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I told you go travel for a semester

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Don't sweat it man, you can always rush again, for multiple frats.

I was not in a frat, but only dated sorority girls, just kinda my "thing".

Couple of rules though:

1. Get out of your room. Most are homesick, bored, scared, loners, as freshmen but you have to get out.

2. Video games will not win you any real friends.

3. Focus on your education, long term that's your best bet.

4. Dedicate at least 25 hours per week to school/studying. Most college kids don't do this.

5. Don't work as a delivery driver, at least work as a server at a restaurant.

6. Join some clubs, with some females in it. Maybe tennis, volleyball, etc....

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This past week was spring rush for my college and I was certain that I was going to get a bid from a particular fraternity only to find out that they didn't want me. I know it's not a huge deal, but I really liked them and thought that I'd fit in well with them. I didn't really rush any other fraternities so I ultimately did not receive any bids. I feel pretty down right now and expressing my thoughts here has helped me in the past, so here I am.

Thoughts? Is it even that big of a deal?

If you are close to one of the brothers you could ask him to put your forward again.

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No frat for me, but I've dated sorority girls from UNC and Elon and hung around with plenty of frat guys. I'll just say they're mostly not my cup of tea, although some have become friends.

As someone about to graduate in May, one of my biggest regrets is not making more friends outside of my roommates/people from my hometown. As simple as it may sound, and as scary as it can be (it is for me), just talk to somebody. Whether it be in class, a club, IM sports, anything, just talk. When I'm on campus, my face is either in my cell phone or laptop, I listen to the lectures/take notes and go home. I regret it like Hell, too. You won't need a frat to fit in or make friends, just step outside of your comfort zone a little bit and see what happens.

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developing your identity and being part of a frat really seem to have no connection to me!!

develop your identity first...then find a group that belongs with you!

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learn to play guitar. when you're halfway decent, sit around on campus and play and rake in the ladies. then return to this thread and thank phillyb.

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So I guess I'm in the minority here as I was Greek in college. TN, I'll be honest: joining Lambda Chi was one of the best decisions I ever made. I have lifelong friends and our bond goes deeper than that of my other/high school friends. It never once hindered my ability to have a good GPA (if anything I spent more time in the library due to mandatory study hall every week) and it truly made my college experience unique and memorable.

That being said, the worst thing you can do is join the wrong fraternity/chapter or join one that is only about drinking and hazing. If it's meant to be, the right organization will give you a bid. You could even try to rush again and talk to different chapters the next time around. If you don't get a bid or decide not to try again, then find other ways to get yourself involved on campus. Intramurals, clubs, whatever it may be. Make some friends in different dorms, and branch out as best you can.

I will say this, though: joining a fraternity is great for networking after you leave college. It's nice to create connections either through active or alumni brothers for help in getting a job.

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1. Go to college at the beach with 67% females.

2. Wander to every party you feel like going to.

3. ??????

4. Profit.

Then join a Frat at coastal College and multiply everything above by 10x

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Start selling drugs

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I do start work Friday at the campus Papa John's as a delivery driver, so I have that going for me. I don't know if I'll get positively recognized as the pizza guy but at least it's something.

You should practice cutting holes in the bottom if the boxes. You know. For the extra sausage.

Also, Greek life means sorostitutes. Get in if you can to attend mixers. Paying cover at parties isn't a bad way to go either. That's what I did, but a buddy was Greek at ECU and has some stories that make me envy him.

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So I guess I'm in the minority here as I was Greek in college. TN, I'll be honest: joining Lambda Chi was one of the best decisions I ever made. I have lifelong friends and our bond goes deeper than that of my other/high school friends. It never once hindered my ability to have a good GPA (if anything I spent more time in the library due to mandatory study hall every week) and it truly made my college experience unique and memorable.

That being said, the worst thing you can do is join the wrong fraternity/chapter or join one that is only about drinking and hazing. If it's meant to be, the right organization will give you a bid. You could even try to rush again and talk to different chapters the next time around. If you don't get a bid or decide not to try again, then find other ways to get yourself involved on campus. Intramurals, clubs, whatever it may be. Make some friends in different dorms, and branch out as best you can.

I will say this, though: joining a fraternity is great for networking after you leave college. It's nice to create connections either through active or alumni brothers for help in getting a job.

I pretty much agree with everything here.

I am also a Greek. The fraternity I joined was easily the best decision I ever made. It taught me so much about leadership, organization, politics, and gave me opportunities to do things on campus that 90% of students could not do (formals, Greek week, sorority mixers, mountain weekends, alumni networking events, brotherhood retreats, leadership conferences, just to name a few). I have been out of college for almost 10 years and I have also used my Fraternities alumni network a lot in my professional career. Lastly, I formed the greatest friendship of guys who were in my wedding, etc. I even met my wife through my fraternity (she was in a sorority).

If that group of guys didn't give you a bid, and that is the fraternity that you want to join, try to form friendships with some it the brothers, goto their parties, hang out with them, etc...you will probably get a bid next semester.....unless you rubbed someone the wrong way.

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This past week was spring rush for my college and I was certain that I was going to get a bid from a particular fraternity only to find out that they didn't want me. I know it's not a huge deal, but I really liked them and thought that I'd fit in well with them. I didn't really rush any other fraternities so I ultimately did not receive any bids. I feel pretty down right now and expressing my thoughts here has helped me in the past, so here I am.

Thoughts? Is it even that big of a deal?

Drop out of school and join the military.

Plenty of buddies to be made, and girls to be had.

Aren't you sick of being broke and having to go to stupid ass classes?

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