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Well, I feel like a failure even though I shouldn't...

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This past week was spring rush for my college and I was certain that I was going to get a bid from a particular fraternity only to find out that they didn't want me. I know it's not a huge deal, but I really liked them and thought that I'd fit in well with them. I didn't really rush any other fraternities so I ultimately did not receive any bids. I feel pretty down right now and expressing my thoughts here has helped me in the past, so here I am.

Thoughts? Is it even that big of a deal?

Well, it depends. I know here at UNCP, most of the hot girls in sororities ONLY go for frat guys, which sucks. Having said that, there are hot chicks who aren't in any sorority. Parties are usually easy to get into regardless. I went to plenty of frat parties last year (before the one I always went to were disbanded due to that party house having a ton of weed during a police search one night).

Honestly, I'd say you are fine. Go out and have fun and know that you're not surrounded with "friends" that you had to pay to get (frat guys generally don't socialize much outside of the frat...almost cult-like, really). Not a big deal. At least you're not out a couple hundred bucks just to claim a frat. Not to mention the inevitable hazing that would take place.

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University of Tennessee, which is very heavily Greek. It almost seems like it's either join a fraternity or sorority or have no life.

I assume you're a freshman? Don't sweat this man... you'll meet a ton of people otherwise... join some clubs, go to the gym, find something you're interested in and there's bound to be a ton of others there just like you.

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My son just got into Sigma Phi Epsilon and moved into the house a couple weeks ago. He was nervous about telling me that he was going to rush a frat but when he finally told me and explain how important it was to him I was totally behind him. He said he never wanted anything more in his life so I can understand your disappointment to an extent.

Sorry to hear you didn't get in...but like Kurb said, you can enjoy the college experience without it and sometimes missed opportunities are the best opportunities in the long run.Use it to motivate you to bigger and better things. Hell, at least you are saving money. What my son should have been nervous about telling me wasn't that he was going to rush but that it was going to cost me an extra $900 a semester!!!!! Of course he told me after the fact. Sneaky little bastard...Use the money you would spend at the frat and do something more productive with it. Best of luck to you.

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1. Go to college at the beach with 67% females.

2. Wander to every party you feel like going to.

3. ??????

4. Profit.

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Like others said, its not a big deal. There are plenty of ways to make friends as long as you're willing to get out of your room and go do things. Go play basketball, join a club, find a good smoke spot, you'll meet people

The sorostitutes are overrated anyways, most are boring and just looking to get that MRS degree

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Athletic clubs are actually a great way to meet folks.

Did no one you knew go to UT as well?

Im sure you could find tons of social clubs that are interested in the same things you.

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1. Go to college at the beach with 67% females.

2. Wander to every party you feel like going to.

3. ??????

4. Profit.

collage of charleston? If you don't get laid by a hottie there you are gay!

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If you cannot score some tail at UT...you're doing something wrong :)

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I grew up in a college town. Trust me when I say that being a part of a fraternity is not required to be able to enjoy the college party/social scene.

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