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#1 Kurb

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:17 PM

Apparently I don't have this ability, or he doesn't, or some combination of the two.
I honestly feel like I am talking to some alien person when we try and have a serious conversation.

Zero connection.

Does anyone else have this issue ? Or am I just especially fuged up? (yeah yeah)

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:20 PM

You white, he's asian.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:26 PM

is ur baby super laid back? Not crying much? Some of my fiancé family members just had kids, they're so quiet and laid back... I think its just asian genes.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:27 PM

I can't talk to my Dad about anything other than football.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:30 PM

You white, he's asian.


is ur baby super laid back? Not crying much? Some of my fiancé family members just had kids, they're so quiet and laid back... I think its just asian genes.




WTF is even going on here.
Did you put Vodka in your cereal again ?

Both my father and FIL are white.

Asian babies are quiet because they can't understand english... :D

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:33 PM

Find common interests; you can talk about things you like no matter who it's with.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:35 PM

How old is he?

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:35 PM

Oh hahaha. I tho u were talking to ur lil son.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:39 PM

Find common interests; you can talk about things you like no matter who it's with.

Zero.


How old is he?


60ish.

For instance he called me today about a prior agreement.
Basically telling me I would become a better person if he didn't follow through, b/c he didn't feel I had "qualified" for said agreement happen.

I have of course, he just got into his mind that this needed to be discussed...well argued about.

It's hard to explain what it's like to have such a straining relationship. I feel like I have next to no connection with one of the few people I should.

I

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:39 PM

My dad was always a hard ass growing up and he never shared my interests so we have always been socially awkward. We talk to each other through my mother. We once went on vacation together, just me and him and every night at dinner it was silence.....absolutely brutal. TBH I'm a little worried some things will go unsaid until the day he dies but that's how his generation is. I don't know how to fix my situation and I sure as hell don't know how to fix yours but all I can say is it happens.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:39 PM

Both my father and FIL are white.
:D



here you go.

http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/

#12 Kurb

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:40 PM

Oh hahaha. I tho u were talking to ur lil son.


He isn't even one.
Our conversations go something like.

"Did you poop?"

*Laughter*

"I'll get your mother..."

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:41 PM

Zero.




60ish.

For instance he called me today about a prior agreement.
Basically telling me I would become a better person if he didn't follow through, b/c he didn't feel I had "qualified" for said agreement happen.

I have of course, he just got into his mind that this needed to be discussed...well argued about.

It's hard to explain what it's like to have such a straining relationship. I feel like I have next to no connection with one of the few people I should.

I

you always felt this way?

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:42 PM

My dad and I always get in arguments... We cannot talk for more than 30min without arguing about something.

Recently, my dad got hurt very bad at work. I felt it... It was weird but I knew something happened to him and maybe 1 hour later my mom called me to let me know my dad got injured pretty bad. I believe that's the connection.

#15 Kurb

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:46 PM

you always felt this way?


Pretty much.

I can't think of many things we have actually 100% agreed on.

Fundamentally we are just different.

He grew up in an era that was work work work and find more work todo.
I worked to play.

Not that I am a softy but I could probably count on 1 hand the times he has told me he was proud or that he loved me, it's just not in his emotional ability. Meanwhile it gets back to me how he brags on me and the person I am SMH.

Not to mention the political issues I have just learned to avoid, which are mainly a product of his environment and Deep South roots.

Gays are going to hell, America isn't ready for Obama, etc etc.


I guess I just need a (mostly) anonymous area to vent.


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