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15 hours ago, MHS831 said:

"Building Trauma-Sensitive, Social-Emotional School Cultures."  

BTS SECS.

Nice.

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42 minutes ago, Happy Panther said:

BTS SECS.

Nice.

I call the program I have developed TSSEL (Trauma-sensitive, Social Emotional Learning--pronounced "Tassel" ).  I am implementing this program in a few smaller area school systems.  I also teach a course that I designed (I work in a graduate program at a state university--the Huddle is my outlet for not being that person) on the subject.  It is my life's work.  I will let you guys know when the book comes out.

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45 minutes ago, Happy Panther said:

BTS SECS.

Nice.

If you rearrange the letters, and add a space, sure.

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6 minutes ago, MHS831 said:

I call the program I have developed TSSEL (Trauma-sensitive, Social Emotional Learning--pronounced "Tassel" ).  I am implementing this program in a few smaller area school systems.  I also teach a course that I designed (I work in a graduate program at a state university--the Huddle is my outlet for not being that person) on the subject.  It is my life's work.  I will let you guys know when the book comes out.

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I liked "buttsecks" a little more, TBH. 

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1 hour ago, kungfoodude said:

I liked "buttsecks" a little more, TBH. 

Incarceration can change a man, TBH, but this is not that kind of forum. 

If you knew the content and reason for this program--how many children never recover from domestic and societal trauma, you probably would not make light of it.

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18 hours ago, MHS831 said:

I get it, believe me.  I actually have a book coming out this fall called "Building Trauma-Sensitive, Social-Emotional School Cultures."  I actually consult school systems in transforming school cultures and am working with CASEL in Chicago on developing a process to assess trauma levels and incorporate them into the school's approach to discipline.  I was traumatized.

Interesting and much needed work. I will be looking for the book. 

Do you think Smith talking about his faults and personality is bragging or a way of healing. Maybe someone who heard him could offer insight. I suspect that while he is proud of his accomplishments in pulling himself out of poverty he surely knows the price his anger has cost him as well.

 

 

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More Cam hate smh. Luke wouldn’t even be viewed in the same light if Cam wasn’t Cam. Cam made this team relevant and made it worth talking about. Without Cam, Luke would have just been another really good player on a bad team. 

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2 hours ago, panthers55 said:

Interesting and much needed work. I will be looking for the book. 

Do you think Smith talking about his faults and personality is bragging or a way of healing. Maybe someone who heard him could offer insight. I suspect that while he is proud of his accomplishments in pulling himself out of poverty he surely knows the price his anger has cost him as well.

 

 

Both---I do not want to sound pretentious or be long winded--and this is just my guess because I am an outsider--You cut your teeth getting ahead by bringing down others because failure is so costly to your self-esteem--it is instinctive.  He is trying to fill the void of inadequacy developed as a child. deficiency needs are the bedrocks on which our personalities are anchored; if not filled, no amount of success or fame can quench the thirst to feel fulfilled.  Think of Citizen Kane and "Rosebud." the symbol of his childhood.  When we build relationships and self-esteem on a fragmented and broken set of deficiency needs, the needs for fulfillment can become destructive because the things that we thought would make us happy do not.  As mentioned, you need to become aware of these needs (this is where it gets bizarre) and reach back as much as possible and reassure that inner child that it is going to be OK--that you are the adult now and your purpose will be to make sure that children in your sphere will be protected.  It helps, but healing is a monstrous task.  Most of us deal with some form of trauma and do not know it because our society normalizes it--even thinks some forms of trauma are beneficial to children (like spanking) when the research today proves that it adversely impacts learning and psychological development.  Complex (recurring) trauma builds and it fills those gaps that should be for things like safety, love and belonging. 

Ever notice how Smith only signs autographs for children?  He is supporting them, while denying adults access to him.  And yes, he talks about his ordeal proudly, but to be honest, he is reassuring himself that he is past it and better for it.  It is therapeutic for him, a part of a lifelong healing process.

During my last presentation for Montgomery County Schools (administrators) in December, I analyzed Scrooge and the Grinch.  Then I compared how their "epiphanies" (things that changed each for the better in an instant) represent a lifelong process that requires one to win an internal battle that he or she keeps hidden from outsiders.  Notice how both are affected by children--Scrooge even travels back to his childhood with the ghost of the past and Grinch (in the movie) revisits his childhood (in school) and connects to Cindy Lou Who.  Both are touched by children (Cindy and Tiny Tim) but lack the capacity to show it because to them, compassion is weakness that makes them vulnerable.  #1 priority is to protect what is left of your deformed self esteem.  In a competitive environment like football---you are fighting for self respect and dignity--you win at all costs and distancing yourself from teammates makes it easier.  They are competitors.

I have pointed out that when I observed OTAs, Smitty was friends with Kasay--nobody else. They warmed up together--an unlikely bond from the outside, but understanding Smitty, I get it.  He admired Kasay's spirituality--his ethics--and he sought validity.  Kasay probably saw a good man struggling to find his way.  In turn, I saw him verbally abuse Dwayne Jarrett--I made the point that no WR drafted or signed since he was here managed to develop.  Smitty was not their teammate; he was their competitor--my theory.

Sorry for the long answer--but it is very complicated and most people do not get it until I can sit them down for a workshop or read a book.  thanks for the support and for asking.

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1 hour ago, AceBoogie said:

More Cam hate smh. Luke wouldn’t even be viewed in the same light if Cam wasn’t Cam. Cam made this team relevant and made it worth talking about. Without Cam, Luke would have just been another really good player on a bad team. 

 Cam played the position where he had the most opportunity to make a measurable difference. 

Think of it this way:   Luke was the BEST LB in football for most of his career. Cam was never the BEST QB in the NFL-ever--even the year he was MVP, which had a lot to do with the 15-1 season; go back and look at that season and take a look at how many games the defense kept us in. 

I think they equal. 

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3 hours ago, panthers55 said:

Interesting and much needed work. I will be looking for the book. 

Do you think Smith talking about his faults and personality is bragging or a way of healing. Maybe someone who heard him could offer insight. I suspect that while he is proud of his accomplishments in pulling himself out of poverty he surely knows the price his anger has cost him as well.

 

I think every time Smitty mentions his faults and background and continuing counseling it is a confirmation that there is improvement on his part and that alone can contribute to his healing. However, these public conversations are most often with adults, not children. He recognizes that, though reaching traumatized children is the best and first solution, there are adults with trauma that has put them in the same place he was and that, besides hearing from people they respect, repetition and reinforcement is one of the best ways to reach them and empower them to seek help.

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3 hours ago, AceBoogie said:

More Cam hate smh. Luke wouldn’t even be viewed in the same light if Cam wasn’t Cam. Cam made this team relevant and made it worth talking about. Without Cam, Luke would have just been another really good player on a bad team. 

Luke was a really good player on a bad team.

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2 hours ago, MHS831 said:

Both---I do not want to sound pretentious or be long winded--and this is just my guess because I am an outsider--You cut your teeth getting ahead by bringing down others because failure is so costly to your self-esteem--it is instinctive.  He is trying to fill the void of inadequacy developed as a child. deficiency needs are the bedrocks on which our personalities are anchored; if not filled, no amount of success or fame can quench the thirst to feel fulfilled.  Think of Citizen Kane and "Rosebud." the symbol of his childhood.  When we build relationships and self-esteem on a fragmented and broken set of deficiency needs, the needs for fulfillment can become destructive because the things that we thought would make us happy do not.  As mentioned, you need to become aware of these needs (this is where it gets bizarre) and reach back as much as possible and reassure that inner child that it is going to be OK--that you are the adult now and your purpose will be to make sure that children in your sphere will be protected.  It helps, but healing is a monstrous task.  Most of us deal with some form of trauma and do not know it because our society normalizes it--even thinks some forms of trauma are beneficial to children (like spanking) when the research today proves that it adversely impacts learning and psychological development.  Complex (recurring) trauma builds and it fills those gaps that should be for things like safety, love and belonging. 

Ever notice how Smith only signs autographs for children?  He is supporting them, while denying adults access to him.  And yes, he talks about his ordeal proudly, but to be honest, he is reassuring himself that he is past it and better for it.  It is therapeutic for him, a part of a lifelong healing process.

During my last presentation for Montgomery County Schools (administrators) in December, I analyzed Scrooge and the Grinch.  Then I compared how their "epiphanies" (things that changed each for the better in an instant) represent a lifelong process that requires one to win an internal battle that he or she keeps hidden from outsiders.  Notice how both are affected by children--Scrooge even travels back to his childhood with the ghost of the past and Grinch (in the movie) revisits his childhood (in school) and connects to Cindy Lou Who.  Both are touched by children (Cindy and Tiny Tim) but lack the capacity to show it because to them, compassion is weakness that makes them vulnerable.  #1 priority is to protect what is left of your deformed self esteem.  In a competitive environment like football---you are fighting for self respect and dignity--you win at all costs and distancing yourself from teammates makes it easier.  They are competitors.

I have pointed out that when I observed OTAs, Smitty was friends with Kasay--nobody else. They warmed up together--an unlikely bond from the outside, but understanding Smitty, I get it.  He admired Kasay's spirituality--his ethics--and he sought validity.  Kasay probably saw a good man struggling to find his way.  In turn, I saw him verbally abuse Dwayne Jarrett--I made the point that no WR drafted or signed since he was here managed to develop.  Smitty was not their teammate; he was their competitor--my theory.

Sorry for the long answer--but it is very complicated and most people do not get it until I can sit them down for a workshop or read a book.  thanks for the support and for asking.

MHS, I see your talent and there is no better cause. Education must change to teach the kids we have today. The scam that was common core ensures that schools are unable to serve their original purpose.

You sir are the change. Politicians got rich off of common core and educators have been calling it out for what it was, lazy. What has coach Rhule said? He's going to focus on individual talents more than "scheme". The education system fails children with individual needs. Bright children whose individual talents are totally overlooked. Those children get left behind and cast aside.

Einstein couldn't tie his own shoes as a young boy. Imagine where they would put him had it been CharMeck (don't @me to defend them, i have documented proof) Schools. Why is everybody fighting for spots in private schools around town?

Everybody wants a friggin paycheck in that system sooooo bad, student loans are due, am I right!? They furiously defend what gets them paid everyday. As long as the people making these deals continue to get big money and superintendents get big bucks for laziness and to defend the system at all cost children will suffer.

Behind "Made In The USA" were experts, trades, knowledge bases, technology, process and education at the head of that. With the teardown of our industrial base education became an anchor pulling down people who had no purpose but to work outside their industry, not getting what they are paying for from education.

That's where we were. Not where we're headed so far thankfully. Education needs revival and so does "Made In America". Education needs industry.

 

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31 minutes ago, rippadonn said:

MHS, I see your talent and there is no better cause. Education must change to teach the kids we have today. The scam that was common core ensures that schools are unable to serve their original purpose.

You sir are the change. Politicians got rich off of common core and educators have been calling it out for what it was, lazy. What has coach Rhule said? He's going to focus on individual talents more than "scheme". The education system fails children with individual needs. Bright children whose individual talents are totally overlooked. Those children get left behind and cast aside.

Einstein couldn't tie his own shoes as a young boy. Imagine where they would put him had it been CharMeck (don't @me to defend them, i have documented proof) Schools. Why is everybody fighting for spots in private schools around town?

Everybody wants a friggin paycheck in that system sooooo bad, student loans are due, am I right!? They furiously defend what gets them paid everyday. As long as the people making these deals continue to get big money and superintendents get big bucks for laziness and to defend the system at all cost children will suffer.

Behind "Made In The USA" were experts, trades, knowledge bases, technology, process and education at the head of that. With the teardown of our industrial base education became an anchor pulling down people who had no purpose but to work outside their industry, not getting what they are paying for from education.

That's where we were. Not where we're headed so far thankfully. Education needs revival and so does "Made In America". Education needs industry.

 

Thank you very much.  I have been pushing this topic for 15 years now.  I realize that this is not the board for it, but when you believe in something as strongly as I do, you don't let opportunities to speak out go by.  I am relieved that there are people like you who understand. 

And GR Watcher is also on point, but adults are much more equipped to handle trauma if they were not exposed as children.  Their deficiency needs are met and stable; they can handle a lot more than someone like Smitty or me.  An adverse childhood experience has a lasting impact.

A good example that I share with people that have them and think they are over them.  In a round table, I ask them to think of their childhood's biggest bully.  We talk about them.  Even though they have not seen the bully for 20 years or more, the anxiety levels go up.  We check pulse rates--up 10-12 beats per minute on average.  They get upset.  I then ask them to prepare a statement for the bully if he or she were to walk through the door.  Some cry when writing.   Think about that.  And the bully is not domestic, so problems at home tend to be more complex an emotional.  That is the way I demonstrate the power of one ACE (Adverse childhood experience)---most children have 2 or more.  Those that have 6 (as I do), have a life expectancy 20% shorter than someone without any.  (See the ACE study)

My last book got me into the this broader topic: 

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/quiet-desperation-gerald-w-neal/1123967521

 

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I have no problem with what he said. Him and Jake grew up in this league together and have a special bond. Him and Cam...well.....didn’t.

 

Smitty can say what he wants. He caught passes and practiced with both guys. We are entitled to our opinions as well.

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On 2/8/2020 at 5:04 PM, Panthera onca said:

It’s kind of understandable that he is the way he is. Being 5 years old and watching your mother get beat around had to create all sorts of unresolved anger and trauma.

Butbutbut he punched a tea...

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