Relationship/jealousy question

[Zcustom]

I'm getting concerned about my friend and his fiancee. She is super jealous and controlling and I need to talk to him about her but don't want to alienate him. We'll call him Shane and his fiancee Mowgli

Background; He is my wifes best friend for the last 10 years. He introduced me to my wife, basically setting us up. I played in a band with him for 6 years. He met his fiancee 2 years ago.

Here is my case:

-My wife recently uploaded some old photos of a party at the P-stone on FB. One of said photos was of my wife and Shane, my wife tagged Shane. Mowgli untags Shane telling him she "doesn't like his goatee".

-Shane spent 3 weeks in the doghouse recently because he was caught checking out a "dime piece" while they were at the mall.

-Mowgli won't allow Shane to go to a strip club for his bachelor party, also, Shane bowed out of going to another good friends bachelor party last october because of Mowgli.

-Shane is black, Mowgli is white (and fat) and Mowgli's parents won't allow her to marry him unless he gets a degree in HVAC work, as he is a janitor now.

-Back when I was trying to form another band with Shane, the few times he made practice he had leave early, each time citing a water leak at the house.

-Shane is baptist, but he cannot marry Mowgli unless he fully converts to catholicisim AND they have to have a traditional catholic wedding.

There's more but I'm trying to avoid tl;dr comments.

What does teh huddle think? Should Shane be concerned? Should I say something to him?

[Jase]

if it makes shane happy, it can't be that bad

[Zcustom]

You're the smart one, I need better from you!

Srsly though, the few times he has been honest with me he says he's not happy. He seems trapped somehow, but I'm not sure what she has on him.

[mmmbeans]

lol, Mowgli.

no idea. people have to make their own decisions. talk to him if you care that much.

[Zcustom]

Yeah I'm gonna hang with him sans wommenz tomorrow and my wife thinks I shouldn't say anything, even though she knows he's miserable too.

[mmmbeans]

he's your friend. if you'd want someone to do it for you, do it for him and accept his answer either way.

/best i got.

[Jase]

You're the smart one, I need better from you!

Srsly though, the few times he has been honest with me he says he's not happy. He seems trapped somehow, but I'm not sure what she has on him.

Seriously, it all boils down to if it makes him unhappy. If it bothers him and he's just afraid to confront her about it, it's a problem and he should address it before making a big mistake.

My wife is somewhat controlling and very jealous, but really, honestly, I kind of like that about her. It works.

Although this girl just seems crazy. My advice would be to give advice, but don't force the issue. Live and let live I say, don't butt too much into other people's lives or they'll resent you.

[Kettle]

may not do any good to say anything. i said something to my little bro during his jr year in high school about his wife. about half way through their sr year, she was prego. a 3rd child is now on the way. he is the sole provider, and does little to be considered fun. the crazier/jealous ones tend to use sex to keep the man. giving it up any way its wanted, and even when it isn't. i'd be willing to bet she throws it on him in a way he's never had, and he's afraid he can't find better.

[Zcustom]

Seriously, it all boils down to if it makes him unhappy. If it bothers him and he's just afraid to confront her about it, it's a problem and he should address it before making a big mistake.

My wife is somewhat controlling and very jealous, but really, honestly, I kind of like that about her. It works.

Although this girl just seems crazy. My advice would be to give advice, but don't force the issue. Live and let live I say, don't butt too much into other people's lives or they'll resent you.

Thanks.

BTW, how does your "somewhat controlling and very jealous" wife feel about your relationship with Boo's feet? :cool:

[CatsMeow]

Unless they have children together, Baloo, I mean Shane, should put Mowgli in his rear view mirror. Sounds like he is not happy, and life is too short to live that way.

[Jase]

oh that's on the down-low so mums the word.

[Dingo_ate_Babies]

Fat chicks aren't worth that kinda headache.

Tell him to move on.

[Kettle]

side topic: why is it that skinny black men like large white women?

[CatsMeow]

They like the donk.