F*ck It: I'm Outta Here -

rayj · 08-01-2006, 07:47 PM

Some of you may have been wondering why I haven't been posting at all for the past day and a half. The reason is simple: I've been debating as to whether I want to remain part of this community. After a LOT of thought, I've decided that it's better for me if I leave, for good. This will be my final post here on the Huddle.

Certain people here (Val, Dimbee, a few others... you know who you are) have continued making "jokes" about me being gay... this despite the fact that I have politely asked them not to, more than once.

Now, before you label me as humorless, I want you to understand that I do have a sense of humor about myself. I've been picked on here for being a geek, for having an art collection, for not having a girlfriend... and I was totally fine with all of that. However, I've made it clear that my sense of humor about myself does not extend into statements, joking or otherwise, concerning me being gay. For the record, I am not gay (and you can take that "methinks you doth protest too much" crap and cram it up your ass sideways, TC), and any speculation about whether I am because of the decor of my condo is stereotyping at its worst. (Dimbee... I'm sure your gay brother would be proud of how you really seem to feel about gays, based on some of your posts.)

I've also been accused of having a double standard when it comes to this, given my repetitive jokes in the direction of Jester (concerning his sheep) and JR (concerning his sexual behavior). The difference is that these two fine individuals, for whom I have a lot of respect, have apparently consented to this sort of thing... I've never seen either of them protest when a joke is made at their expense, and I've never had a single negative thought towards either of these two guys. If either of them ever had said "hey, please don't joke about <x>", I would have stopped immediately... and I would have expected the same of anyone here when I did the same thing. I admit that my sense of humor about myself may not be as fully-developed as it is for other people... but I doubt that certain people here (Cooter, for example) would put up with someone making jokes about THEM being gay. (Even if I am wrong about this, it still doesn't excuse what's been done.)

So, I want you all to know WHY I am leaving... and I want to be very clear about this. It's because of the inconsiderate, immature behavior of assh*les like Dimbee and Val, who just can't leave well enough alone when someone politely asks them to stop doing something. Now, if they were anyone else here (Charlottenian, for example), I would do to them what I did to Charlottenian for a while: Set them on Ignore. Sadly, these two jackasses are moderators, and therefore they cannot be Ignored. Since I cannot Ignore them, and since they insist on continuing to behave in a manner which completely pisses me off, the only solution left is for me to take my leave of this site.

Before you think this is all negative, though, I want to say "farewell" to a few people:

Zod, JR, Jester, NH, Ms. Skyy, Livermush, Cooter, Monkeybutt, CosmoGirl (the only Huddler I've ever actually met, to my knowledge), Cyberjag, Mr. Scot [and Quak and Fox], Tweeder, Anavax, Ladyvamp, Alverez, GTG, Sunbunny, Squirrel, Dawg, Buddha, Duekster, Solorca, Cptx: I enjoyed hanging out with all of you, even if it was just online. (I'm sure I've forgotten some people. Forgive me, please.) Maybe I'll see some of you at the Panthers games... look for JOHANSON 37.

Charlottenian: Good luck with med school, but dude... stop boasting about your parents' house and cars and bidets.

Alan Ford, KK, Delhommey, and Wedge: Get a clue, will you?
Val and Dimbee: F*ck you, assh*les.

One final note: I came here from the Charlotte.com forums, which are heavily moderated... and found myself in a place that is almost totally UNmoderated. I think the Huddle would be a better place, one that I'd like to visit, if it was better moderated. Ms. Skyy is a good mod... she steps in and cools people down when a thread gets too hot. For that she has my thanks. Moderators are not supposed to alienate the people they're moderating.

So anyway... I've had a lot of fun here these past 7 months, but it's not fun anymore. I don't want to be here if it's not fun for me.

GO PANTHERS!

Clay (rayj@rayj.com)

Tweeder · 08-01-2006, 07:53 PM

Comments questioning your sexual preference ran you off???

Sorry I just do not get it, but I wouldn't let what somebody online says get to me. Especially coming from a Bears fan and a guy that wears a man purse!!

Cyberjag · 08-01-2006, 07:54 PM

Well, for what it's worth I think you're an excellent contributor and will miss reading your posts. I think the reaction you're having is the wrong one, but you know that. Still, if it's no fun for you then no one can blame you for leaving.

I just hope you'll stop in and visit every now and then. Maybe if you do at some point you can get some of that fun back and be a regular again.

Ms.Skyy · 08-01-2006, 07:55 PM

clay I didn't even read your whole post.

Seriously, don't go.
It's a message board and 99.9% mess around joke around, but in reality really like you.
Don't let some dumbass bully crap run you off.
You are better than that.
F*ck em

gregp701 · 08-01-2006, 07:56 PM

I hope you will reconsider. I truely mean it.

Dawg · 08-01-2006, 07:59 PM

Know how I know you're gay? You started an "I'm leaving the board" thread.

Come on, dude. At least no one called you a Falcons fan. (not that there's anything wrong with that)

Zod · 08-01-2006, 07:59 PM

In all honesty I don't recall ever seeing those two call you any names. Maybe namecalling on here in jest is such commonplace I never even realize when its going on.

Also, JR is a flaming homo.

pantherclaw · 08-01-2006, 08:00 PM

Clay, man. Where is your self confidence? I'm pretty sure you are happy with who you are. Long is that is the case, don't let anything anyone says, get to you ~ regardless whom it is (friend, family, celeb, etc, etc).

sunbunny · 08-01-2006, 08:00 PM

I hope you reconsider leaving, too.

Tweeder · 08-01-2006, 08:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zod

In all honesty I don't recall ever seeing those two call you any names. Maybe namecalling on here in jest is such commonplace I never even realize when its going on.

Also, JR is a flaming homo.

tell us something we do not know

Duekster · 08-01-2006, 08:04 PM

Wow I made the list. Is that good or bad?

Personally, I would stay and get even.

Gentleman Jack · 08-01-2006, 08:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Duekster

Wow I made the list. Is that good or bad?

Personally, I would stay and get even.

You damn right!!

murphman13 · 08-01-2006, 08:08 PM

If you want my advice rayj (and you probably don't), just take a few weeks off and cool down a little. Watch a few of the Panther's pre-season games (you are a Panthers fan right?), troll a little if you want to, and try back later.

If not, then take care, bro.

Tweeder · 08-01-2006, 08:11 PM

speaking of Mods.....shouldnt this Thread title be changed????

w280sax · 08-01-2006, 08:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tweederunc

speaking of Mods.....shouldnt this Thread title be changed????

I thought about it but I wasn't gonna rub salt in any wounds.

As to clay, I'm sorry that you were offended...if you change your mind, you are welcome here as far as I'm concerned.

08-01-2006, 07:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
rayj ...has left the building. Forum Legend Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Charlotte, NC Posts: 3,506 Rep Power: 151	*Fck It: I'm Outta Here** Some of you may have been wondering why I haven't been posting at all for the past day and a half. The reason is simple: I've been debating as to whether I want to remain part of this community. After a LOT of thought, I've decided that it's better for me if I leave, for good. This will be my final post here on the Huddle. Certain people here (Val, Dimbee, a few others... you know who you are) have continued making "jokes" about me being gay... this despite the fact that I have politely asked them not to, more than once. Now, before you label me as humorless, I want you to understand that I do have a sense of humor about myself. I've been picked on here for being a geek, for having an art collection, for not having a girlfriend... and I was totally fine with all of that. However, I've made it clear that my sense of humor about myself does not extend into statements, joking or otherwise, concerning me being gay. For the record, I am not gay (and you can take that "methinks you doth protest too much" crap and cram it up your ass sideways, TC), and any speculation about whether I am because of the decor of my condo is stereotyping at its worst. (Dimbee... I'm sure your gay brother would be proud of how you really seem to feel about gays, based on some of your posts.) I've also been accused of having a double standard when it comes to this, given my repetitive jokes in the direction of Jester (concerning his sheep) and JR (concerning his sexual behavior). The difference is that these two fine individuals, for whom I have a lot of respect, have apparently consented to this sort of thing... I've never seen either of them protest when a joke is made at their expense, and I've never had a single negative thought towards either of these two guys. If either of them ever had said "hey, please don't joke about <x>", I would have stopped immediately... and I would have expected the same of anyone here when I did the same thing. I admit that my sense of humor about myself may not be as fully-developed as it is for other people... but I doubt that certain people here (Cooter, for example) would put up with someone making jokes about THEM being gay. (Even if I am wrong about this, it still doesn't excuse what's been done.) So, I want you all to know WHY I am leaving... and I want to be very clear about this. It's because of the inconsiderate, immature behavior of asshles like Dimbee and Val, who just can't leave well enough alone when someone politely asks them to stop doing something. Now, if they were anyone else here (Charlottenian, for example), I would do to them what I did to Charlottenian for a while: Set them on Ignore. Sadly, these two jackasses are moderators, and therefore they cannot be Ignored. Since I cannot Ignore them, and since they insist on continuing to behave in a manner which completely pisses me off, the only solution left is for me to take my leave of this site. Before you think this is all negative, though, I want to say "farewell" to a few people: Zod, JR, Jester, NH, Ms. Skyy, Livermush, Cooter, Monkeybutt, CosmoGirl (the only Huddler I've ever actually met, to my knowledge), Cyberjag, Mr. Scot [and Quak and Fox], Tweeder, Anavax, Ladyvamp, Alverez, GTG, Sunbunny, Squirrel, Dawg, Buddha, Duekster, Solorca, Cptx: I enjoyed hanging out with all of you, even if it was just online. (I'm sure I've forgotten some people. Forgive me, please.) Maybe I'll see some of you at the Panthers games... look for JOHANSON 37. Charlottenian: Good luck with med school, but dude... stop boasting about your parents' house and cars and bidets. Alan Ford, KK, Delhommey, and Wedge: Get a clue, will you? Val and Dimbee: Fck you, assh*les. One final note: I came here from the Charlotte.com forums, which are heavily moderated... and found myself in a place that is almost totally UNmoderated. I think the Huddle would be a better place, one that I'd like to visit, if it was better moderated. Ms. Skyy is a good mod... she steps in and cools people down when a thread gets too hot. For that she has my thanks. Moderators are not supposed to alienate the people they're moderating. So anyway... I've had a lot of fun here these past 7 months, but it's not fun anymore. I don't want to be here if it's not fun for me. GO PANTHERS! Clay (rayj@rayj.com)

08-01-2006, 07:53 PM	#2 (permalink)
Tweeder The Bushmaster Forum Legend Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Comfortably Numb Age: 27 Posts: 20,955 Rep Power: 812	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here Comments questioning your sexual preference ran you off??? Sorry I just do not get it, but I wouldn't let what somebody online says get to me. Especially coming from a Bears fan and a guy that wears a man purse!! __________________ 2008 LOW BALL CHAMPION!!!!** Take Everything, Give Up Nothing "Women are my toys, wind'em up and watch'em go" "What if I say I'm not like the others? What if I say I'm not just another one of your plays You're the pretender What if I say I will never surrender?"

08-01-2006, 07:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
Cyberjag Huddle Handyman Forum Legend Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Concord Posts: 13,275 Rep Power: 1266	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here** Well, for what it's worth I think you're an excellent contributor and will miss reading your posts. I think the reaction you're having is the wrong one, but you know that. Still, if it's no fun for you then no one can blame you for leaving. I just hope you'll stop in and visit every now and then. Maybe if you do at some point you can get some of that fun back and be a regular again. __________________ Pain is temporary, quitting is forever. - Lance Armstrong "The American people will never knowingly adopt socialism. But, under the name of 'liberalism,' they will adopt every fragment of the socialist program, until one day America will be a socialist nation, without knowing how it happened." - Norman Thomas, U.S. Socialist Party presidential candidate 1940, 1944 and 1948

08-01-2006, 07:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
Ms.Skyy Premium Member Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: None of your business Posts: 30,285 Rep Power: 925	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here** clay I didn't even read your whole post. Seriously, don't go. It's a message board and 99.9% mess around joke around, but in reality really like you. Don't let some dumbass bully crap run you off. You are better than that. F*ck em

08-01-2006, 07:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
gregp701 Blind Del-homer Forum Legend Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Homerville Age: 39 Posts: 9,668 Rep Power: 1024	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here** I hope you will reconsider. I truely mean it.

08-01-2006, 07:59 PM	#7 (permalink)
Zod Your Ruler Forum Legend Join Date: May 2004 Location: Lake Norman, NC Age: 33 Posts: 36,726 Rep Power: 5000	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here** In all honesty I don't recall ever seeing those two call you any names. Maybe namecalling on here in jest is such commonplace I never even realize when its going on. Also, JR is a flaming homo. __________________

08-01-2006, 08:00 PM	#8 (permalink)
pantherclaw Huddle Legend Forum Legend Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Galveston, Texas Age: 33 Posts: 15,106 Rep Power: 931	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here** Clay, man. Where is your self confidence? I'm pretty sure you are happy with who you are. Long is that is the case, don't let anything anyone says, get to you ~ regardless whom it is (friend, family, celeb, etc, etc).

08-01-2006, 08:00 PM	#9 (permalink)
sunbunny Bitchy Bunny Forum Legend Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Being a crabby bitch is just part of my charm Posts: 12,268 Rep Power: 630	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here** I hope you reconsider leaving, too.

08-01-2006, 08:04 PM	#11 (permalink)
Duekster Premium Member Forum Legend Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Grand Prairie TX Posts: 22,394 Rep Power: 1047	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here Wow I made the list. Is that good or bad? Personally, I would stay and get even. __________________ http://perotcharts.com/home/**

08-01-2006, 08:08 PM	#13 (permalink)
murphman13 Joe Cool Forum Legend Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Oh, round bout here Age: 41 Posts: 9,899 Rep Power: 801	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here** If you want my advice rayj (and you probably don't), just take a few weeks off and cool down a little. Watch a few of the Panther's pre-season games (you are a Panthers fan right?), troll a little if you want to, and try back later. If not, then take care, bro. __________________

08-01-2006, 08:11 PM	#14 (permalink)
Tweeder The Bushmaster Forum Legend Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Comfortably Numb Age: 27 Posts: 20,955 Rep Power: 812	*Re: Fck It: I'm Outta Here speaking of Mods.....shouldnt this Thread title be changed???? __________________ 2008 LOW BALL CHAMPION!!!!** Take Everything, Give Up Nothing "Women are my toys, wind'em up and watch'em go" "What if I say I'm not like the others? What if I say I'm not just another one of your plays You're the pretender What if I say I will never surrender?"

08-01-2006, 08:15 PM	#16 (permalink)
Cyberjag Huddle Handyman Forum Legend Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Concord Posts: 13,275 Rep Power: 1266