoot and nothing was called.
I was completely at a loss. One of our most even-keeled kids came off the court at the end crying saying "why are they calling us for this and they're doing the same thing???" That was all his own observation because we won't blame the refs in front of the kids.
To add to that, several parents trying to live through their kids for the other team were laughing at our kids as the ref started calling things on us that they were doing all game unimpeded, and when one of their kids ran straight through our guard bringing the ball up (again, right hand to right hand), stole it, and laid it in as he was fouled. Again, the ref called a foul on our kid running back and fouling their kid, who just fouled him without a call to steal the ball to begin with.
Their parents were cheering them on for fouling us, yelling and laughing at our kids when they reacted and were upset.
I was angry and disgusted. We pretty much lost it right at the end by 5 because of this crap not being called or regulated evenly.
Any advice in general? Some of these kids walked away crying so hard they weren't even breathing... I just told them they did their best and that's all we can ask of them and that we can't control what anyone else does. It was tough man, really tough. Again, these kids are 8-years-old and don't deserve to feel that someone stole that effort from them. We have another game tomorrow and I'm hoping it doesn't linger for them.
Posted 12 January 2013 - 06:33 PM
Posted 12 January 2013 - 07:01 PM
Posted 12 January 2013 - 07:08 PM
Hmm. Grown men having to sit down and work thru stuff. Why does this sound familar? Lol
Posted 12 January 2013 - 07:22 PM
Posted 13 January 2013 - 01:26 AM
If the opposing coach is teaching bogus tactics you need to have him removed from his position immediately.
My golf buddy ran AYSO for quite a few years.
The crap that went on with parents and coaches was unbelievable.
Posted 13 January 2013 - 11:37 AM
It was just tough to see those kids focus in and put everything on the line and for them to come off the court so upset because they knew it was taken from them.
Oh and trying to be cognizant of the code of conduct stuff, I try to keep interaction with anyone outside of our team (opposing coaches, refs) minimal, especially when I'm angry, like I was yesterday...
Idk, I just really never thought this was the kind of stuff you'd deal with in an U8 league, lol. Thanks everyone for the advice and feedback! We have another game today and hopefully we'll get a fair shake.
Posted 13 January 2013 - 12:56 PM
It will work out pd.
Posted 14 January 2013 - 08:00 PM
Was the game videoed? You can show that to your league supervisor.
You won't have a leg to stand on with "they took the game from us", but at that level you definitely have a case if the refs are letting it get too physical.
Posted 14 January 2013 - 09:30 PM
The main reason I stopped coaching was the parents. I miss it and wouldn't mind coaching again.
It will work out pd.
People would not believe how much politics are involved in 6,7, and 8 year old Pop Warner football. That;s why I got out of it.
Had a coach say he followed a kid home from school to verify that he lived in a certain area. "A couple of times, he got picked up and went to a different house" Yeah, that was his Grandma picking him up on days his Mom worked, you freakin' stalker weirdo.
Seen "8 year olds" with moustaches.
Posted 15 January 2013 - 12:57 AM
That's why I don't attend kids sporting events.
Had a nervous breakdown when my son started wrestling.
You sir are a better man then me.