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#25 The_Light_Brigade

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 01:52 PM

Reclaim the pussy.



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#26 jtnc

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 01:55 PM

Make-up sex and apologize(maybe while you're making love to her?) but, anyway you have to let it go.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 01:58 PM

Yeah we've had a weird past, dating or talking on and off for the last like 7 years. We always come back to each other, and things were going perfect. She had actually sent me a message while she was in Hawaii about how amazing things had been since we had gotten back together and how happy she was. And I clearly worried about something stupid and screwed up. She just texted me though for the first time since she left, so we'll see how this goes.


Guess what. Things don't go perfectly. Get over that Hollywood nonsense. I remember when I was young I thought there was some magical point that you reach (in life, in love, in everything) to where everything then after would just be PEACHY.

Yeah, no. There is no Santa Claus. Things don't get easier at some mystical point of the relationship. The weaknesses in your relationship that are there in the beginning will get worse not better (unless you both work very hard to over come them).

You living in the same town is about the only thing that will make this all better. Until then, I'd suggest you both see other people, but it doesn't sound like that's something you should handle.

I will hammer this point home: The more you fear losing her, the more chance that you will. You will come across as neurotic and you will be unbearably annoying and will smother her to death (You're going to a movie with your friends. DOES THAT MEAN YOU WANT TO GET AWAY FROM ME?!!!)

You have to figure out how to be confident in yourself AND in her. And if you can't legitimately be confident in her? Well, I'm sorry that will never work out in a billion tries. Just won't.

Nut up. Apologize for being snoopy. Then work on being confident in yourself and the relationship. If you can't, fake it till you make it.

#28 Mrs Pantherfan

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:00 PM

HA! I just stalked and found you ... :) I feel creepy now

everything has been said really...though I will say...If she was really doing something bad, she would've deleted the texts...since she didn't...she's good...or she's not very bright...no offense..just sayin :)

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:00 PM

Old man poo here, but my advice is move on, or let her be the back up as Delhommey so wisely stated. Too many options to be stuck with one girl at your age. Trust issues are incredibly hard to recover from in a relationship. Now you'll likely always have something to concern yourself about, and since you've gone through her phone, so will she. Neither of you will trust the other and this will drag out to a bad outcome in the long run anyway.
Just my jaded point of view.

#30 Delhommey

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:02 PM

And since you are, as you've said, 22 years of age, I will also point this out: Those who already have pussy can best get more pussy.

Namaste.

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:13 PM

And since you are, as you've said, 22 years of age, I will also point this out: Those who already have pussy can best get more pussy.

Namaste.

So, when are you starting your love advice podcast?

#32 h0llywood

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:30 PM

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:46 PM

I know the feeling man. Last year I had a long distance relationship with a girl who went to school about an hour and a half away from me. We'd rarely see each other and she was too pretty for guys not to pursue her but I trusted her. Around late March we spent a weekend together and like you, I was curious so while she was in the shower I went through her phone. Turns out she was talking to this other guy and the texts weren't the kinds you'd see if she considered him "just a friend. I decided not to confront her about it but to see how things went in the relationship first. Well it turns out the day after I returned to my school from visiting her she broke up with me over text, her reasoning being that she "wasn't ready for a relationship." I called her out on the other guy and she broke down and said she had slept with him and was having feelings for him, more so than she did for me, and that she couldn't help how she felt. It was some of the worst pain I've ever felt but it taught me an important lesson: the majority of women are lying cheating sloots, and even when you feel like you can trust them they're off getting rammed by another guy.

#34 Kurb

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 02:48 PM

the majority of college age people are lying cheating sloots, and even when you feel like you can trust them they're off getting rammed by another guy.


FTFY
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#35 Mrs Pantherfan

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:05 PM

People in college should not have a long distance relationship...period

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Posted 23 January 2013 - 03:06 PM

People in college should not have a long distance relationship...period



Oh honey where were you to open my eyes Circa 2001 :(