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  • Birthday 12/03/1989

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  1. lightsout added a post in a topic Toxic Relationship   

    Let's just say my career makes me VERY familiar with laws, particularly civil stuff like this. She is not on the lease. She can't stay past me telling her to leave. The way the law works is that if you allow somebody to occupy your house, like a friend (not a child. that is different), then you can ask them to leave at any time. Their refusal, legally, is trespassing. So, upon me telling her to leave, if she refuses, one phone call and a city officer shows up. I explain the situation, stating she isn't on the lease, she must leave. As far as her getting her property, she can get what she can and if she can't get the big stuff (she brought the washer and dryer with her, but I live right next door to a laundromat and I make enough money that I can have new machines from Lowes by Christmas if I play it right), she can come back at my convenience to get it.

    Where eviction comes in is long, long term staying. Such as if you get your mail there, you have lived there for years, you are listed to that address on your driver's license, etc. That is when you need eviction paperwork. I couldn't get a DVPO, but I could get a 50C (the civil version of a DVPO, essentially. No criminal element to it, which means I'd need a lawyer, and fug that). 

    Won't need any of this though. From my understanding, she is going to work in the morning, coming home, packing her poo, and hitting the road back to her mom's. Should return Sunday for the big stuff that she can't get on her own.
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  2. lightsout added a post in a topic Toxic Relationship   

    Too many responses to go individually, so find the appropriate response to your response in the listing below

    -Yes she is
    -I'm not a bitch, she's a brain ninja
    -I should
    -You're right
    -Who is playing cousin Bubba?
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  3. lightsout added a topic in The Lounge   

    Toxic Relationship
    We've all had that buddy, right? The person whose significant other is a manipulative, controlling, narcissistic psycho and we can't figure out WHY they are with them? The one we SWEAR will never be us, because we wouldn't put up with that crap. Nope, not for one second!

    Well, I've become that guy. I honestly have no idea how it happened. We've dated for about a year, have recently moved in together and things have gone off the deep end crazy in the time since (about 2-3 months). We moved in together for a few reasons. Mainly, I got a place a county over from her (about a 30-40 minute drive from her mom's place to mine) and we felt secure enough in our relationship at the time that it just made sense. She was looking like she had a job lined up, so she moved in, got the job, and everything was supposed to go great. And it was, for a week or two. Then...trouble started.

    I can't remember exactly what the first red flag was, but the person that moved in to my one bedroom apartment with my two cats is not the same person I started dating at the end of last year. I can never do anything right by her, she has literally deleted my instagram account, forced my hand on exchanging facebook and phone passwords (which she goes through daily...and she has blocked every female I have ever had a flirtatious conversation with. Ever), and basically keeps tabs on where I am and where I go. She "allows" me to do things. When I say "allows", I mean it literally. She "allows" me to watch the Panthers game on Sundays. Meaning, as soon as the clock hits 0:00 in the 4th, she takes the remote and says I'm done watching football. She "allows" me to watch what I want, meaning she will demand we watch something we both (read: she) like. I work 3rd shift. I get off at 6 AM. She goes to work at 7. I get up at 2 PM for the gym before work again at 6 PM. Gets me an even 8 hours. Perfect, right? Great schedule. Well, not for her. I am not allowed to go to sleep when I get off until she leaves for work. Her lunch break is at 12 and we live less than a mile from her office. She comes home and wakes me up. If I go to sleep before she leaves or refuse to get up at 12, it's an argument. Every time. If I'm off work and not home when she gets home, it's an argument. I went to the gym late one day because I slept till 4 (worked OT plus a weekend rotation, so I was in a sleep deficit). She gets home, notices I'm gone, calls and flips her lid over me not being there. I explained where I was and that I would be home soon...and she spends the rest of the evening doubting that I was at the gym, insisting I was out getting strange.

    Bear in mind, she has not helped with a single bill nor has she helped with rent. She makes decent enough money to be able to split bills halfway and still have just over half of her monthly income leftover (I make about twice as much as she does, but I'm paying for everything, so I end up with a few hundred at the end of the month, if I'm lucky and frugal),  She does not help with basic household chores and refuses to get up and get her own stuff done (I go out to buy her smokes, to get her food, to do anything, really). She asks me to do something, I do it. Why? Because I love her and I've been raised to try to make the person you're with feel like you're there for them and do little favors like that. I didn't realize how much this enabled the behavior.

    My closest friend pointed out towards the beginning of this that the relationship is toxic and I should get out. Since then, others have said the same, including mutual friends that we've made while together who are pretty objective on the matter. It has come to a head. Until tonight, I just didn't really grasp it. I've been feeling doubt and guilt for stuff that I shouldn't because she is THAT good at it.

    So, the reason I am posting this. How do I go about getting out of this? I suck at cutting people out of my life. When I care about somebody, letting go is tough. I don't know how to tell somebody that they have crushed my spirit and have made me miserable when they are extremely dependent on me for their own happiness and to boost their terrible self-worth and whatnot.
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  4. lightsout added a post in a topic Welp, so much for that underdog role we love..   

    We're playing a Jameis Winston lead Bucs team. What idiot would pick TB over us, given how the season has unfolded thus far? How is this a surprise?
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  5. lightsout added a post in a topic Anyone have a home gym?   

    It all depends on goals and time. There's ALWAYS time to work out, even if it means biting the bullet and bringing the gym to your house.

    I don't have a home gym, but if I did, there would be a few necessities for what I do.

    A bench with six 45 lb plates, two 35 lb plates, two 25s, four 10s, and four 5s. (additional 45 lb plates as needed over time)
    An e-z curl bar
    A separate Olympic bar (45 lb bar) for deadlifts/cleans
    Some form of squat rack (my buddy built his own and it's solid. did it fairly cheap too)
    A full set of dumbbells that go from 15 lb to 70 lb
    A pulley machine for lat pulldowns and tri pushdowns (can find these used for fairly cheap as well)

    Just for the type of strength lifting I do, I'd need this in a home gym. Obviously, it'd be a slow process getting all of it, because it would get expensive. I'd also have to have a room big enough or a garage I didn't use.

    I don't like the machines that use weighted cables as much as the pulley machines with a stack of plates. I don't know why. Just something about it I don't like.
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  6. lightsout added a post in a topic Bucs week: MRSA, metal science, crab legs, and Gold Bond Medicated Powder   

    Dear god these things never fail.

    I read them in this voice in my head that I can't really pin. I think there's a comedian I've heard that has that ranting style delivery that fits with SCP's posts, but good lord it's amazing.
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  7. lightsout added a post in a topic what are the panthers hiding from us about luke   

    Ron was probably bummed because he wants Luke back but knows he can't rush him back out there. Probably are making him wait until Seahawks week. Or something happened at practice. Or he had received bad news about something not involving Luke at all.

    Quit freaking out people. Luke will be back when Luke is back. I'd be willing to bet that the independent cleared him for this week and Gettleman said "Ron, sit him. It's TB. We don't need him back for this one".

    Klein is more than capable of filling the role in the meantime. He isn't the coverage genius that Luke is, but we have Shaq, so it's fine.
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  8. lightsout added a post in a topic This... This is how a Professional NFl Team is managed and Ran.#gettlemagic   

    We win Sunday, get healthy, and then go on to destroy Seattle and I think we'll have caught the league's attention.
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  9. lightsout added a post in a topic Found video of the no call roughing call on cam   

    So KK takes two steps and hits the QB after a throw, penalty.

    Cam is chased, throws the ball, defender takes 4 individual steps, then shoves Cam to the ground, no flag.

    Yeah, that is ridiculous. But no harm, no foul. Cam didn't get hurt and we won. Give a damn about some stupid non-called penalty now. We got the Bucs in a few days, people. Focus.
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  10. lightsout added a post in a topic Madden 16   

    Seriously, people online kill me with gimmicky playcalling.
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  11. lightsout added a post in a topic Parkway Drive - "Ire"   

    I keep listening to it, just to see what songs I can get ingrained in my brain.

    So far, Dying to Believe and Bottom Feeder are the two tracks that have me flatout hooked. Still love Crushed though. Writings on the Wall bothers me a little less, but it still feels weird on this album. Like they just REALLY wanted that song on the album no matter what, so they just threw it in the middle.
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  12. lightsout added a post in a topic We could go 12-4 and still not win the division. Look at these easy ass schedules y'all   

    People ignore the Atlanta defense as if they're doing a bang up job. Stop Julio, control the clock, you win.

    Dallas didn't do those things, despite lighting up that defense early. That is why they lost.
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  13. lightsout added a post in a topic So where are we in the NFC (and the NFL)   

    The Cards seem legit. Packers seem to be having a rough start, but to not see how good they are is willful ignorance. 

    Seahawks are not a top 5 team in the NFC right now though. If you seriously think they look better than the Panthers, I'd love to hear your explanation. They just have not looked good. Until the 3rd quarter in today's game, they looked very average. You can't base ranking on past seasons. They were never truly in the St. Louis game, but St. Louis mistakes lead to points. Then today, they won because again, Tyler Lockett made a ST play. Not to dismiss their lone win blowout on the scoreboard, but they just do not seem like a team to be feared right now.

    Right now, the Panthers are top 3 to me. People look at close scores as if you squeaked by. We didn't squeak by last week or this week. We handled both games. We were never truly out of control. Outscoring your opponent 27-12 after spotting them 10 points is domination. It didn't look pretty, but I had no fear of losing to the Saints. None.

    Falcons are basically just Julio Jones. They'll get exposed in time. Matt Ryan is not the god that analysts make him out to be and J No has already proven he can lock down Julio. Plus their defense is still not very good. Cowboys are good, but need Dez and Romo to maintain where they are. They'll start free falling if Weeden and that defense can't protect a lead. I'd put them below the Falcons though, so 5th. Vikings are decent, but I'm not entirely sold that they are going to stick around all season. NY has looked decent enough, but their defense is costing them.

    1. Cards
    2. Packers
    3. Panthers
    4. Falcons
    5. Cowboys
    6. Vikings
    7. NY
    8. Seattle

    That's my playoff picture as of this minute. Seattle seriously does not worry me right now. Limit the big play and play good ST, and you'll beat that team.
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  14. lightsout added a post in a topic Our running game   

    I think the reason those two were so successful when healthy was because they allowed each other to run hard. Both had 15-20 carries a game, so they made each run count. Once Stew started getting hurt regularly, Williams ran more tentative because he realized he was getting more carries (which is smart, to a point). Problem is, after 2008, one of them stayed banged up it seemed like all the time. They could never recreate that magic. That and they got older and heavier, something that plagues RBs as they hit the 7-10 year mark anyway. I still credit Williams' success in Pittsburgh to him losing the weight and getting back to being quick and decisive in his running. Well, that and a tremendous run blocking OL.

    Stew just needs CAP or Fozzy to go out there and gash the defense a bit. Get him excited. Make him say "I want my turn now". He looks semi-complacent right now, and I think it may just be frustration at not having a big hole to run through to get that confidence run. Either that or he really is running to not get hurt, which WILL get him hurt.
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  15. lightsout added a post in a topic Whining.   

    Don't remind the chicken littles here who were either not fans during that season or just don't remember. We didn't look "good" until late in the year. Same issues. Couldn't stop the pass, couldn't do much offensively until the 4th quarter.

    This team is leagues ahead of where the 2003 team was at this same point. We'll be fine as long as we can stay healthy the rest of the way and our receivers play like they did today.
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