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#59 making a family member smile

23 September 2014 - 07:12 PM

I know this isn't football related, but I had to post this one here.


My cousin has battled cancer for 10+ years and has fought like a champ, but it's unfortunately catching up to her.  She asked for a family dinner this past Sunday to see everyone together for possibly the last time.


The following day, Mr Luke-ness Monster shows up at the hospital she is in.  She is a big Panthers fan, so his visit made her millennium.


When I asked what it was like meeting him, she said "He's pretty!".  I'm sure Lola agrees.


Attached are photos of me and my cuz at the family dinner and Luke and my cuz at the hospital the following day.  I love the fact our guys do stuff like this and this one really hit home. Thanks, Luke!!


Pink Floyd's new album

22 September 2014 - 08:10 PM

I don't know about you guys, but I'm stoked for this one. Its been 20 years since their last album.  From the small clip they provide, I can't tell if it sounds like vintage Pink Floyd or more like the Division Bell.  Regardless, I can't  wait for November 5th.



How do you explain death to a child?

11 June 2014 - 08:20 PM

My wife's Uncle started showing signs of something being wrong about 4 weeks ago and today was sent home from the hospital diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.  The hospital said there was nothing more they could do.  He is in the care of Hospice with pancreatic cancer, sepsis, a failed liver, bile backing up in his system and is on so much Morphine to control the pain that his organs are likely to shut down at any time.


My 4 year old son absolutely loves the dude.


I've unfortunately had to deal with death at a "much-too-early" age when my father passed of cancer when I was 11.  That had an effect on me that has lasted to my current age of 39.  Nobody really gets over that type of loss, so it's something I'll likely hold on to my entire life.  


My biggest issue when he died was the poo people told me...about how God had a plan and that he was happy with God.  That made me angry, because how could anyone be so selfish to take my Dad away from me when I needed him the most?


Anyway, my point is I am unclear how to explain this to my son.  I've read a decent amount about it in the last day or two...most people urge you to use as few words as possible and to leave religion out of it, both points I completely agree with.  They say to keep it simple like, "he won't eat again, he won't walk again, he won't speak again, he won't breathe again".


So, I'm curious if any of my fellow Huddlers have had a similar situation and can share their ways of explaining death to someone so young.  Explaining what death is so he understands is a very sad thing, but something I feel necessary so he doesn't end up confused like I was.


Any insight is much more than appreciated...