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The ability of Fathers and Sons to have a conversation...

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what does he like to do?

Who?

You have the vaguest damned posts :lol:

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Who?

You have the vaguest damned posts :lol:

sorry... your dad. what does he like to do?

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sorry... your dad. what does he like to do?

Honestly ? Not much of anything other than work.

He grew up working a hard farm life. Grinding through being a mechanic till he retired as a shop supervisor for the State. All he knows how to really do is work. He has a hard time unwinding or having "fun" as you say.

It's hard to describe.

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I ask for advice regarding work, photography, cars. Most dad's love dolling out advice.

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The fundamental connection you both have...you're both fathers of sons (well, you are anyway). If you can't make a connection about the life of a father....then you may indeed have a rough road to hoe.

I was almost 30 before I had a real conversation with my dad. He was a hardass, too....but he has done a 180 the second he started having grandkids.

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Yeah that's my dad too. I like to work my 40 then enjoy football, free time, and family. My dad works his 60 and complains about how tired he is. I bring up sports in his presence and he says stuff like "some of us are too busy working to keep up with that stuff". The one thing that bothers me more than anything is when I see him bully my nieces the way he bullied me. I don't believe in treating kids that way.

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I ask for advice regarding work, photography, cars. Most dad's love dolling out advice.

this is my experience as well. advice and stories about the past.

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My dad and I were that way for a little while. He's 65, and he's been working full time since he was 15. I'm a broke 23 year old college student about to enlist in the Army. We talk about racing, football, military, SOME politics (but this is usually a no-go), food, "projects" that he wants to do/wants me to help with in/around the house.

Outside of that, we don't say much. He stays to himself, I stay to myself. When I'm not home, we might talk on the phone once over the course of 2-3 months. Now, it sounds like we may talk more than you and yours, but it really isn't that much (and it's usually talking about and doing something like building on to the back porch, repairing a small motor, changing the starter on my jeep, etc.).

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I feel your pain Kurby, in a way.

My dad is capable of expressing himself and we get along great, we just don't have anything in common, and therefore don't spend much time together. Throw in the fact that he's still turning wrenches to make a living at almost 60 and he's working most weekends, the only time I have off.

He likes Nascar, building computers, and diet coke.

I like football, golf, and Pepsi max. Go figure.

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I had a strained relationship with my dad for a long time after I moved out, got married and started a family. We had no common interests and even fewer common beliefs.

What we did was talk about TV and movies. Eventually that led us to other things of more substance and now we are pretty ok. Not great mind you but its a work in progress.

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