Serious Sex Question

[JakeFlake]

you got to give a lot to get a lot.

[SmootsDaddy89]

I have a thing where instead of telling a girl what I like, I perform it on her.

In this case of one of my ex girlfriends, it happened to be her waking up to me going down on her. She got the hint and returned the favor the next morning.

But to answer the question, yes. I'm a fan. Believe it or not, nothing gets me off more than getting her off. Assuming I'm actually in a relationship with her. Hookups just depend on the quality of the vagine.

[GritsRgreat]

Rihanna's new song says it best

Feels so good being bad (Oh oh oh oh oh)

There's no way I'm turning back (Oh oh oh oh oh)

Now the pain is my pleasure 'cause nothing could measure (Oh oh oh oh oh)

Love is great, love is fine (Oh oh oh oh oh)

Out the box, outta line (Oh oh oh oh oh)

The affliction of the feeling leaves me wanting more (Oh oh oh oh oh)

'Cause I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it

Sex in the air, I don't care, I love the smell of it

Sticks and stones may break my bones

But chains and whips excite me

'Cause I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it

Sex in the air, I don't care, I love the smell of it

Sticks and stones may break my bones

But chains and whips excite me

[Panthers_Lover]

right there with you.. figured the huddle couldn't handle this kind of topic. one of few times they've proved me wrong, lol..

yes you are, I'm right there with you.. and confirmed when you agree with this..

because if someone isn't into trying new things, sex can turn pretty dull if it's just routine..

just curious if that's true with most women, as my sample size has shown me majority think of it as routine.. but the best have been those who like to expand their boundaries and enjoy everything past what is typically just a 10 minute routine of ordinary..

every time doesn't have to be some grand experience, but I do get bored easily if I can tell my partner lacks enthusiasm for "different"..

We're exactly on the same page.

[bleys]

Rihanna's new song says it best

Feels so good being bad (Oh oh oh oh oh)

There's no way I'm turning back (Oh oh oh oh oh)

Now the pain is my pleasure 'cause nothing could measure (Oh oh oh oh oh)

Love is great, love is fine (Oh oh oh oh oh)

Out the box, outta line (Oh oh oh oh oh)

The affliction of the feeling leaves me wanting more (Oh oh oh oh oh)

'Cause I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it

Sex in the air, I don't care, I love the smell of it

Sticks and stones may break my bones

But chains and whips excite me

'Cause I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it

Sex in the air, I don't care, I love the smell of it

Sticks and stones may break my bones

But chains and whips excite me

wtf did you do to hide this?

[Panthers_Lover]

I think this is the whole point... when you're with someone you want to feel wanted and desired. If you're gonna be with someone you should put effort into it not just half ass it.

One thing I learned from therapy (started as marriage, continued as personal) is that if you commit to giving your partner exactly what you want, then you're more likely to get what you want. Sometimes, you have to "force" yourself to be giving, especially when it's an activity you don't necessarily enjoy, but as you see the rewards, your attitude can change.

(Here, I'm talking sexually, but this works for all kinds of things. ...)

[teeray]

The best rewards I'm talking about here are purely sexual. ... If a man takes the time to become skilled at giving oral sex (and not only that, but that's the topic at hand here), and provides me with an experience that is more than merely the obligatory "warming" me up, then the rewards would be realized in the form of my becoming more engaged in the entire sexual experience beyond what might "normally" be expected. I'm all for a good quickie every once in a while, but to me, the sexual experience can and should be more than a lick here, a suck there ... fug a little while, and be done ....

Hummmm ... I fear I'm not making myself clear.

This sounds like a lot of work. :nonod: If I wanted to study I would go back to school.

I do it the same way cavemen did it. If she makes pleasurable sounds I'm in the right place.

If I can't find that place I just apologize, roll over, and cry myself to sleep.

[Panthers_Lover]

This sounds like a lot of work. :nonod: If I wanted to study I would go back to school.

I do it the same way cavemen did it. If she makes pleasurable sounds I'm in the right place.

If I can't find that place I just apologize, roll over, and cry myself to sleep.

Hey, if that works for you (which I doubt), stick with it.

Keep reading this thread ... you might learn something.

[SmootsDaddy89]

I think there might even be more girls who don't like getting it than there are guys who like to do it.

Usually the result of some severe poor body image or something. They're the same kind of girls who constantly make references to being fat in hopes of being complimented. Then after my frustration level builds up to a certain point, I just start saying, "Holy poo, you're fuging HUGE."

Also their lack of self esteem prevents them from letting themselves relax during sex so they can get off. Or at least that's what I tell myself so that I don't feel like a failure.

[Panthers_Lover]

I think there might even be more girls who don't like getting it than there are guys who like to do it.

Usually the result of some severe poor body image or something. They're the same kind of girls who constantly make references to being fat in hopes of being complimented. Then after my frustration level builds up to a certain point, I just start saying, "Holy poo, you're fuging HUGE."

Also their lack of self esteem prevents them from letting themselves relax during sex so they can get off. Or at least that's what I tell myself so that I don't feel like a failure.

You're probably right in most cases.

Remember, too, that girls are taught that "good girls" don't do those things, and if they do them, they aren't supposed to "enjoy" them ... it takes a lot of mental fortitude to break that mantra and let yourself enjoy your own body without the guilt.

[The Saltman]

Then I guess the girls I meet including my wife are bad.

[teeray]

Hey, if that works for you (which I doubt), stick with it.

Keep reading this thread ... you might learn something.

Because if there is any group that knows about sex it is message board posters ;)

I prefer hookers anyway. No matter how bad I perform they always tell me I was great. Even when I cry the whole time (I am very emotional)

[SmootsDaddy89]

I don't think posting a message board means you're sexually inexperienced. Maybe I'm eating a girl out right now AND making witty posts in this thread.

[GritsRgreat]

Post 261 & 262 nailed with a former gf of mine. She was taught that sex was "dirty" from a young age and only "bad people going to hell" would engage. This was in the late 90's. She was a 20 year old virgin who was really up tight about sex. I slowly broke thru by not being a dick about it and taking things step by step. The only problem was she fell for me hard, broke her heart when i told her it was over. I still feel alittle bad about that.