The mentor thing doesn't bother me...as far as losing the older, experienced ones...sometimes change is good. But it is a good point. My biggest push would be to make the salary competitive for what others are getting for having the same amount of education. Then to remove the pension, that is going to be a huge long term cost for the state. Get the paychecks up there, and do some heavy matching on 401's. Let the teachers that have "paid into" the retirement system get theirs, but you have to start rolling that thing back. For as long as I can remember, there have been lines for firefighters, EMT's, and police....teaching was the exact same way...if they aren't lining up any longer, changes will be made.
We have the ability to carry Star through 2017 and I fully expect us to do so. We can carry KK through the 2016 season, and I fully expect him to be signed to an extension before the start of the 2016 season if he stays healthy. Then we can have another full year to evaluate Star before having to make that call. IMO both will be here through 2017, and both could be here through 2020 if they stay healthy.
That is part of the issue, jobs in the private sector are much more volatile. Jobs in the public sector aren't...normally. When you have that much job security, and teachers, cops, firefighters, etc. do, there has to be a price that comes along with it. That is usually money, although DC doesn't seem to apply. That said, teachers, and all the other public sector jobs do need more money, but at the same time, there are folks that line up for these jobs, especially in down economies. We need to do away with the retirement/pension, raise the salaries across the board, work a normal schedule, get the benefits up to an acceptable level, and heavily match a 401 for them.
You do it your way, I'll do it mine. I can't understand how men get tangled up with controlling women, well I see how it starts, but I can't for the life of me understand why they stay. Just get out man, she won't change.
DO NOT DO THIS. She will cry, say she is sorry, say that she is going through "a lot", and promise to change. All the while figuring out how to further ruin your life. My wife wouldn't dream of taking a TV remote from me, nor would she ask me to quit watching football, check my phone, ask where I have been, etc...there is a level of trust and respect that must be in every relationship. Don't wait around, don't expect this to get better, just act, and do it swiftly. Two questions. How can you say that you "love" someone who treats you that way? How can you date a girl that, A. asks you to go pick up her "smokes", and B. Smokes?
I'm not exactly sure how I would handle this situation...but I know that I would have never let it get this far. A few things.
1: Be a man. Stand up for yourself, and hold her accountable. If you allow a bad person to run all over you, they will not stop. 2: The sex isn't as good as you think...if you are getting any at all. 3: Have someone with you when you tell her to get out, it wouldn't hurt if it was another female. I would tell her that you have alerted the police of what you are doing, because you are nervous about her possible reaction, and that she has 2 hours to vacate the residence. 4: Run, hard and fast once she is out. If she is as manipulative and scary as you say, I would change the passwords back on everything right before kicking her out, and I wouldn't be opposed to moving and changing my number if you are that nervous.