Bullying in schools

[lightsout]

Is it THAT big of a deal? I know when I was younger, I was told by my dad "Ignore them as long as possible. Then, have friends or some other people near you that can see you. Then, you give them a chance to stop. After that, if they keep on, you hit em. You get called to the office, you have your witnesses and I won't be mad".

Now, I've seen this on the news all day. Why are the schools at fault? If you're a parent, it is your job to tell your kids how to handle it. Then, it is your job to go to the bully's parents and explain what happened, ask what they plan to do, wait for improvement. If there is none, you go back with a bit more attitude. That doesn't work, you teach your kid how to kick somebody's ass.

Any other takes on this?

[OneBadassCat]

I think schools do take some of the blame. Simply because child safety is their responsibility. However (and I have been witnessesd to this) a lot of schools have a ridiculous tolerance policy. They tell kids not to do anything or just take it if a bully hits you. Which is bullpoo. No one has a right, a specially a piece of poo kid to touch or you or your son, it's your/their body. fug'em if he hits me I'm pounding his face.

I graduated a few years back

[Wither]

I don't remember that many bullies in school. The ones I do remember I always handled by using big words to confuse them.

In all seriousness, you can talk your way out of most situations.

[sunbunny]

Absolutely it's the school's responsibility. We've gone through bullying in middle school and it was hell. Talking to the parents most of the time doesn't change a damn thing and forget the school doing anything. It took my son getting suspended for it to stop. He'd finally had enough and went off on the kid bullying him. 3 days at home, even though the other kid started it.

No one fugs with him now in high school. He hit a growth spurt and is taller than most of the other guys at school. He works out at the gym and runs. He's an honorary member of SI and already a prospect, and is the most badass band geek you'll ever meet.

[lightsout]

You can talk yourself out of most situations, but there are some idiots who like to shove around the smaller kids. It really just depends on the area. I never saw much bullying myself, but I was picked on a lot in like, 9th grade. After that, I got too big and good at football for them to do anything. Small, rural areas and real big cities typically have the most poo heads. Any place in the middle, for whatever reason, has no real problems. At least from people I've talked to about their high school/middle school experience.

[lightsout]

Absolutely it's the school's responsibility. We've gone through bullying in middle school and it was hell. Talking to the parents most of the time doesn't change a damn thing and forget the school doing anything. It took my son getting suspended for it to stop. He'd finally had enough and went off on the kid bullying him. 3 days at home, even though the other kid started it.

No one fugs with him now in high school. He hit a growth spurt and is taller than most of the other guys at school. He works out at the gym and runs. He's an honorary member of SI and already a prospect, and is the most badass band geek you'll ever meet.

The school has to say something at the beginning of every year. Most schools I have been to have that little convocation on day 1 of the year and lay down the law a little. After that, yeah, if they hear of a problem child, they need to bring that kid in and let him know whats up. But at the end of the day, kids are gonna do what they want, no matter what some principle says. I just think parents should let their kids know how to handle these situations. A lot of parents want to say "just walk away if they put their hands on you" and when their kid is hit, they tell the school its their fault. True, if the person who threw the punch isn't suspended or punished in some way, then the school fugged up. But I will tell my kids one day "dont start anything. talk your way out of it. But if they put their hands on you, you finish it."

[Kevin Greene]

Have your kid study this:

[sunbunny]

The school has to say something at the beginning of every year. Most schools I have been to have that little convocation on day 1 of the year and lay down the law a little. After that, yeah, if they hear of a problem child, they need to bring that kid in and let him know whats up. But at the end of the day, kids are gonna do what they want, no matter what some principle says. I just think parents should let their kids know how to handle these situations. A lot of parents want to say "just walk away if they put their hands on you" and when their kid is hit, they tell the school its their fault. True, if the person who threw the punch isn't suspended or punished in some way, then the school fugged up. But I will tell my kids one day "dont start anything. talk your way out of it. But if they put their hands on you, you finish it."

We preached the walking away thing for months. Finally, we told my son to stand up for himself. He wouldn't at first, but finally snapped one day in gym. We had gone to the school numerous times, talked to the parent numerous times, all to no avail. It took Tyler (Taco on here) sailing on the other kid like a spider monkey for it to stop. Never had a problem since.

The kid doing the bullying was like 3 times Ty's size at the time. The kid never made it out of 7th grade before dropping out.

[lightsout]

See, dude tried to tell him. Said he didn't even want to fight. Guy comes at him, throws a punch, misses like a bitch, gets his ass kicked. That's how you handle business. Then you walk away like a man.

[lightsout]

We preached the walking away thing for months. Finally, we told my son to stand up for himself. He wouldn't at first, but finally snapped one day in gym. We had gone to the school numerous times, talked to the parent numerous times, all to no avail. It took Tyler (Taco on here) sailing on the other kid like a spider monkey for it to stop. Never had a problem since.

The kid doing the bullying was like 3 times Ty's size at the time. The kid never made it out of 7th grade before dropping out.

That's usually how it goes. Big bad-asses who think they're poo don't stink usually give up because they have nothing and they are nothing.

[Jangler]

It seems like schools and parents have forgotten that bullying led to Columbine.

[sunbunny]

My daughter is in classes with the punk's little brother. I hate it for the little brother if he starts in on my daughter. She jacked a little falcon fan up against the fence in elementary school for telling her her black and hot pink 89 jersey was ugly. My husband was so proud. LOL

[lightsout]

Hell, I'm proud. Ya'll are raising them right!

[LifeisaGarden]

I was bullied once as a teen, I had enough and went bat poo crazy on the other person. My retaliation was enough to get me kicked out for the rest of the school year and they pressed charges. I ended up having to go through about 2 years of punishment for it. House arrest, community service, probation, etc... I was never bullied again, not ever, by anyone and neither were my friends just as long as they were hanging out with me.

There is a difference in bullying and just teasing someone.