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#3325312 Judge slams robbery victims for child's fear of black men

Posted by Goondal on 17 April 2015 - 06:40 PM

No I'm pretty sure he's trying to tell you it sounds like you've never been around kids in your life.

Yeah it definitely sounds like he does not have much experience.

At the same time though if he does have some experience that had led to such a different opinion I would love to hear it. I think I am excellent at my job, it is the only thing I have ever felt I was great at, but there is no such thing as an expert because as the saying goes, children are like snowflakes.

Perhaps one day I see a similar situation and can use the information to help a kid. That to me would be far more meaningful than changing his mind.

#3323957 Judge slams robbery victims for child's fear of black men

Posted by Goondal on 16 April 2015 - 07:33 PM

I wasn't referring to you

did not think so, just wanted to confirm

#3323889 Judge slams robbery victims for child's fear of black men

Posted by Goondal on 16 April 2015 - 06:40 PM

Because as I gave in the example of their impact statement, they're claiming that the child was not afraid of their African American friends before but after this experience, they are accommodating of their child's fear over that relationship.

I wouldn't stop my friends from coming to my house because my kids are afraid of them.

I already answered your second question in my very first post.

both parents also said that the child of afraid of being alone in a room. Are the parents fostering this fear as well?

Seriously this monster has taken from this girl the ability to feel safe in her own home. It is not about race, a three year old does not understand that stuff, it is about this child. She is clearly messed up from this when this far removed from the crime she still freaks out when she is left alone.

#3323481 Judge slams robbery victims for child's fear of black men

Posted by Goondal on 16 April 2015 - 01:09 PM

Again when you look at what I said, the element of communication is key. I was also scared of mascots, the don't talk and their expressions don't change. How is that any different from a dog who can't talk. The initial trigger might be fear but you can communicate with a child, smile etc especially when done in the presence of someone she trusts like her parents and their African Americans friends.

and if this were a case of a typical kid that had not been through a traumatic experience then I would agree. That is not the case here and these things cannot just be communicated away.

#3323242 Judge slams robbery victims for child's fear of black men

Posted by Goondal on 16 April 2015 - 09:49 AM

The parents have African American friends. That appears to be a great resource they could have used but they say those relationships have been impacted as well. I dunno how the little girl related to them before the incident but I doubt if she really knew them she'd suddenly become afraid of them.

As someone that has worked with kids for sixteen years I can say this stuff does happen suddenly and can stay with the person into adulthood.

The child probably has some form of PTSD. Because of these sons of bitches that apparently only deserve probation she is traumatized. I have seen kids that associate certain foods or objects with traumatic experiences and they suddenly become afraid of things that they had no problem with. It did not matter what was done to convince them otherwise, the kids would still have these flashback episodes when they were around whatever it was.

I once had a child that I had a great rapport with become afraid of me after experiencing something similar to this girl's story. It did not happen all the time but it happened enough that we put her in a different group. She even wrote me a note of apology. She knew that I would never hurt her but for some reason she would go from just fine to scared to death of me at the drop of a hat.

After a few months we figured out that in her head she associated my goatee with that experience. After that, for the only time since high school I was clean shaven and our relationship was mended quickly.

In this child's head she associates her experience with black people. This is just as irrational as a fear of goatees but the fact is that her parents can say whatever they want to her, they can let her be around whoever, and she could even know how irrational it is, but when that trigger goes off in her head and takes her back to that night then none of that matters.

It could take years for her to recover, it may never happen. If this fugtard of a judge had learned a little bit about children and how they respond to these types of events then maybe he would have done his job instead of victim blaming. I would hate to see what he says to rape victims. I do not know for sure if what the parents said had an impact on his joke of a sentence but if it did then he should be removed from the bench.

As for these assholes I really hope the next time they rob a house the owner is armed. I am not a big pro gun guy but they could do is all a favor. Anyone that would hold any child at gunpoint makes me disgusted to be apart of this species.
Sorry for the length, mistreatment of kids is obviously my hot button issue.

#3323042 Judge slams robbery victims for child's fear of black men

Posted by Goondal on 15 April 2015 - 11:00 PM

Rob a family, including a child at gunpoint in their own home and you get probation? Then the judge bashes the parents for how the child reacts from such an experience?

That judge is a POS. If robbing a family at home at gunpoint is not enough for prison then what is?

#3322219 New generation

Posted by Goondal on 15 April 2015 - 08:28 AM

If people 65 and older are too old to vote on the people making the laws then they are too old to be elected to make the laws too

#3318698 How about those RED SOX!

Posted by Goondal on 11 April 2015 - 01:13 AM


#3318689 How about those RED SOX!

Posted by Goondal on 11 April 2015 - 01:02 AM

Good Ole Ellsbury and that noodle arm

#3318619 What's More Intelligent Than A Saints Fan?

Posted by Goondal on 10 April 2015 - 11:34 PM

To be fair she is twice as hot as any saints fan.

and four times as intelligent

#3318617 Draft Man-curshes ....

Posted by Goondal on 10 April 2015 - 11:31 PM


#3318578 How about those RED SOX!

Posted by Goondal on 10 April 2015 - 11:04 PM

Not a fan of Mujica as our closer. Exhibit A right there.

thankfully we only have to worry about it for a few more days (hopefully)

Ogando is one that I really have a lot of hope for. I loved him in Texas

#3318535 Hillary is a go, chances she wins the GE?

Posted by Goondal on 10 April 2015 - 09:27 PM

If she wins the nomination she will win the general.

The GOP has a huge map problem. I saw something several months ago where if you took the states won in the last five elections by the same party the Democrats already are around 240 or something crazy. Their only chance is to pull in voters that would normally vote Democrat.

Two guys that may be able to do that are Rand Paul and Jeb Bush. The former will have to move too far right to pander to win the nomination that he will alienate those voters, which we are already seeing some of. The latter, as you said, is doomed by his last name.

My prediction for the nomination has been and remains Scott Walker but I do not see how they win. Any hypothetical Republican that could win the general would never get past South Carolina in the primary.

#3318097 2015-2016 North Carolina Tar Heels

Posted by Goondal on 10 April 2015 - 12:35 PM

Really an odd decision by Tokoto, but heck the Hornets probably draft him in the first round...

if the Hornets draft him I may cry

#3315114 South Carolina police officer charged with murder (after video evidence)

Posted by Goondal on 07 April 2015 - 07:19 PM

So that second officer was just standing right there when he apparently dropped the stun gun? If that is indeed what happened and he did not report it then he needs to at the very least lose his job.

I have no idea if the officer feared for his life at some point but it is quite clear that at the time of the shooting he had no reason to and lethal force was not warranted.