FB Woes

[bleys]

Reason #78 you don't go to the huddle for advice.

LOL.. amen to that

It's crazy. Everyone I've ever known to attempt suicide never told anyone they were going to do it. This guy. Posts it on fb for everyone to see.

everyone is their own individual.. actually, it's just as likely people who advertise it are looking to be caught in the act.. which he was.. doesn't mean they won't try..

Constant complainers, attention whores, ppl that give t.m.i., people that can't spell (or choose not to at least make it readable....all get hidden.

my hide button is on constant alert.. some people need their status update privilege taken away..

Generally if you are going to offer help offer it unconditionally. Otherwise it really isn't offered.

and Lifey is right.. helping people unconditionally is often called enabling.. enabling much more often promotes people to stay in the problem rather than search for a solution..

[LifeisaGarden]

my hide button is on constant alert.. some people need their status update privilege taken away..

That reminds me...

[bleys]

That reminds me...

lol.. whatever. hey, that's what it is there for!

[LifeisaGarden]

lol.. whatever. hey, that's what it is there for!

I'm glad they're there that's for sure! I've never had to hide someone but I have had to hide peoples games they play.

& speaking of games, this guy played farmville right up to the point of his attempt to take himself out.

[Happy Panther]

I think I know what's best for me to do. But thanks anyway.

I suspect your thanks is insincere.

[LifeisaGarden]

No, I was trying to be polite.

I'm not closed minded to others opinions and I appreciate your suggestion.

[Happy Panther]

and Lifey is right.. helping people unconditionally is often called enabling.. enabling much more often promotes people to stay in the problem rather than search for a solution..

I didn't say help someone unconditionally. I said offer it unconditionally. Meaning you just offer the help

The help you choose to give is up to you. I certainly didn't mean help them no matter what they ask. Of course not.

But to caveat it up front is not really offering help.

Saying I'm going to help you as long as you aren't a whiny bitch is rarely going to get a positive response. Especially for someone you aren't close to. Not sure why anyone would do that.

Say you will listen. Say you will be there. Say whatever. Your help might in the end be helping this person realize that they are being a whiny little fugwad.

[davos]

Say: "Dude, this is a public forum"

[LifeisaGarden]

I did it because I don't mind listening to someone but I do mind listening to someone offer up every excuse in the book for why they cant be happy. I did it because I want them to know up front that I'm about the solution not about the problem. I offered what I was willing to give and nothing more. Call it what you will, but I call it being honest with someone. I don't sugar coat things when it comes to dealing with reality.

I accept that you would do it differently. Not saying you're right or I'm right. Just saying what I did and I'm happy with the decisions and choices I made and I would not do it any differently.

[Happy Panther]

I did it because I don't mind listening to someone but I do mind listening to someone offer up every excuse in the book for why they cant be happy. I did it because I want them to know up front that I'm about the solution not about the problem. I offered what I was willing to give and nothing more. Call it what you will, but I call it being honest with someone. I don't sugar coat things when it comes to dealing with reality.

I accept that you would do it differently. Not saying you're right or I'm right. Just saying what I did and I'm happy with the decisions and choices I made and I would not do it any differently.

It seems like your response to this half cousin had more to do with you than him.

[TarPanther9180]

The carbon monoxide attempt makes me think he did that for attention too. Anyone who really wants to do the deed will do something that is guaranteed and quick.

[Matt Foley]

So apparently right after I posted that ^ I heard that he attempted suicide by carbon monoxide. He's alive because he decided to post on fb that he was going to take himself out and people read it, called 911 & sent them to his house, or truck actually. He was unconscious when they got there. I learned he's been living in his truck & has had a ton of issues to deal with for the last several years.

I have a stepsister that has tried to kill herself two or three times, and that was her MO one time. They say people who try it that way or with pills are crying for help instead of wanting to off themselves. People who don't want help typically use guns.

[Happy Panther]

If i ever do it i am going to jump in a wood chipper.

[Kitten Diver]

If i ever do it i am going to jump in a wood chipper.

Ouch. I would hope you would dive head first. Seems a little less painful.

Seriously though I hope that anyone who is that depressed finds help before it's too late.