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Posted 29 June 2013 - 07:27 AM

Good thing u do.

I would have told my kid to shoot him in the face for spitting on him. Don't judge my parenting, u don't know my kid, all kids are different.

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Posted 29 June 2013 - 07:30 AM

You guys write some books after you have raised kids. Just becuase you now have a newborn, does not mean you totally understand parenting or all kids. No child is like another child and you don't get a set of microwave instructions that work for every one.

And you that don't have kids but are giving advice, go back to bed.

 

I have twin 10 year olds too nimrod. I have every right to give an opinion on what to do with a 5 year old. The guy started a thread asking for opinions, I gave one because I went through it, twice.



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Posted 29 June 2013 - 07:50 AM

When my oldest (somewhat of a pacifist) was 6 or 7 he had a seatmate on the bus who was too physical. He would pinch him in the back everyday. I asked my son if he wanted to try to handle it himself and surprisingly he said yes. So we coached him on the right way to handle it. He asked the kid politely to stop. The next day he explained that he didn't like it and asked more sternly. Third day he said very sternly to stop.

 

Anyway the kid kept messing with him and we simply had him moved to sit with someone else. The new kid became his best friend.

 

Even though the "bully" didn't stop our kid learned a lot by trying to handle it by himself. Never did we consider retaliation.

 

Not sure if we are good parents but our son seemed happy with the situation overall.


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Posted 29 June 2013 - 07:58 AM

I guess my philosophy is that you will not be around for the majority of these conflicts. Kids are pretty much on their own and all you can do is hopefully give them the tools and confidence to do the right thing.



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Posted 29 June 2013 - 08:22 AM

I have twin 10 year olds too nimrod. I have every right to give an opinion on what to do with a 5 year old. The guy started a thread asking for opinions, I gave one because I went through it, twice.


My point being, nimrod or not, that his kid is not yours. You raised your guys and know them well. Quick advice on what YOU would do, might not work on his kid.

If you sternly tell a class full of kids the same thing, half of them will understand, the other half wont' be listening or will be daydreaming or talking to a friend or needing to pee.

All I am saying as that a clear set of instructions does not come with each kid.

I am also a bit amused that after visiting the Huddle, he would come here for advice. Maybe on which is the best lawn mower, yes, but how to raise a kid?

I will bet Zod, that your newborn will be totally different from your older guys.
All good, but your tact might have to change with the new one to achieve the same good results. Nobodys fault, just that you will see you have a whole new guy that takes instructions differently.

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Posted 29 June 2013 - 08:39 AM

My point being, nimrod or not, that his kid is not yours. You raised your guys and know them well. Quick advice on what YOU would do, might not work on his kid.

If you sternly tell a class full of kids the same thing, half of them will understand, the other half wont' be listening or will be daydreaming or talking to a friend or needing to pee.

All I am saying as that a clear set of instructions does not come with each kid.

I am also a bit amused that after visiting the Huddle, he would come here for advice. Maybe on which is the best lawn mower, yes, but how to raise a kid?

I will bet Zod, that your newborn will be totally different from your older guys.
All good, but your tact might have to change with the new one to achieve the same good results. Nobodys fault, just that you will see you have a whole new guy that takes instructions differently.

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Yes not all kids are the same.

But there are a general set of ideals and behaviors that ALL kids should be taught.

A few:


- don't bite/hit/kick others
- don't take what doesn't belong to you
- don't make fun of others

I feel like these are a pretty simple base line of behaviors that are extremely easy to instill in a child yet so many parents fail miserably.

It's almost as if today's societal incompetence extends also to parenting.

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Posted 29 June 2013 - 08:42 AM

I'm pretty sure there's not a "type" of child for which "Punch that bitch in the face" would be sound advice to give them.



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Posted 29 June 2013 - 08:44 AM

I'm pretty sure there's not a "type" of child for which "Punch that bitch in the face" would be sound advice to give them.


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Posted 29 June 2013 - 08:46 AM

From the mouths of babes.....


Zod, I know you hate conservatives, but let's see where you land when you are 50.

You are teaching toddlers "responsibility" in hopes that they will become productive members of society.

Your kid, I dare say, will most likely adjust well and not be a taker of other toys when older, a spitter in the face of people not like him, etc. He will look back and say, "I was brought up to do things such and such a way because there are a set of rules that govern how you are to act".

Anyway, I know that gives you nightmares, but sounds like you are being a responsible adult and Dad and your kids will benefit greatly.

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Posted 29 June 2013 - 08:50 AM

I like it when I am called a hater of conservatives and a conservative racist in the same forum. Makes me think I am right down the middle.


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