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#31 CarolinaNCSU

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 11:48 AM

Awesome news and congrats man! I'm a tad too young to give marriage advice, but I will share something I've learned over my short years. You can either be right, or you can be happy. Remember it.

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:24 PM

how so? Obviously it works perfect for us..It may not work for everyone..but to keep some money separate is smart

I take care of bills..I let him know what I need..he transfers money to me..and I transfer money to him sometimes...I like to know how much money I'm working with..one debit card is all that's associated with my account..no one else spends on it..I know exactly what I have at all times..why is that bad?

oh wait..you're not married..what the hell do you know...come back to me after a few years

you know what bruce...I take back any advice I obviously don't know what I'm talking about, I am only just a woman...good luck and god speed.


you are the exception and not the standard then...everyone that I've talked to about this has given the opposite advice. I see the ones who keep it separate and its a huge issue. One buddy struggles while she's off buying Kate Spade purses...but she contributes to the bills and lives at a different income level. (Actually know several like this)

#33 Mrs Pantherfan

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:29 PM

those sound like horrible selfish wives ..sucks to be married to them

#34 Panthro

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:36 PM

We already combined our bills. We both have a credit card (I keep my limit low) and I have a Amex Charge because I might throw $2-5k in business travel on there a month.

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:39 PM

you know what bruce...I take back any advice I obviously don't know what I'm talking about, I am only just a woman...good luck and god speed.


this, folks, is "a tizzy"

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#36 Darth Biscuit

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:40 PM

We have combined accounts, she does the finances, I buy whatever I want so does she... works for me.

#37 Epistaxis

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:43 PM

The key isn't the accounts, but rather finding someone that shares your feelings and attitude on spending.

#38 Kettle

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:43 PM

I'm in the combined account group. I do wish I had a small one of my own so I could get hookers and blow without her saying, "Hey, what's this withdrawal for?"


Okay not hookers and blow. Gifts and other surprises for her.

#39 Jase

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:46 PM

we have combined accounts, but will be running a deficit even with meager allowance for groceries and eating out. So nobody's buying things they want in my house. :(

Thanks a lot, daycare.

#40 Mrs Pantherfan

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:46 PM

ya'll just forget I ever mentioned anything..I'm obviously in the minority and no one understands what I'm talking about

#41 Kettle

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:49 PM

I see it both ways MPF, but at this point seperate accounts doesn't make sense for us. She's a stay at home mom, and even though she is drawing some unemployment(well timed layoff) she still doesn't draw enough income that she doesn't have to depend on me.

Different situations are good for different people.

#42 MadHatter

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:49 PM

We've been dating for four years, and I do not know how it has happened.

I am definitely "marrying up" and I am not even rich!

She would kill me if she knew I posted this.

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Yes I am bragging.


You better ask that woman to marry you...and quick.

She is gonna wake up one morning and figure out that she can do a hell of a lot better than you.:D

Just like my wife. I found an incredible woman who was willing to put up with me....and I snatched her up QUICK.

#43 PantherBrew

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:50 PM

see what I started....

I just want us to be a happy family again.

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#44 bleys

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:52 PM

ya'll just forget I ever mentioned anything..I'm obviously in the minority and no one understands what I'm talking about


codependency is an epidemic in America today..

#45 MadHatter

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:53 PM

Wife and I had separate accounts for the longest time. However, we met after both of our careers were in full swing. We were both CPA's workign for one of the Big 4 firms. Our salaries were very similar and we already had individual accounts.

We just kept it that way. Each took about half the bills and saved an equal amount from our checks. The rest was for each of us to do with as we wanted.

Now, she is a stay at home mom and we have one account....which she completely controls.

Hell, I could not even tell you what accounts I have or how much is in them.


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