Sorry guys, but you're no different. Your ideas put you on the same mental and philosophical plane as any racist, sexist, homophobe or other bigot.
You want to spin it so that your prejudice is justified? Guess what? So does every other bigot. Their arguments all essentially break down to "that's just how it really is".
And likewise, you project your beliefs on others with some form of "everybody else is too stupid to get it" or "everyone else thinks this way too but just won't admit it".
By accepting those ideas, you've put yourself in the same category as the KKK, the Aryan nation and the Westboro Baptist Church.
Your ideas and thought processes are no different than theirs. You just chose a different target.
And that's truthfully the only difference I've ever found between one bigot and another.