Porch Swing Dilemma

[Panthro]

So my parents gave my fiance and I a wedding shower present for the new house. It was a front porch swing....they assembled it and surprised us with it. (Box thrown out and non returnable too)I thought it was pretty cool but could tell my fiance had second thoughts on it.

The problem is my fiance's and my mothers taste are at two different spectrums. This porch swing has lions heads on it which I thought was pretty badass but apparently we do not having any other lion motif to go along with it.

My mother is constantly buying us small gifts all of which are kitschy and funny to me. Ugly wind-chimes, weird prayer plaques, etc....the girl puts them all away then puts them up when they come over. My fiance is pretty broken up about this because they are always overly generous and everything comes from a place of love.

So back to the issue at hand. How does she (since she has issues with it) approach them about this swing? It's going to break my mothers heart and my dads going to be pissed that he spent his Saturday putting this damned thing together...on top of that...it was a good bit of money which my parents don't really have too much of as they are throwing parties and helping with this wedding...

I told her we would paint it black and keep it up for a year then I would "break it" but she could use this as an opportunity to talk to her about buying things for our house together.

:rant:

[Jbro]

Don't tell your parents where you live.

/thread

[Darth Biscuit]

Touchy situation... proceed with caution.

In general, side with your girl... but try not to piss off/hurt your parents feelings. Maybe just sit down with them and gently explain that while you really appreciate their support, that maybe buying things of a decorative nature for someone else isn't the best gift idea. Different tastes and all...

I've been in this position, not an easy one and I don't envy you...

[Panthro]

I've already told the girl that I can see both sides. My thoughts are that its a great time to bring up the discussion and I support her 100% on having it. The issue I am going to have is how the current dilemma is handled.

[Scrumtrilescent]

Can you not take the lion heady thingy off?

[Panthro]

They are wrought iron. I wish I had welding skills instead of being so incredibly handsome

[MCP]

Forward a link to this thread to your parents, that should fix everything. :D

[Mrs Pantherfan]

is it really that bad?? I think we're gonna need a pic :) It doesn't really matter that you don't have any other motif to match it..it's outside..you'll definitely have a one of kind swing. Do you have a back deck to put it on? Could you make it more of a bench instead of a swing?

[Kettle]

there are welding shops in charlotte

[Panthro]

is it really that bad?? I think we're gonna need a pic :) It doesn't really matter that you don't have any other motif to match it..it's outside..you'll definitely have a one of kind swing. Do you have a back deck to put it on? Could you make it more of a bench instead of a swing?

This is my thought process. I also agree that ground rules on house gifts needs to be discussed.

[JakeFlake]

too bad you can't put the swing in the backyard.

[sunbunny]

Are the lion heads really that bad? Granted, they aren't my taste, but hey, my mom bought us rooster chairs that we still use.

Maybe you should have the talk with your mom about buying things, and your girl should suck up the swing this once.

[Jase]

all a matter of perspective. Do you have:

a) one too many lion head porch swings, or,

b) Too few majestic lion statues on your porch to match it?

[Panthro]

all a matter of perspective. Do you have:

a) one too many lion head porch swings, or,

b) Too few majestic lion statues on your porch to match it?

I asked if this gave me free reign to lion up the front porch....I got the look

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