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#16 Bronn

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 11:22 AM

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#17 Brooklyn Bully

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 02:09 PM

1. You're nothing ... yet. A shart stain on the underpants of life. The sooner you learn that, the better.

2. Grow up. You've got a long way to go.

3. The quickest way to learn will be when you get your ass handed to you. Professionally, mentally, or economically.

#18 TNPanther

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 03:06 PM

I asked one of the members whom I trusted and she (this is a coed business fraternity) said that the brothers thought I came off as unprofessional which gave them the impression that I wasn't willing to complete the requirements by their due date. It doesn't make any sense but whatever, there's nothing I can do. Showing disrespect is a problem I've had throughout life. I just want to correct it before it's too late. Is it really something that just comes with maturity? I mean I'm only 20 which, as BrooklynBully said, is just a shitstain on the underpants.

#19 Panthro

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 03:08 PM

A business frat?

I thought they had to take anyone

This explains it a bit more.

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 03:13 PM

I'm agree with Kurb... sounds like either a power trip or a personal issue someone (or some group) had with you.

Otherwise why wouldn't they have brought this up with you instead of just kicking you out?

I was in a traditional frat in college and if we had an issue with a pledge it was discussed with him to give him an opportunity to work on it.

#21 TNPanther

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 03:22 PM

I'm agree with Kurb... sounds like either a power trip or a personal issue someone (or some group) had with you.

Otherwise why wouldn't they have brought this up with you instead of just kicking you out?

I was in a traditional frat in college and if we had an issue with a pledge it was discussed with him to give him an opportunity to work on it.


That doesn't happen here at the University of Tennessee. Instead of working with you on your problems they act passive aggressive about it and exclude you from their circle. And no, this business fraternity is pretty exclusive and nitpicky. You don't have to do much to get dismissed. If anyone cares it's Alpha Kappa Psi.

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 03:38 PM

That doesn't happen here at the University of Tennessee. Instead of working with you on your problems they act passive aggressive about it and exclude you from their circle. And no, this business fraternity is pretty exclusive and nitpicky. You don't have to do much to get dismissed. If anyone cares it's Alpha Kappa Psi.


Well that's pretty shitty... best advice I have is move on. Put it behind you.

You're obviously aware now that you may show some potential to not treat people in as professional a manner as would be appropriate.

There's also the potential that that particular group of people are pretentious assholes and you didn't need to be associated with them anyway...

Either way, use it as a learning experience and grow from it.

#23 Proudiddy

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 03:50 PM

Fug 'em. Make your own frat and challenge them to a dance off, "You Got Served" style.

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Posted 08 March 2013 - 05:39 PM

TNPanther. Sounds like you believe this is an underlying problem for you. "Showing disrespect is a problem I've had throughout life." I am sure that UT has a wonderful counseling department. Pay them a visit. You want to work on this, and you recognize it is a problem...so it would probably be a great experience for you.

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Posted 09 March 2013 - 03:19 AM

You should start hanging with people you respect.

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Posted 09 March 2013 - 06:55 AM

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Posted 09 March 2013 - 07:34 AM

First off, you need to go join a real Frat, not a group of a bunch of ECON dorks.

Second, it's not like you can't find a job after college which best suits your personality....the world needs more tow truck drivers and parking meter maids

J/k, in all seriousness, read the book "How to win friends, and influence people" be Dale Carnigie

#28 NotinbutaPnut

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Posted 09 March 2013 - 08:01 AM

I'm serious when I suggest this but fraternities mean very little in the corporate world. The only way it is even applicable on your résumé is if you were your fraternity's form of a president. That shows leadership quality. Only thing membership shows is that you had enough money to pay dues.

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Posted 09 March 2013 - 01:17 PM

I'm serious when I suggest this but fraternities mean very little in the corporate world. The only way it is even applicable on your résumé is if you were your fraternity's form of a president. That shows leadership quality. Only thing membership shows is that you had enough money to pay dues.


Not true

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Posted 09 March 2013 - 01:32 PM

So this semester for me was going pretty well so far. I pledged a professional business fraternity and I thought the process was going pretty well. Tonight was midterms, where they evaluated our pledge class and determined if each of us individually was worthy of continuing with the pledge process. The brotherhood voted me out of the fraternity because, as I was told, they felt I wasn't respectful/professional when I addressed them, and that I should address them as I would an employer.

It's honestly hard for me to treat someone my age the same as I would someone older in a position of authority. But it's something I need to learn before I near graduation and begin looking for jobs. I often have trouble putting my ego aside in situations such as this. Anybody had these same experiences and/or issues?


That's a bunch of BS. They voted you out because you respect yourself enough not to slob their knob.

Keep on keepin on. You shouldn't lower yourself just because your frat bosses have a need for false respect.

How you handle older folks and peers is a totally different thing. Don't less this frat thing make you feel like that's how reality works.


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