can't be that bad as a Carolina fan. One top 50 player commits somewhere else, you simply find another to take his place. Try being a fan of a big school, but not an elite school. Recruiting WILL drive you nuts in those situations. You think you're in a good position with a highly rated recruit, then one of the elite programs swoops in and you went from the favorite to an afterthought. For every big time player you land, you lose 5.
Try being an NC State fan... You used to be a national power and you're still in the elite basketball conference, but you still lose out on a lot of the top national talent because the administration at your school has held the program back for so long.