When is a marriage basically on the point of no return?

[YourMomsLover]

I'd say the moment you seek marriage advice from the huddle.

fug off Igo. This conversation is for adults.

[jasonluckydog]

I got divorced  it was one of the best things to happen to me. I was pressured into marriage and I fuged up and did it, the thought of spending the rest of my life with her gives me chills...I've never been more happier.

 

 

 

 

[ecu88]

I wonder if any of the people spouting "stay together for the kids" have any idea how psychologically damaging growing up with parents in an unhealthy relationship can be?

The constant bickering. Being asked to lie to one parent by another. Viewing unhealthy behaviors as perfectly normal. Learning to use people against each other to get your way.

These are all things I experienced growing up with parents in an unhappy marriage. And, these are all things that are still affecting me later in life.

My mother told me once, "if they don't fight, it means they don't care anymore." While that may be true in a sense, it is not a lesson to teach your kids about relationships. Looking back on past romances, I can see where I put this idea to test; picking fights hoping for any sign that they still care. It is insane.

I stayed with someone for over 2 years who constantly berated me because, "every relationship had their problems." Yes, every relationship does have it's problems. However, when your model for comparison is poo, you don't know which problems are normal and which are unhealthy.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=k1BFHYtZlAU

[thefuzz]

Quit being a bully.

Here's the situation.

My wife and I married at 18. We are both 28 now.

Her family fuging hates me, my family fuging hates her.

 

 

I have seen this a ton, especially when family lives close by.  There are issues, and the husband shares "issues" with his parents, son forgives the bride, but the parents don't.

 

Issues come up, daughters talks to parents about "issues" she forgives the husband, parents don't.  

 

 

My wife and I made a pact, that if there were issues, and you have to vent, better to do so to friends, rather than parents.  Parents never forgive, nor forget.

 

 

That said, I have only been married for about 15 months, but we have been together for over 9 years.  Being married isn't a walk in the park, but it can be very rewarding.

[EMSMedic79]

 

 

When is a marriage basically on the point of no return?

 

When you find her in bed with someone else. Instant deal breaker.

[dave-o]

When you check your bank account and notice your entire life savings was transfered out of the account the previous day...  Its time !!  Sure wish I hadnt of dragged my feet....  Alls I can say is be proactive and dont let her throw the first punch....

[Stumpy]

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=k1BFHYtZlAU

No poo, that song came out about a year before my parents' breakup. I remember blasting that on the living room computer after they told us. :thumbsup:

[ecu88]

No poo, that song came out about a year before my parents' breakup. I remember blasting that on the living room computer after they told us. :thumbsup:

Secretly my band of choice in middle school to beginning years of High School then Coheed came into my life IKSSE.

[Hawk]

When you find her in bed with someone else. Instant deal breaker.

 

unless she is hot...then there can be some consideration given

[heel31ok]

Ideally your wife should be your best friend. At the very least, you need to like her in addition to loving her.

 

that's what I tell my first wife.

 

[Davidson Deac II]

When you find her in bed with someone else. Instant deal breaker.

When you have to bail her out of jail because the police arrested her and her boyfriend for skinny dipping in a public park.  Happened to one of my coworkers. 

[CamMoon]

The "older" I get the less appealing marriage seems to me. It just seems like its inevitable that someone will cheat, lose interest etc. I wonder how previous generations managed to get married and stay married for 70+ years. I need answers