Serious Sex Question

[Panthro]

I'm on a boner rollercoaster in this thread

[Panthers_Lover]

interesting. I am the opposite. But I have my reasons.

But being pushed around and controlled= awesome.

To a point ... just learning (after all this time) to not panic if my arms aren't free (deep seeded reasons I won't go into now). Testament to how comfortable I feel with the guy I'm with right now. See, you can teach an old dog new tricks! And I'm lovin' it.

[bleys]

To be good, it takes a certain skill set for both men and women. I disagree with Boo (and maybe you) that all a guy has to do is stick his tongue down there and move it around. That's just the basics, and sometimes the basics are so boring as to not be effective. A truly skilled man does so much more than that. I can say that only a few of the many men I've been with are truly skilled in that area ... they do look at it merely as a way of "warming" me up, when if they took their time and got into a bit more, they would get so much more out of me in the long run. The few who know, have reaped the best rewards, and I don't mean merely "reciprocating."

(if I'm picking this up correctly on best rewards)...so those other things aren't out of the question later down the road based on either trust or after realizing this person has more to offer than just early boyfriend status...?

[Miaoww]

I don't get how you DON'T. I mean its gotta be really awkward if you don't want to.

Do you tell him before?

Do you wait until it happens and then with a mouth full say "whua ca i spi thi" and then expect him to quickly point out a sink/trashcan/some sort of place to put it while hes in the post offage state? I think not.

Just better for everyone for you to suck it up and just do it. and I mean that literally.

Ha, you're a keeper, boo.

[Davidson Deac II]

To be good, it takes a certain skill set for both men and women.

My exwife actually taught me how to do it right. Or at least how she liked it. About the only positive that came from my first marriage.

IMO, like anything else, it takes practice. And a willingness to do it. And plenty and plenty of practice. :)

[Kettle]

[bleys]

I'd like to point out 1500 views in 1 1/2 days..

and 1,000 of those came from boo....

[Darth Biscuit]

I'd like to point out 1500 views in 1 1/2 days..

and 1,000 of those came from boo....

I thought this might be popular but even I underestimated it... :lol:

It's an interesting topic... lots to learn.

[Panthers_Lover]

(if I'm picking this up correctly on best rewards)...so those other things aren't out of the question later down the road based on either trust or after realizing this person has more to offer than just early boyfriend status...?

The best rewards I'm talking about here are purely sexual. ... If a man takes the time to become skilled at giving oral sex (and not only that, but that's the topic at hand here), and provides me with an experience that is more than merely the obligatory "warming" me up, then the rewards would be realized in the form of my becoming more engaged in the entire sexual experience beyond what might "normally" be expected. I'm all for a good quickie every once in a while, but to me, the sexual experience can and should be more than a lick here, a suck there ... fug a little while, and be done ....

Hummmm ... I fear I'm not making myself clear.

[Panthers_Lover]

I would add

...and a willingness to try new things. Its a playground, have fun, get creative.

That's it!!!

[Kettle]

i think a man's willingness(at least mine) is also affected by the woman's ability to climax. i've had all kinds from one end of the spectrum to the other. one girl had never gotten off even when using toys. i did everything i knew for her, and researched to learn more. nothing. so it seemed pointless. another ALWAYS had multiples. i had no problem putting on scuba gear for her.

[Cat]

i think a man's willingness(at least mine) is also affected by the woman's ability to climax. i've had all kinds from one end of the spectrum to the other. one girl had never gotten off even when using toys. i did everything i knew for her, and researched to learn more. nothing. so it seemed pointless. another ALWAYS had multiples. i had no problem putting on scuba gear for her.

People are different. One of my best friends has never climaxed during sex. Pretty much only happens when she is solo. So she doesn't find sex that fun. Guys think she is playing hard to get but they are mistaken. lol

[Zcustom]

It's like an old man once told me

"careful eatin that pussy young man! You'll come up looking like a glazed doughnut!"

[Panthers_Lover]

i think a man's willingness(at least mine) is also affected by the woman's ability to climax. i've had all kinds from one end of the spectrum to the other. one girl had never gotten off even when using toys. i did everything i knew for her, and researched to learn more. nothing. so it seemed pointless. another ALWAYS had multiples. i had no problem putting on scuba gear for her.

There was a time ... long ago ... when I was like that. Could only do it alone. Then, I "took charge" of my body, opened up (literally and figuratively, but mostly mentally), and let myself go. Now, I always have multiples ... if my partner is willing to go beyond slam-bam-thank-you-ma'm. If he's not, then it's "next" ....

It's more about the woman's mindset than what anyone can "do" to her ... though a patient and skillful partner can earn a woman's trust, and she can change.

Lord, it's amazing what I'll say on an anonymous board. (Those of you who know me IRL, you might have to just skip my posts in this thread if necessary.)