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#1 TNPanther

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:00 PM

This past week was spring rush for my college and I was certain that I was going to get a bid from a particular fraternity only to find out that they didn't want me. I know it's not a huge deal, but I really liked them and thought that I'd fit in well with them. I didn't really rush any other fraternities so I ultimately did not receive any bids. I feel pretty down right now and expressing my thoughts here has helped me in the past, so here I am.

Thoughts? Is it even that big of a deal?

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:05 PM

I have had friends in frats that really enjoyed it and made life long friends.

My best friend rushed SigNu, was basically tortured for a semester, (forced to drink "mystery" drinks, stripped covered in honey and rolled in a hay field, stripped to boxers had beer poured on them while their "big bro"'s called them worthless and such, not allowed to speak or sleep for a week..actually this poo sounds kind of homo..) then after all that the "Big Bros" all graduated and the Frat collapsed and was disbanned.

I never joined, made some life long friends, went to plenty of parties/events, got my share of ladies, etc. You don't need to have it for a good College experience.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:08 PM

not a big deal.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:10 PM

I have had friends in frats that really enjoyed it and made life long friends.

My best friend rushed SigNu, was basically tortured for a semester, (forced to drink "mystery" drinks, stripped covered in honey and rolled in a hay field, stripped to boxers had beer poured on them while their "big bro"'s called them worthless and such, not allowed to speak or sleep for a week..actually this poo sounds kind of homo..) then after all that the "Big Bros" all graduated and the Frat collapsed and was disbanned.

I never joined, made some life long friends, went to plenty of parties/events, got my share of ladies, etc. You don't need to have it for a good College experience.


I've had somewhat of a difficulty making friends here. I have some close friends but rarely get to see them. How did you make your life long friends and get your fair share of ladies? It seems like the only way to do this at the university I attend is to go Greek.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:10 PM

I never joined, made some life long friends, went to plenty of parties/events, got my share of ladies, etc. You don't need to have it for a good College experience.


I agree...why pay to have friends? I can't stand frat boys/sorority whores anyways...you're better off w/o them :)

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:11 PM

Where do you go to school?

I was in a frat and made some great, life long friends... but I also have the same from people that weren't in the frat I was in... so no, it's not a big deal, at least it doesn't have to be.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:12 PM

I've had somewhat of a difficulty making friends here. I have some close friends but rarely get to see them. How did you make your life long friends and get your fair share of ladies? It seems like the only way to do this at the university I attend is to go Greek.



Honestly many of them were from the same home town as me and we all had apartments close by.

Maybe get a job working at a bar or some such. It will get you recognized and improve your ability to talk to people.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:14 PM

Where do you go to school?

I was in a frat and made some great, life long friends... but I also have the same from people that weren't in the frat I was in... so no, it's not a big deal, at least it doesn't have to be.


University of Tennessee, which is very heavily Greek. It almost seems like it's either join a fraternity or sorority or have no life.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:14 PM

I've had somewhat of a difficulty making friends here. I have some close friends but rarely get to see them. How did you make your life long friends and get your fair share of ladies? It seems like the only way to do this at the university I attend is to go Greek.



Hang out in the student union with a sign that says:

FRIENDS NEEDED
I'LL PAY YOU IF NECESSARY BUT WOULD PREFER TO NOT HAVE TO.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:16 PM

Honestly many of them were from the same home town as me and we all had apartments close by.

Maybe get a job working at a bar or some such. It will get you recognized and improve your ability to talk to people.


I do start work Friday at the campus Papa John's as a delivery driver, so I have that going for me. I don't know if I'll get positively recognized as the pizza guy but at least it's something.


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