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Is it normal?

LifeisaGarden

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stankowalski Newbie

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Wife: "honey, I'm ready for you to check my oil"

Husband: "wtf, cant you see I'm in the middle of a boss fight?"

In his defense, sometimes you have to spend a lot of time to just even get to the boss. Then when you have the prospect of getting all that loot, sex becomes somewhat expendable.

Even though I'm joking there is a grain of truth to what I said.

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mmmbeans Newbie

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Honestly its not video games.

If someone plays golf, or builds airplane models, or ties flies for fishing, or gardens to the point that it had a negative impact on their lives or the people around them then its a problem.

Video games are not unique or somehow different from any of the things we choose to fill our recreation time with. If a persons life is out of balance regardless of the "distraction" then there is a problem.

what they do to your brain isn't exactly the same thing as tying flies or playing golf... watching tv≠ reading a book.

that said, I play games... though not nearly as much as I used to. A few hours a week now.

Civ V baby.

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Well, kind of, it's the convinced of video games that makes it worse than those other things I don't think you can golf for 24 or more hours straight, etc. At least overall gaming is cheaper than a lot of other hobbies.

My grandmother nearly divorced my grandfather after he retired because he played between 36 and 45 holes of golf 6 days a week. Teed off at 8ish in the morning and would come home around dinner time.

You may not be able to play golf for 24 straight hours but you can play it enough to create the same problems that playing video games does.

I've golfed and fished (still do on occasion). But those hobbies don't have the instant gratification or constant rewards like video games. Video games are definitely more addicting.

Again Ill refer to my granddad who was chasing a -10 handicap. To him the difference in 1 more putt per round or hole was all he needed to feed that monkey.

Any behavior can display the qualities and consequences of addiction. Its quite simple actually, when it begins to negatively impact your life or the people you care about you've probably gone too far.

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what they do to your brain isn't exactly the same thing as tying flies or playing golf... watching tv≠ reading a book.

that said, I play games... though not nearly as much as I used to. A few hours a week now.

Civ V baby.

On a moment by moment basis, maybe not. But the net effect is the same. Chasing a reward, be it a hole in one, a "killtacular", a fix of dope, or the perfectly tied fly is the motivator that causes folks to pursue a "hobby" to the point that it becomes an addiction like behavior.

Its all just different carrots hanging on different sticks...

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And of course I play video games all the freakin time. My wife understands and is my "canary in the coal mine" for when it starts to go to far. She lets me know, and I don't take it personally.

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So here is the troof.

This thread was not about my kid, my husband or anyone in general. I just hear and read about video games causing "junk" and wanted to know others opinions on it.

Dan does play video games. He is totally addicted. It does not affect our relationship. I'm thankful that he has a hobby that he loves. He can spend hours and hours playing. No, I don't think it's normal but who the hell is normal?It does not cause issues except when he gets pissed about something that doesn't go the way he thinks it should because we have to hear him whine, bitch and moan about it. The bitching is more of an annoyance to me than anything, I really don't care. I have my own hobbies such as gardening, and making crafty things. I'm sure he thinks I am abnormal as well. Our sex life is good and always has been. Like I said I'm thankful that he has a hobby he loves and is excited and passionate about. He likes to show me things that happen with the games and I pretend to be excited about it too just to tickle his fancy. At the end of the day, we are both content in our marriage and lives, video games are just a part of it.

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what they do to your brain isn't exactly the same thing as tying flies or playing golf... watching tv≠ reading a book.

that said, I play games... though not nearly as much as I used to. A few hours a week now.

Civ V baby.

Dan & the 11 year old daughter love Civilization. They have a love of games in common and talk about it quite a bit. He has all these goals he is trying to meet like trying to win some kind of city thing on something called deity level. Idk wth he means.

She plays minecraft and I have no idea wtf she is talking about most of the time. I just nod and smile.

She wants to play Oblivion but he won't let her play it until she is mature enough. She will be 12 in January and she keeps asking if I think she will be mature enough to play it when she turns 12... again idk wth Oblivion is and I have no idea about anything, so I just tell her to ask her father.

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On a moment by moment basis, maybe not. But the net effect is the same. Chasing a reward, be it a hole in one, a "killtacular", a fix of dope, or the perfectly tied fly is the motivator that causes folks to pursue a "hobby" to the point that it becomes an addiction like behavior.

Its all just different carrots hanging on different sticks...

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And of course I play video games all the freakin time. My wife understands and is my "canary in the coal mine" for when it starts to go to far. She lets me know, and I don't take it personally.

arguable, but regardless... as someone who spent an inordinate amount of time playing video games in high school and college, i wish i had been learning to tie flies.

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It really all boils down to the person holding the controller.

If that person is irresponsible outside of video games, then he or she will not know what responsible and healthy video gaming is. A person who is more stable with their relationships, business, school, etc., are more apt to control their desire and curtail the time they play.

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