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[LifeisaGarden]

We were supposed to go over to my parent's house this evening. I called my mom to let her know we would be there after the game was over. My Mom informed me they were going to a Christmas party. I was like "WTF MOM! We're supposed to be coming over to celebrate Christmas with y'all." She said "Our plans changed".

FML:cryin:

[charlotte49er]

This will cheer you up!

[Jangler]

Not having to see the family for a few more hours around Christmas, how is this a bad thing?

[TruCatzFan]

We were supposed to go over to my parent's house this evening. I called my mom to let her know we would be there after the game was over. My Mom informed me they were going to a Christmas party. I was like "WTF MOM! We're supposed to be coming over to celebrate Christmas with y'all." She said "Our plans changed".

FML:cryin:

Thats just fuggin rude! I'd take back her fuggin presents and tell her that your damn budget changed!

[LifeisaGarden]

Dang. Did you get food poisoning from the family food?

[sunbunny]

Honestly, that would have hurt my feelings.

[tarheelblue89]

I had to work today, missed visiting the family I actually enjoy being around, missed football, got to eat cold pizza (actually a plus).

[LifeisaGarden]

Honestly, that would have hurt my feelings.

It really did hurt my feelings. I didn't even know what to say. This is not the first time something like this has happened either. Several years ago I invited them to eat at my favorite restaurant because it was my birthday. There were quite a few people going & they said they were going to go. My step sister was in town and at the last minute they decided to drive to the beach for the weekend with my step sister and her husband with out telling me about it. I called & called but no one would return my calls. I was worried to death about them and then I found out they went to the beach. I was so pissed & hurt. I wish I knew why they do this kind of stuff. I swear I'm adopted.

[Jangler]

It really did hurt my feelings. I didn't even know what to say. This is not the first time something like this has happened either. Several years ago I invited them to eat at my favorite restaurant because it was my birthday. There were quite a few people going & they said they were going to go. My step sister was in town and at the last minute they decided to drive to the beach for the weekend with my step sister and her husband with out telling me about it. I called & called but no one would return my calls. I was worried to death about them and then I found out they went to the beach. I was so pissed & hurt. I wish I knew why they do this kind of stuff. I swear I'm adopted.

not everybody likes Chars. :D

[Darth Biscuit]

My inlaws (before they got divorced) were like this... very rude and inconsiderate to our plans. They would go off for weeks and not tell anyone, anytime we went out they would expect us to pay or at best ask for split checks, etc. Really hurt my wifes feelings many times. It was mainly the doing of my MiL... she's used to getting her way. When my FiL left her, the real world came as a big shock.

[thefuzz]

Don't speak to them again about anything until you tell them exactly what they did, and how it made you feel.

Most folks sweep things like this under the rug, if you do that, don't complain next time they pull that ish again.

[ladypanther]

Wow LIAG....that is unbelievably bad. That is very hurtful.

The key to dealing with dysfunctional family members is to change your expectations.. Stop expecting them to act like decent human beings They don't...not because you do not deserve it...but because they do not have it in them.

I am sorry to hear that for you. You do deserve much better. I hope you had a nice Christmas surrounded by good people.

[sharkkiller]

Next time they invite you over, wait until the last minute and then don't go. But don't tell them, just don't show up. When they ask where you were, tell them your plans changed. Do it every time until they get the message.

Also, don't expect anything from them. Always make alternate plans with your family. If they want to be included, make them come to your house. That way you are not ruining your whole night because they decided to be a-holes.

[thefuzz]

Next time they invite you over, wait until the last minute and then don't go. But don't tell them, just don't show up. When they ask where you were, tell them your plans changed. Do it every time until they get the message.

Also, don't expect anything from them. Always make alternate plans with your family. If they want to be included, make them come to your house. That way you are not ruining your whole night because they decided to be a-holes.

IMO that's a childish game, and you are then as immature as they are.

Talk to them about it, and work it out before it becomes an ongoing fight with very close family members.