Oh well....if your friends dad said that the HOA called him a jerk - then he MUST be a jerk.
I got a letter from my HOA once because my wife got clay red planters for our front porch and apparently all outside pottery must match the color of the house or the trim. The pots were purchased on a Saturday and we got a letter on Tuesday. Dealing with HOA's can bring out the jerk in most people.
This. Im the president of my HOA and I despise one of my members due to how he acted when our HOA was forming. There were hundreds of mean spirited emails exchanged and even a face to face shouting match. Im past the point of hiding it and im just up front with my dislike of him. He knows it, i know it, no point in trying to hide my true feelings. So yea, absolutely HOA's can bring out the worst in people.
As for the Steve thing, it sucks something fierce, but it is part of the game. However some of the negative comments coming from this fan base towards him can only be due bandwagon fans or casual Panther fans. If you bleed black and blue, the only acceptable response to the latest news is of disappointment in the FO and depression that one of the greatest Panthers of all time, may not be a Panther much longer. Thats it. There are no more correct responses.