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#21 j2sgam

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 03:33 PM

My wife is 33, so about 18 year difference... I have already had the disagreement with my MiL about raising her daughters. She said she raised them both the same way. I told her that she cant do that, they are completely different people and you cannot cookie cutter raising children. This all stemmed from Jaime having a boy over after school when no responsible adult was around. I will not allow that.... But that is another story...

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 03:37 PM

My wife is 33, so about 18 year difference... I have already had the disagreement with my MiL about raising her daughters. She said she raised them both the same way. I told her that she cant do that, they are completely different people and you cannot cookie cutter raising children. This all stemmed from Jaime having a boy over after school when no responsible adult was around. I will not allow that.... But that is another story...



I figured that a boy was involved somewhere in there.

Also why is she not in school?

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 03:44 PM

The incident above & what happened yesterday are not directly related... The above happened late Sept/early Oct....

She is, she goes to high school and her day is done before the elementary schools let out....

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 03:54 PM

The incident above & what happened yesterday are not directly related... The above happened late Sept/early Oct....

She is, she goes to high school and her day is done before the elementary schools let out....



Gotcha.

Maybe set up a daily reminder on that sacred phone of hers.

At the same time, assign extra chores for her to do as well, and put those on the phone calendar.

All kids and many adults need some structure. Don't let her get away with "blonde moments".

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 04:12 PM

I like that idea...lock the phone down and install daily reminders/to do list.

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 04:15 PM

I like that idea...lock the phone down and install daily reminders/to do list.



There you go.

Make having that phone a little more work and a little less fun.

I get meeting, e-mail, phone call, etc...reminders all day long and into the night.

Having my phone is not so fun to be honest.

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 04:50 PM

Point well taken, thefuzz....

This is what I came up with, based on the good advice given:
As I said, I have the sim card from the phone. She can have the phone back tonight & if she figures out the issue then i will tell her that I took the sim card out & she can have it back. Then I will have a blond moment as I try to remember that I put it in my wallet. She can have it back tomorrow, if her attitude allows. I will let her know that the consequences will much, much more should this happen again.....

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Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:41 PM

tough dynamic also with all those under one roof. been there before.

as long as the flow goes that its your casa and your rules, that should keep the structure in place. the tough part is the girl not being yours AND her age. double whammy.

at times, cabin fever can drive others a bit batty so at times you might have to be a hormonal/testosterone ref and sense when its time to move people around or just get them out of the house for a bit.

you, your wife, the mil and other sister need to be on the same page and that is tough sledding but if you can build that aliance, you stand a better chance with the teen.

good luck man

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Posted 19 December 2012 - 04:27 PM

Threats are useless unless you plan on following through with them... You part Arabic? Talk to me...


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Posted 19 December 2012 - 06:27 PM

I don't agree at all with the sentiment that you can't punish her since she is not your kid. 15 year old living in my house means I can definitely punish her.

If this is a first offense, I would probably be relatively easy going, as your wife did. But make sure that she knows that if it happens again, punishment will be far more severe. And then if she does it again, ensure that you follow through on the threat. And by that, I mean grab the cellphone and smash it against a rock. Throw a fit, scare the crap out of her. Let her know you have a crazy side. :)


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