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#16 pstall

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Posted 29 March 2014 - 09:20 PM

Everything goes better.....with Rice



#17 Riverboat Ron

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Posted 29 March 2014 - 09:26 PM

Say goodbye to half your dollar bills Ray, she'll drop you like it's hot in a few months.

 

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Posted 29 March 2014 - 09:39 PM

Actually they may have gotten married as a legal maneuver. I wonder if they are now protected by a legal theory/law called spousal privilege (spousal testimonial privilege).



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Posted 29 March 2014 - 10:02 PM

14 posts and not one condemnation of the "man" who did this?

 

Messed up.

 

I won't judge her because I can't know what else happens in their relationship.

 

 

His deviant behavior and response to it pretty much goes without saying.  But, just to make you feel better:

 

http://www.carolinah...= rice charged

 

 

That being said, if a woman marries a guy that has knocked her out, and who has dragged and dropped her unceremoniously like a sack of potatoes (face down) as opposed to picking her up in his loving, strong arms, then you can't tell me that she doesn't have some screws loose. If that were my daughter, I would be raising pure hell. And, it wouldn't matter what happened in the relationship. For me, that would be the end of it.

 

Fortunately I have a son that I have taught that it's never OK to hit a woman---restrain her, yes, but hit her, no.  Now of course there may be some women out there who can put a beating on a guy, but I haven't seen them (although I know that they exist).  In any event, my son is 6'2"-ish and around 230 lbs at 15 years old, so I tell him I don't think that he'll ever have that problem.



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Posted 29 March 2014 - 10:14 PM

Can't be compelled to testify now.

 

Not to be the joke killer but if he actually physically assaults her the state of New Jersey compels her to testify against him.



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Posted 29 March 2014 - 10:15 PM

Actually they may have gotten married as a legal maneuver. I wonder if they are now protected by a legal theory/law called spousal privilege (spousal testimonial privilege).

 

Spousal privilege doesn't apply when the spouse is the victim of the crime.



#22 Khaki Lackey

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Posted 29 March 2014 - 10:15 PM

Oh, the things a guy will do to keep a woman from testifying against him.
"Sure I want to go jewelry and shoe shopping, sweetie!"

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Posted 29 March 2014 - 10:21 PM

Not to be the joke killer but if he actually physically assaults her the state of New Jersey compels her to testify against him.

 

It wasn't a joke, but I see where you're right after looking it up. Abuse is an exemption to spousal privilege.



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Posted 29 March 2014 - 10:28 PM

WTF?? Stop the planet I wanna get off....



#25 Jangler

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Posted 29 March 2014 - 11:05 PM



#26 CarolinaPanthersCynic

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Posted 30 March 2014 - 01:29 AM

This isn't new. Hope Solo is married to a rapist who used to play in the NFL who also beat her up.

 

Society is collapsing. I don't understand how it still holds up. How do these people maintain family relations? Do their parents visit them and attend weddings and holiday parties and shake hands and chum it up with their daughter's violent abuser?

 

Women have very little self-respect these days. Perhaps it's an inherent thing. In older traditions and older cultures women didn't make many decisions. Mostly their male family members decided for them and you had arranged marriages.

 

Often people mock Islam and the culture but our culture isn't much better. Their women walk around shrouded, ours walk around practically naked with leggings and similar items of clothing. Look at the disgusting crimes in the news everyday in our country, the violence toward women, the rape, etc.

 

At least outsiders can look at them and blame religion. What can we point to for our failed society? Nothing. Only ourselves.



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Posted 30 March 2014 - 02:11 AM

This isn't new. Hope Solo is married to a rapist who used to play in the NFL who also beat her up.

 

Society is collapsing. I don't understand how it still holds up. How do these people maintain family relations? Do their parents visit them and attend weddings and holiday parties and shake hands and chum it up with their daughter's violent abuser?

 

Women have very little self-respect these days. Perhaps it's an inherent thing. In older traditions and older cultures women didn't make many decisions. Mostly their male family members decided for them and you had arranged marriages.

 

Often people mock Islam and the culture but our culture isn't much better. Their women walk around shrouded, ours walk around practically naked with leggings and similar items of clothing. Look at the disgusting crimes in the news everyday in our country, the violence toward women, the rape, etc.

 

At least outsiders can look at them and blame religion. What can we point to for our failed society? Nothing. Only ourselves.

 

there are drastic differences between both societies...  you should talk to someone who knows the difference.



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Posted 30 March 2014 - 02:58 AM

Lucky guy.. hard to find a women who can take a punch these days.



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Posted 30 March 2014 - 06:11 AM

Let the facts come out, right now there is no evidence out to the public that he "beat" and "choked" her. All we know is there was an altercation, in which she ended up unconscious and BOTH were arrested for that night.

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Posted 30 March 2014 - 08:56 AM

This thread is hilarious.

 

My wife and I are sitting here shaking our heads to this mess. But I promise you all, its not for what you think.

 

As long as people make comments and take the stance that most people on this topic have taken real spousal abuse will continue to run rampant in our society. Comments like "Ray Rice is despicable because he put his hands on a woman blah, blah, blah". When there was obviously an altercation in which the police felt that there was enough evidence to arrest and charge them both. 

 

Real abuse victims don't get into "altercations". They almost never fight back or initiate conflict. The abuse and control tends to be total. Its rarely public  but when it is it can be no doubt that one person is a victim, yet people look the other way. Situations like what happened to this couple is what puts in the back of peoples minds that somehow the victim is to blame when actual abuse cases are brought up. People become desensitized to it, because they see instances like this where both people were likely at fault for the situation but only one side is being blamed. It generates unspoken empathy for the accused and erodes sympathy for the victim.  

 

Young girls are taught that "no boy should put their hands on you" instead of being taught to treat both boys and girls as equals. Young boys are taught to "never put their hands on a girl" so girls become something to be avoided for fear of authoritative reprisal (atleast until puberty) Little girls are protected and isolated. Placed on a pedestal above boys, by men. Young children lose out on the opportunity to gain adequate understanding of the opposite sex at an early age and as adults have horrible interpersonal problems that often lead to violence. I.e. Young women become demanding and inconsiderate and young men become apathetic and impersonal. They never see each other as equals because they have never been given the chance too their entire lives.

 

The role of a husband and wife gets taught later in life leading to unrealistic expectations of behavior. As a result, people tend to try and mimic the societal image of their gender in order to gain a mate, but lose it the second the relationship becomes uncomfortable. When they are left with their own expectations of the others behavior and no understanding of the each other, violence often ensues. 

 

The real role is "THERE IS NO ROLE". Ideals of ultra masculinity and forced femininity are not conducive to an equal society of men and women. It forces men into the role of protector and in effect dominance over the women and places women on the defensive. Once again when one side is fighting for its independence, violence often ensues. Some men are incredibly masculine, I consider myself one. Some women are very feminine. But most people are somewhere in between. But the "American Mating Ritual" places us into the most extreme of these roles because we are taught that that is what is right. So that "sweet, innocent, submissive, maiden" becomes the nagging wife after marriage and that "strong, manly protector" becomes the disinterested overweight couch potato.

 

All this is EXTREMELY common in todays society. Arguments and yes even violence is very common in American households. While this is not necessarily a good thing, IT IS NOT SPOUSAL ABUSE.  That is a different phenomenon all together. For spousal abuse some people are just abusive, period. They cannot be rehabilitated. It is in their nature. It generally extends to all parts of their life. From work, to relationships to parenting. Lumping all marital fights under the title bad, bad, man shouldn't be hitting that sweet innocent helpless woman is detrimental to the true fight against real abuse.

 

 




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