Sorry. Wrong on pretty much every point.
First, the constitutional right to religious freedom mandates that you have the right to express your beliefs. It does not mandate that individuals or businesses must comply with any request you make simply because it's based on one of those beliefs.
Second, do you honestly believe that a woman who would marry a Nazi yahoo like this guy is going to be in disagreement with his request?
These two statements are in conflict. If the business is under no obligation to comply with a request based on that persons beliefs, why would it matter what the request was or who made it?
Third, hospitals in general do make every attempt to help patients and families be comfortable, which includes giving them a say in their treatment. Do you think if a patient requests a certain doctor over another that a hospital's going to say "no, he's better for you" and override them? As my friend the nurse said, they comply with patient wishes as long as it's not detrimental to their care. You can't really make a case that this request fits that mold.
Bottom line: The request sucked, but compliance with it was the lesser of two evils. Like I said, the husband is the villain, not the hospital.
Whether or not hospitals make "every attempt" is going to be very subjective and everyones experience is going to be different depending on whether or not you are the hospital, patient or family member. That is my point. The hospital has an obligation to provide reasonable care in reasonable situations. A reasonable request is asking for a female over a male doctor (which by the way is far more likely to be fulfilled vs the other way around) or asking for a familiar doctor if that one is available. I'm pretty sure
they dont often rearrange shift schedules for people regardless of the reason.
The hospital was faced with a moral decision. They chose to act in a certain way based on the morals of the people making it. You cant morally decide to accomadate racism. And I have seen that the argument has been made that that would have been denying care. That is not true. The only one who would have made the decision to deny care would have been the family. Had the mother made the request we would have been having a different argument (well..slightly).
I understand that for you this is just a case of the hurt feelings of some nurse. For others this is symbolic of a country that refuses to accept blacks as human and a culture that refuses to fully acknowledge the impact it has on the psyche of those that that belief system affects. Imagine the homophobic soldiers now forced to take public showers with openly homosexual soldiers. Or extremely chauvanistic infantrymen now forced to go into combat with women. This is America, and there will be people that we dont like, or dont care for but you can not discriminate. period. The hospital made a choice. I am not for leaving a pregnant mother out in the cold. But at this particular hospital there were black nurses. If she didn't want one she had every right to find one that didn't. What she didn't have a right to, was to assume or to expect that accomodations would be made in order to appease her discriminatory beliefs. (I tried to keep this about the father but you explicitly stated you feel that the mother would agree.)