my wife had a friend a few years ago who was jerking her around like that-making plans and not following through, standing her up, being awkward, etc. her behavior just kind of inexplicably changed over night. she was still friendly and bordering on flirty with me which didn't sit well with my wife naturally. it seemed like she was trying to play head games and it slowly started to boil over.
my wife lost her patience, there was an eventual confrontation which the friend did not take well at all, and that was the last of it. all i learned from it was that i don't understand female social dynamics at all and i just need to worry about keeping the cars running and the yard maintained.
You know what also irks me about the whole way that Hardy was handled? If the Panthers really weren't interested in re-signing Hardy, then they may as well had played him. We would have gotten our money's worth as opposed to him getting 13 million dollars for basically nothing. Oh, that's right, it hurt Jerry Richardson's sensibilities and would have caused the team---and more importantly, the shield---irreparable harm. Richardson couldn't be more like the 49ers with Ray McDonald who really had something invested in their player than we had in a player whom we were kicking to the curb anyway.
We could have gotten our money's worth, then kicked Hardy to the curb, but for Richardson acting like a pussy cat as opposed to a Panther.
why didn't they play him? because roger goodell would have suspended him without pay if we did. gettleman was open about the fact that discipline from the panthers wasn't on the table in the joint press conference that he gave with ron rivera after hardy was de-activated against detroit. the exempt list was a favor to hardy but he pissed all over it by barely showing his face in the building which his status allowed him to do.
everything that was coming out of the panthers camp prior to the ray rice video was that they were going to let the legal process play out. we got caught up in the NFL's scramble for damage control, goodell came down with an ultimatum, and here we are.
in the end only one team is going to draft the kid and the panthers will be one of 31 other franchises that either passed or, if he doesn't make it out of the first, didn't trade up to get him. there are probably good teams that don't even have him on their board so shove your snarky "har har only choir boys here in carolina" bullshit
the panthers aren't that weird, different, or special in spite of your limited perspective