My wife's Uncle started showing signs of something being wrong about 4 weeks ago and today was sent home from the hospital diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. The hospital said there was nothing more they could do. He is in the care of Hospice with pancreatic cancer, sepsis, a failed liver, bile backing up in his system and is on so much Morphine to control the pain that his organs are likely to shut down at any time.
My 4 year old son absolutely loves the dude.
I've unfortunately had to deal with death at a "much-too-early" age when my father passed of cancer when I was 11. That had an effect on me that has lasted to my current age of 39. Nobody really gets over that type of loss, so it's something I'll likely hold on to my entire life.
My biggest issue when he died was the poo people told me...about how God had a plan and that he was happy with God. That made me angry, because how could anyone be so selfish to take my Dad away from me when I needed him the most?
Anyway, my point is I am unclear how to explain this to my son. I've read a decent amount about it in the last day or two...most people urge you to use as few words as possible and to leave religion out of it, both points I completely agree with. They say to keep it simple like, "he won't eat again, he won't walk again, he won't speak again, he won't breathe again".
So, I'm curious if any of my fellow Huddlers have had a similar situation and can share their ways of explaining death to someone so young. Explaining what death is so he understands is a very sad thing, but something I feel necessary so he doesn't end up confused like I was.
Any insight is much more than appreciated...