My roommate

[lightsout]

OK, so, let me preface this by saying I have a huge curiosity for understanding people and their behaviors. I believe by understanding other people and how their brains work, you can have a better understanding of yourself. Some people call me an ass for this as they say I come off very forceful.

My roommate is NEVER here. He goes home every weekend (literally, he has been here 1 weekend the entire school year). Now, I love having the room to myself, and I do not care what he does or where he goes. My only question is why. It baffles me how he pays for housing and a 19-meal meal plan, but he only stays 4 nights out of the week and never eats breakfast, so both are pointless. He lives almost 2 hours away, so commuting is a BIT unreasonable, but so is going home every single weekend.

Granted, all of this, I am 21 in my 3rd year of college, and he is a freshman, fresh out of high school. At first, I passed off his awkwardness as being "college jitters" and shyness. He never says anything and his communication skills are seriously lacking. Again, none of this matters to me, just painting the picture for you.

I attempted tonight to understand why he leaves EVERY weekend. He never answered. Instead, he deflected by saying "if you went home every weekend, I wouldn't question you, blah blah blah." So, since I can't get an answer out of him, I start making broad statements about my speculations as to what would lead one to be the way he is. And anytime I mentioned "mommy and daddy" followed by anything (don't care to talk to you, treat you like poo, etc.) he got REALLY defensive and his whole body language shifted to reflect his defensiveness. Also, when I mentioned the word "lonely", the same response occurred.

I have 2 and a half weeks and I can't figure him out. Based off of this knowledge, what do you think? Is there something short of just invading all his personal stuff like his laptop to get an answer that I haven't tried? I like puzzles and weird tendencies, but this kid takes the cake.

[Jackofalltrades]

You're at college, forget the roomie and go get laid.

[lightsout]

You're at college, forget the roomie and go get laid.

I swear you say this a lot about anything anybody mentions about college, JOAT. lol. I would, but given the 4 and a half year relationship (that is currently long distance from just north of Asheville to NC State...) I can't go get laid. Unless you count Palmela Handerson, in which case, I've done that twice while typing this message. And I have cuddle time.

[Jackofalltrades]

Principles of higher education shouldn't be overlooked, but I applaud you for remaining faithful.

[lightsout]

Principles of higher education shouldn't be overlooked, but I applaud you for remaining faithful.

I'm telling you, it has been FAR from easy. Turned down 3 this year. Were this my high school days before I met the girlfriend, I'd be knee deep in poon right now.

[dimbee]

Mama's boy

[lightsout]

Mama's boy

That was my first assumption, given the fact that on move in day, she unpacked all of his stuff and arranged ALL of his stuff in the room (hanging up all clothes, making his bed, organizing his closet space...). I put that off as mama doing the last thing she can do before her boy is on her own, because my mom did it my first year as well (even though I was quick to tell her to get the fug out). And I even thought that as a part of the reason he went home every weekend. But why would he get REALLY defensive and angry when I mentioned "mommy never asking you about things you do or never caring"? I'd assume mama's boy, but I think there is more to it, especially given his introvert personality. The kid spends his spare time in the library, in a cubicle, by himself, playing games. Not studying, but being in a setting that puts him alone.

It isn't me, because he has asked me to go to a movie with him in the past and do other stereotypical "roomie things."

[dimbee]

Again, Mama's boy. He's programmed to be around mama. When he's not, he doesn't know how to handle the situation, so he avoids it. Clearly.

[Wither]

I think you are in love with your roommate.

Just saying.

[lightsout]

I think you are in love with your roommate.

Just saying.

I think you are in love with Jase.

Just saying.

[Wither]

Also, I think you're making broad assumptions about me (I mean, this guy).

Just because when you ask about his parents he gets defensive doesn't mean he is too close to them or something. For all you know someone in his family has serious health issues or he is actually wanted at home.

I think you're being too hard on the guy for no real reason.

[Wither]

I think you are in love with Jase.

Just saying.

Just because you're jealous... ;)

[lightsout]

Just because you're jealous... ;)

Caught me...:o

[lightsout]

Also, I think you're making broad assumptions about me (I mean, this guy).

Just because when you ask about his parents he gets defensive doesn't mean he is too close to them or something. For all you know someone in his family has serious health issues or he is actually wanted at home.

I think you're being too hard on the guy for no real reason.

Well, that's what the girlfriend says. She says if he doesn't want to talk, he doesn't want to talk. But curiosity kills me. It gives me something to do and keeps my mind working.

I probably should just back off, but he doesn't communicate. That is what bothers me. If I am living with somebody, I don't aim to become "best buds" with them, but I want to be able to chill with them and have interesting conversation in the time we do spend in the room at the same time. Otherwise it is boring and pointless. Nothing too deep or thought provoking, or too personal. I could care less about other people's feelings and problems, I just want to know the reasons for them. That is much more interesting.