Jump to content

  • Welcome!

    Register and log in easily with Twitter or Google accounts!

    Or simply create a new Huddle account. 

    Members receive fewer ads , access our dark theme, and the ability to join the discussion!

     

Crazy Ex GF sabotaging my friend's relationship

saX man

By saX man,
in Huddle Lounge

Recommended Posts

saX man Mentor

saX man

Posted
Posted

Edited for accuracy in retrospect:

 

Rundown: 5 months overall.  Official for the first three, then broke up.  I felt fine no worries.  I let her come back twice.  When I would drop communication, she came crawling back.  I was stupid and shouldn't have let her back.

 

We had a very physical relationship in high dosages. 3x plus a week, 3+ times a night for a good 4 months.  Toward the end, I was interviewing out of state and she would constantly beg for me to come back and how much she missed me and wanted to cuddle, yadda yadda.  

 

She took me to her fam's thanksgiving dinner party and was a complete b*tch to me.  Communication had already been lessening recently but she went up and invited me.  At the dinner she was flirting with my friend and talking about all these ones who are after her.  I wanted none of it and hate when women flirt with taken bros especially in front of their significant others. F*cked up especially with me there talking to her freaking grandparents and family.      

 

I broke it off and took it hard because I thought I had mad feelings for her.  She acted like she was fine.  In the meantime...she began to ruin our good friends' 4 year relationship while I stayed f*cking away until the other day by accident.....in which mayhem ensued....

 

so check out that updated post if you're interested haha 

 

    

 

Link to comment
Share on other sites
Guest

Guest

Posted
Posted

.  We were somewhere in between being together and f*ck buddies bc we still did couple stuff.  

 

This is the problem.  There should be no in between.  

Link to comment
Share on other sites
saX man Mentor

saX man

Posted
  • Author
Posted

This is the problem.  There should be no in between.  

 

I'm thinking I may have done this to myself.  I just like doing really nice gestures like gifts, dinners, etc. even with more casuals back in Charlotte.  

 

It's just odd me breaking it off when she's the one that seems less invested and completely fine.  I was essentially a convenience and sex toy with my ex and need to accept it.  Not the best decision but damn was it good.      

Link to comment
Share on other sites
Chimera Community Regular

Chimera

Posted
Posted

Pie. They do not think rationally lol

correct

and if you confront her about it, she'll play it both ways.

"I wanted you to try to keep me!"

"Why are you mad? You don't wanna be my boyfriend!"

Those are the ones you should break off all contact with. They'll hunt you down in the future and try to ruin relationships.

Do you feel like you do because she's gone as a FWB, or because she dissed you like that in front of her family?

Link to comment
Share on other sites
saX man Mentor

saX man

Posted
  • Author
Posted

Do you feel like you do because she's gone as a FWB, or because she dissed you like that in front of her family?

 

I'd have to say it's a combo.     

 

Quick update:

 

So I may have texted her after breaking up that I'd be cool if she still wanted to still "fool around" before I leave.  Now I'm the bad guy and things are looking rough.  I think she may have actually been invested to my disbelief.  

Link to comment
Share on other sites
chubs2496 Newbie

chubs2496

Posted
Posted

I kinda had the same thing happen to me. I'll tell ya how mine went down and what I did.

Went to the beach with my gf. I was out of a job at the time and she literally begged me to go. So I did but I rode with her. Bad move on my part. We got down there and we stayed with her friends who were guy friends and a few girls that were butt ugly. She ended up flirting trying to get me to try harder for her. That exactly how a girls thought process works. She kept flirting and I told her in private it better stop now. She got pissed for some reason and continued

We fought another day or so then I packed my poo and told her what a bitch she was walked out like a bad ass. She's like where u going. I said we are done.

Of course she acted if she didn't care. I went and chilled with and old friend of mine who I hooked up with before, when she lived back in my hometown. She was going to coastal carolina at this time tho.

My then ex started to text me telling me how she was sorry and I hurt her and all this and that.

So basically if a girl ever treats u this way then it's just a game for them. No man deserves to be treated as such so don't feel bad. I admit it kinda got to me at first but it will pass and you'll be better off man.

Link to comment
Share on other sites
saX man Mentor

saX man

Posted
  • Author
Posted

I kinda had the same thing happen to me. I'll tell ya how mine went down and what I did.

Went to the beach with my gf. I was out of a job at the time and she literally begged me to go. So I did but I rode with her. Bad move on my part. We got down there and we stayed with her friends who were guy friends and a few girls that were butt ugly. She ended up flirting trying to get me to try harder for her. That exactly how a girls thought process works. She kept flirting and I told her in private it better stop now. She got pissed for some reason and continued

We fought another day or so then I packed my poo and told her what a bitch she was walked out like a bad ass. She's like where u going. I said we are done.

Of course she acted if she didn't care. I went and chilled with and old friend of mine who I hooked up with before, when she lived back in my hometown. She was going to coastal carolina at this time tho.

My then ex started to text me telling me how she was sorry and I hurt her and all this and that.

So basically if a girl ever treats u this way then it's just a game for them. No man deserves to be treated as such so don't feel bad. I admit it kinda got to me at first but it will pass and you'll be better off man.

 

Cool dude. Really appreciate the post. I mean, I keep thinking that I'm being an idiot, she's not really treating me bad, she didn't realize what she was doing and I overreacted.  I just want to be on good terms and it now sounds like we'll chill a few more times before I leave.   The thing is, there clearly is something here or we wouldn't have gotten back twice before.  

Link to comment
Share on other sites
chubs2496 Newbie

chubs2496

Posted
Posted

Cool dude. Really appreciate the post. I mean, I keep thinking that I'm being an idiot, she's not really treating me bad, she didn't realize what she was doing and I overreacted. I just want to be on good terms and it now sounds like we'll chill a few more times before I leave. The thing is, there clearly is something here or we wouldn't have gotten back twice before.

We'll that's good that u can end it on good terms and be friends. I understand if u feel like there's more to u guys. U could end up marrying her. Ya never know. Things happen for a reason. Maybe that happened to show both of u how much y'all actually care for one another. Hope it works out for the best either way

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

Go to topic listing

  • PMH4OWPW7JD2TDGWZKTOYL2T3E.jpg

  • Topics

  • Posts

    • ladypanther
      The Carolina Huddle

      By ladypanther · Posted

      Wanted to jump into this thread. Although I do not post anymore I do look in as there are a few old friends around. Loved hearing some of the names you mentioned.  Another  oldie is NanceUSMC.  He is the one who got me here from the old Observer forum.  Good guy and smart football guy. I have learned a lot from a lot of good Huddlers over the years, Over time. we have sadly lost a few who left this earth too soon.  Anyone who know of someone, it would be nice to try to make a list.  One of the more recent, CosmoGirl,  was someone that kind of hit hard.  Life sucks sometimes. Some of the best times were when we had our own tailgate and could meet up in person.  I think it made us better. Several dedicated volunteers, lead by LiverMush, started setting things up in the wee hours of each gameday morning.  Don't know all those regulars but I remember JakeFlake was one.  For you newbies...each game,  a Huddler (or a group) sponsored the food for each tailgate.  Eating was free but a donation was asked for.  At the end of the year those donations were used to buy bicycles for Toys for Tots.  Over the years Huddlers bought a lot of new bikes for kids for Christmas.  (I am guessing a couple of hundred each year.)  We had a good time getting together, got to make friends in person, and then got to feel like you were doing something good. It was truly a community. I got to meet Dan Morgan at one of our tailgates...he brought pizza from his restaurant.  How many of you remember that?  Glad the restaurant did not make it....lol. Not only have people changed, and come and gone.....but the entire nature and purpose has changed. Nothing lasts forever and we move on but we still like to think about good times. Same reason we take pictures. Want to ask a question I have not seen anyone else mention......who remembers    "The Couch" ?  We have argued, laughed, lived the ups and downs of football and dealt with a little real life along the way.  A thanks to  the Mods who keep this going.  I am sure they sacrifice a lot of their time out of love for the forum and the Panthers. Take care my friends and be well.  I will close with my new favorite quote which I think is greatly needed in these difficult times.        
    • Jay Roosevelt
      Favorite JAG 2020+

      By Jay Roosevelt · Posted

      My top-5 JAGS: 1. Tommy Tremble: May not ever be top-tier, but has been solid and you never doubt the effort. 2. Cade Mays: Not bad for a 6th rounder. Hated to see him go. 3. Brady Christensen: One of the most versatile backup OLs in the NFL. Hopefully we re-sign him. 4. Trevis Gipson: Quietly was really solid depth last season. Glad we brought him back. 5. Brycen Tremayne: Has been solid depth at WR, flashing at times last year.
    • t96
      Favorite JAG 2020+

      By t96 · Posted

      He wasn't a JAG, he's been a starter every year of his career. Didn't turn into the superstar it seemed like he might his rookie year, but I think part of that has been being misused. Guy was/is a baller.
×
×
  • Create New...