Ever had your parents walk in....

[Guest]

I find this thread quite interesting.

I was raised feeling like it was wrong to even kiss a boy before marriage. My parents knew I did it but it was something we didn't talk about and I felt like i should hide it from them (crazy i know!)

Of course I'm fine with my kid having sex before marriage but I've never seen anyone parent with that mindset, so i'm not so sure how to go about it. I hope to be very open and comfortable about it all.

It was taboo subject around my house too, and I vowed to not let that be the case for me. I was very open with my son about it and told him to use condoms, but he'd have to buy his own.

[Cat]

It was taboo subject around my house too, and I vowed to not let that be the case for me. I was very open with my son about it and told him to use condoms, but he'd have to buy his own.

I figured we'd buy him some condoms. I'd prefer him to wait til his later teens. I'm sure that's possible even if we don't put the fear of hell in him. We will stress responsibility etc.

[Guest]

I figured we'd buy him some condoms. I'd prefer him to wait til his later teens. I'm sure that's possible even if we don't put the fear of hell in him. We will stress responsibility etc.

I have tons in my bathroom that I don't need anymore. Figured he'd find them on his own.

[Cat]

Its difficult. We have been very open with our daughter even to the point of paying for birth control and condoms. We're of the mindset that they are cheaper than babies and if she takes a mind to have sex we are not going to be able to stop her.

Where we draw the line is that even though she is almost 20 there is no sleeping over at the boyfriends house, the boyfriend is not allowed in her room, and we will not buy her a double bed for her apartment at school. She understands that until she is married she will never share a bed under a roof that I pay for. I dont care if she and her man have been together for 20 years, own a house together, and have kids.

She thinks that if I ever caught them in my house Id shoot the boy on the spot.

Yeah I'm not sure where I stand on him having sex in our house. Once he is past a certain age, I don't think I'll have a problem with it.

I think you are doing the smart thing buying her bc and condoms. I grew up in a very religious environment. Between school and church I knew several girls who got pregnant and even more that had sex without condoms and bc because they thought it was premeditated sin to go out and purchase them. They are LUCKY they didn't get pregnant. Of course maybe they did....who knows.

[neverlosethefeeling]

Yeah I'm not sure where I stand on him having sex in our house. Once he is past a certain age, I don't think I'll have a problem with it.

I think you are doing the smart thing buying her bc and condoms. I grew up in a very religious environment. Between school and church I knew several girls who got pregnant and even more that had sex without condoms and bc because they thought it was premeditated sin to go out and purchase them. They are LUCKY they didn't get pregnant. Of course maybe they did....who knows.

I can say this. Though it may be awkward at first, your kids will appreciate you being open with them. They'll respect you for letting them make their own decisions and not outright forbidding it which I think gets a lot of people into trouble--they're not informed. Our mom was very open with us about it and I don't know if any of my friends are as close to their moms as I am to mine.

Where we draw the line is that even though she is almost 20 there is no sleeping over at the boyfriends house, the boyfriend is not allowed in her room, and we will not buy her a double bed for her apartment at school. She understands that until she is married she will never share a bed under a roof that I pay for. I dont care if she and her man have been together for 20 years, own a house together, and have kids.

I wonder if this has something to do with having a daughter or what. My mom let us have our SO's spend the night when we were in HS and even though we had a spare bedroom that was for either my gf or my sister's bf, she knew they never actually stayed in there. Unforunately, I never had a girlfriend whose parents were cool with letting them stay the night, but my sister's boyfriend spent the night all the time.

[EMSMedic79]

Every teenager should have to experience getting caught once. You'll never forget it.

[pstall]

detached garage FTW. Never got caught. Well. The one time some buddies and I met some girls out cruising the mean streets of Rock Hill one night. Took them to a party. Both just gorgeous.

My buddy from Spain calls me into another room. He goes, man, those chicks want to hook up with us. I'm like cool, stoned, but cool. So my friend gives a buddy of ours his car keys and we leave with the girls to go their place. That should have been a red flag.

We get to this girls place and they were visiting her dad, former Mayor of Rock Hill. Red flag #2. So we are drinking from their swank liquor cabinet, jamming to some tunes and well they were both pretty agressive.

So buddy is in the kitchen with one girl, I'm in the lving room with the other. We both can see the end zone in site. I look over at him, he sees me, we are smiling ear to ear. THUMP, THUMP, THUMP, THUMP. 4 car doors slam.

Chick I'm with pops up, OMG it's my dad. He is back a day early. Me being Mr.Slick Talker that I am. Hey baby that's cool. We can hide in your bedroom and sneak out in the morning. She panics and says we need to head out the back door and that they will come back out and meet us. Red flag #3.

So my buddy and I go ninja, sneak past the family as they are going in and head a few blocks to a Circle K. So we wait. And wait..and...nothing.

Keep in mind this is pre cell phone days. It was pay phones or get lucky and see somebody so you can catch a ride. My friend passes out on the side walk in front of the store. He comes to and complains about his back hurting. Dude had passed out on like the largest mosquito I have ever seen.

Same buddy who got my buddies keys, comes by and picks us up. We laugh the whole way home and we have till this day, even in the facebook world, not seen those two girls.

[thefuzz]

Mom and Dad were pretty cool with me and sex.

After what I guess was 16 they told me to do 2 things if I was going to have sex:

1. Wrap that poo up, we are not supporting, nor helping you support a child.

2. Make sure that she is getting hers if you want to keep on getting some.

Didn't let them stay at the house, but did let me stay at our beach house with no parents there.

[neverlosethefeeling]

I totally get that. My parents feel the same way as you. They were much more protective of my sister than me though. She had the curfews that I never had when I got to her age, etc. Maybe it's because she was the oldest.

But it's been my experience that the boy's parents are usually cooler than the girl's.

Matter of fact, I've got a friend now who is 21 and in college, but when she comes home from school her parents still won't let her go to a boy's house if the parents are home