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Is this normal? Early onset mid-life crisis? WTF?

Bronn

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So, the past several years I have kinda gotten bogged down in my general dislike of the human species in general (even though I have a huge, tender heart)... It isn't really a depression or anything, but more like a realization that people, myself included, just generally suck for the most part.

Paired with that is this desire to be away from the societal structure that we live in... IE. consume, acquire, go to work, accrue debt, repeat. I feel drawn towards nature. The quiet and stillness of the darkness of night in the country. The lapping of water around my ankles on a beach somewhere. Watching my son discover the outside world.

I'm only recently 32 years old, but I have all kinds of feelings that seem to get stronger and stronger as the days go by. I've re-read Walden in the past few years, and that has been an infulence on this whole situation, I think.

I look around and see all the bullshit objects that I have obtained, or collected, throughout the years. Most of them simply exist, and serve no purpose other than existing. I sit in front of the TV at night and, if I'm even watching what's on, let it amplify my desire to get away from it all.

My home is like 2,400 sq. ft. I feel like that is entirely too much space for myself, my wife, and my son.

The latest thoughts I have been having are that I should sell my house, or at least rent it, and buy a tract of land somewhere and build my own small home. I'm talking, at the very most, just over 1,000 sq ft. (probably closer to 800 if I could get away with it). It would be completely energy and utility independent, except for maybe TV/internet service (not for me, primarily), and have very little environmental impact.

Part of the problem with that idea would be getting my wife to go along with it. I also have some pretty close family that I'd like to stay close to, but buying land and such might move me further away than I'd like to be.

Anyone else out there dream of going smaller with their lives or some sort of similar drastic change?

WTF is going on here?!?!? lol

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no for me also. my first house was under 1100 sq ft. my new one is just under 2000. I don't need 2000, but with a daughter and two good size dogs, I definitely need more than what I had. Every room in that house felt cramped. Oh. And I'll take your avalanche so you can go get some little 4 banger.

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So, the past several years I have kinda gotten bogged down in my general dislike of the human species in general (even though I have a huge, tender heart)... It isn't really a depression or anything, but more like a realization that people, myself included, just generally suck for the most part.

Paired with that is this desire to be away from the societal structure that we live in... IE. consume, acquire, go to work, accrue debt, repeat. I feel drawn towards nature. The quiet and stillness of the darkness of night in the country. The lapping of water around my ankles on a beach somewhere. Watching my son discover the outside world.

I'm only recently 32 years old, but I have all kinds of feelings that seem to get stronger and stronger as the days go by. I've re-read Walden in the past few years, and that has been an infulence on this whole situation, I think.

I look around and see all the bullshit objects that I have obtained, or collected, throughout the years. Most of them simply exist, and serve no purpose other than existing. I sit in front of the TV at night and, if I'm even watching what's on, let it amplify my desire to get away from it all.

My home is like 2,400 sq. ft. I feel like that is entirely too much space for myself, my wife, and my son.

The latest thoughts I have been having are that I should sell my house, or at least rent it, and buy a tract of land somewhere and build my own small home. I'm talking, at the very most, just over 1,000 sq ft. (probably closer to 800 if I could get away with it). It would be completely energy and utility independent, except for maybe TV/internet service (not for me, primarily), and have very little environmental impact.

Part of the problem with that idea would be getting my wife to go along with it. I also have some pretty close family that I'd like to stay close to, but buying land and such might move me further away than I'd like to be.

Anyone else out there dream of going smaller with their lives or some sort of similar drastic change?

WTF is going on here?!?!? lol

every day dude... i'm 30 now... started happening to me a few years ago... it's just getting worse... i'm trying to figure out how to make it work.

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every day dude... i'm 30 now... started happening to me a few years ago... it's just getting worse... i'm trying to figure out how to make it work.

I think we should join PhillyB and make the cult idea a reality...

...or something...

I just see that kind of life as, like, some sort of Utopia where you wouldn't have as many worries or cares or whatever else people overthink...

BLAH...

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i'm right there with ya

i'm currently 26 and my wife and i started down this path about two years ago. we had been considering mountain land anywhere along the appalachian mountains, but a recent trip to Colorado has jettisoned that idea and we're currently aiming a little smaller and heading out to the rockies.

basically, we're just looking to get away from the suckfest that is charlotte and moving away from all the fast paced living that goes on here. i don't want to have kids (which is in the very near future, more than likely) and raise them in this culture that puts more importance on the size of your house/car than the beauty that is nature and enjoying it with our dogs

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I also look to go to a different house eventually even though I am happy with this ones size. I want a dedicated man area. It would actually be pretty good size with a brewing area complete with small bar and kegerator and then a tv area big enough to play kinect. Like 25' square I bet.

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You can get away from those things now Bron, right where you are.

Funny thing is getting a smart TV helped me get away from "the suck" at little.

Instead of watching the "EVERYTHING IS BAD" network news in the evenings, I play music through Pandora (instrumental covers, and the like) and just enjoy dinner with my wife and son.

I understand what you are saying tho.

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Find the spot you want to build your small house, then acquire it. Build the house and start using it for weekends away & week long vacations. When you feel the time is right, after all your severance from society is done & you have what you need to survive, then sell your current place of residence & make your weekend spot your new permanent...

Back in '95 I worked on a tugboat, met a guy who sold his house and moved into his sailboat. Dude had a PO box & his 2 boys lived on the boat with him. He owned the boat, worked it out so he could dock & get power from a waterfront business in exchange for keeping an eye on the place at night, he loved it. Just sayin....

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