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Help for the Sexually Inexperienced

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Omgoodness this is more like it! I'm sitting in the doctor's office and I'm slightly embarrassed because a few of these people keep looking at me. I must be blushing. Lol

Yeah he doesn't know what to do with it. He says he doest really know the right spots to hit and for some reason she's too shy to explain what she wants. Once upon a time i felt shy too, and how unsatisfying it is. Fortunately, there was a person like that showed me the ropes too!

I gave him a anatomy lesson. Before your mind goes to the gutter the lesson was purely educational with illustrated diagrams.

Arsen, you might be right. He could be a genius.

Sounds more like he has a severe lack of self confidence and is desperate.

Are they married or just dating ?

*** The following has been true in my experience and may not apply to all, YMMV ***

First thing he needs to understand is his lack of confidence is affecting this situation I would assume. One of the biggest things that helped me change from "Just a Guy" in the sack to someone that had a rep for his performance (a good one thanks). Was confidence that I knew what I could do and accomplish when I got a lady in the bedroom.

He has to KNOW a couple things mentally before he can get the job done physically.

1) She wants is as bad as he does. Simple fact, many forget.

2) While he is centrally a visual creature sexual and then a emotional creature, she is the exact opposite. In MANY cases a woman's mind has to be prepared before he body will start to respond. I've found this is the issue with lots of marriages that fail in the sex department. Hubby forgets to fug the mind before he fugs the body.

3) There is nothing more natural than this event. The parts were made to go together, put them together and good things will happen.

Once he gets his confidence in check things will start to open up (no pun) for them.

Doing the Reverse Cowgirl blindfolded and covered in baby oil is fun and all, but if you don't handle the other things first it's just another cock going in a poonpoon.

edit**

Yes I am good at teh sex. Yes I am arrogant about it.

Sounds like you handled it pretty well... maybe u need to talk to her.

That runs about a 50/50 chance of being exceptionally destructive.

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Sure biscuit, anytime. You know how to find me.

Kurb, you make great points. I did talk to him about these things as well.

I would prefer to not talk to his girl, butI would if she wanted.

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That runs about a 50/50 chance of being exceptionally destructive.

Uhh... I'd say chances are about 99/1 that it would be exceptionally destructive.

Edit: nm... I thought you quoted what I said about my wife.

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He could of just watch porn and learn like the other 99.9% of men.

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In my experience, the position you're in has little to do with making the sex any better.

I mean we've been known to cycle through several positions, but I've also had a lot of 'meh' sex in different positions.

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Sure biscuit, anytime. You know how to find me.

Kurb, you make great points. I did talk to him about these things as well.

I would prefer to not talk to his girl, but I would if she wanted.

Good that's the start. The rest is gaining an ability to listen to the body of the lady. It will tell you what is working and what isn't. You just have to gain the ability or skill to hear it. Basically stop thinking about it and follow your instincts is what I would tell em.

I mean is the basic issue he can't please her ?

Even if he wanted you to you shouldn't talk to her.

Now if she called you up and said "Hey, I cant bust a nut, can you halps?" thats different. But imagine the horror of someone, you don't really know but knows your manfriend, calling you up and asking about how you do the dirty and how you can do it better.

Uhh... I'd say chances are about 99/1 that it would be exceptionally destructive.

It was your idea! :P

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