Posted 07 February 2013 - 01:23 PM
What are you good at?
What is money like around your house?
What is he good at/enjoy doing?
How is your relationship with your wife?
If it were me, I would find something....anything that you share in common. He probably feels like the 5th wheel...which he is.
Cars, maybe he likes them. Try to work with him to raise money or pay for it yourself that will be his when he is 16, but make it need lots of work. Spend time with him working on that car that will one day be his. Only you two, no females.
Can you fish, if so teach him. Can you camp, if so teach him. The reason I ask about the wife and you, is that you will need time away from her and your girls to help this young man out.
If you can't come up with a hobby (golf, canoeing, boating, etc.) then every week go do something like trivia night at BDubs with him. Do not take the ladies. Do it every week, no exceptions.
This is going to hurt a little, but he may not respect you. My Dad was/is blue collar, and I knew that I didn't want to be, I didn't respect it when he told me to work harder in school...what did he know....he was blue collar. If that is the case make sure that he knows that you think and expect him to be "better" than you. Not to "settle" for what you have. I am in no way knocking you at all with this paragraph, just giving you some insight into my mind when I was younger. I now have a very strong relationship with my Father, and realize that he chose to do that work so he could make his own schedules, and he never missed a single ball game, practice, surf trip, or scouting outing.
Good Luck, you are a good man for doing this.