Crazy Ex GF sabotaging my friend's relationship

[saX man 643]

Edited for accuracy in retrospect:

 

Rundown: 5 months overall.  Official for the first three, then broke up.  I felt fine no worries.  I let her come back twice.  When I would drop communication, she came crawling back.  I was stupid and shouldn't have let her back.

 

We had a very physical relationship in high dosages. 3x plus a week, 3+ times a night for a good 4 months.  Toward the end, I was interviewing out of state and she would constantly beg for me to come back and how much she missed me and wanted to cuddle, yadda yadda.  

 

She took me to her fam's thanksgiving dinner party and was a complete b*tch to me.  Communication had already been lessening recently but she went up and invited me.  At the dinner she was flirting with my friend and talking about all these ones who are after her.  I wanted none of it and hate when women flirt with taken bros especially in front of their significant others. F*cked up especially with me there talking to her freaking grandparents and family.      

 

I broke it off and took it hard because I thought I had mad feelings for her.  She acted like she was fine.  In the meantime...she began to ruin our good friends' 4 year relationship while I stayed f*cking away until the other day by accident.....in which mayhem ensued....

 

so check out that updated post if you're interested haha 

 

    

 

[Chimera 3,442]

Women logic: "if I flirt with other guys, he'll try harder to keep me"

[saX man 643]

Women logic: "if I flirt with other guys, he'll try harder to keep me"

 

Pie.  They do not think rationally lol

[Guest]

.  We were somewhere in between being together and f*ck buddies bc we still did couple stuff.  

 

This is the problem.  There should be no in between.  

[saX man 643]

This is the problem.  There should be no in between.  

 

I'm thinking I may have done this to myself.  I just like doing really nice gestures like gifts, dinners, etc. even with more casuals back in Charlotte.  

 

It's just odd me breaking it off when she's the one that seems less invested and completely fine.  I was essentially a convenience and sex toy with my ex and need to accept it.  Not the best decision but damn was it good.      

[Chimera 3,442]

Pie. They do not think rationally lol

correct

and if you confront her about it, she'll play it both ways.

"I wanted you to try to keep me!"

"Why are you mad? You don't wanna be my boyfriend!"

Those are the ones you should break off all contact with. They'll hunt you down in the future and try to ruin relationships.

Do you feel like you do because she's gone as a FWB, or because she dissed you like that in front of her family?

[saX man 643]

Do you feel like you do because she's gone as a FWB, or because she dissed you like that in front of her family?

 

I'd have to say it's a combo.     

 

Quick update:

 

So I may have texted her after breaking up that I'd be cool if she still wanted to still "fool around" before I leave.  Now I'm the bad guy and things are looking rough.  I think she may have actually been invested to my disbelief.  

[saX man 643]

sorry for the dp...disaster averted, she felt like I was treating her like a call girl and I cleared it up I wasn't.  

[chubs2496 280]

I kinda had the same thing happen to me. I'll tell ya how mine went down and what I did.

Went to the beach with my gf. I was out of a job at the time and she literally begged me to go. So I did but I rode with her. Bad move on my part. We got down there and we stayed with her friends who were guy friends and a few girls that were butt ugly. She ended up flirting trying to get me to try harder for her. That exactly how a girls thought process works. She kept flirting and I told her in private it better stop now. She got pissed for some reason and continued

We fought another day or so then I packed my poo and told her what a bitch she was walked out like a bad ass. She's like where u going. I said we are done.

Of course she acted if she didn't care. I went and chilled with and old friend of mine who I hooked up with before, when she lived back in my hometown. She was going to coastal carolina at this time tho.

My then ex started to text me telling me how she was sorry and I hurt her and all this and that.

So basically if a girl ever treats u this way then it's just a game for them. No man deserves to be treated as such so don't feel bad. I admit it kinda got to me at first but it will pass and you'll be better off man.

[saX man 643]

I kinda had the same thing happen to me. I'll tell ya how mine went down and what I did.

Went to the beach with my gf. I was out of a job at the time and she literally begged me to go. So I did but I rode with her. Bad move on my part. We got down there and we stayed with her friends who were guy friends and a few girls that were butt ugly. She ended up flirting trying to get me to try harder for her. That exactly how a girls thought process works. She kept flirting and I told her in private it better stop now. She got pissed for some reason and continued

We fought another day or so then I packed my poo and told her what a bitch she was walked out like a bad ass. She's like where u going. I said we are done.

Of course she acted if she didn't care. I went and chilled with and old friend of mine who I hooked up with before, when she lived back in my hometown. She was going to coastal carolina at this time tho.

My then ex started to text me telling me how she was sorry and I hurt her and all this and that.

So basically if a girl ever treats u this way then it's just a game for them. No man deserves to be treated as such so don't feel bad. I admit it kinda got to me at first but it will pass and you'll be better off man.

 

Cool dude. Really appreciate the post. I mean, I keep thinking that I'm being an idiot, she's not really treating me bad, she didn't realize what she was doing and I overreacted.  I just want to be on good terms and it now sounds like we'll chill a few more times before I leave.   The thing is, there clearly is something here or we wouldn't have gotten back twice before.